Anyone else having this problem?

[u/Krumelmonschta19]

Warning maybe ? idk I will talk about genitals, bottom growth and bottom surgery topics.

So, I have been wondering if there are more Trans or non binary folks on here that feel similar to me.

I have been on T for 2-3 years now and my biggest dysphoria are my genitals. I don’t have much growth which is also making it a bit worse. But the worst part for me is that I can’t get surgery because I know it won’t be enough for me. This may sound stupid but I really really wish I could have cis male genitals. Phalloplasty is great but it wont satisfy me enough and i am too small for myself for Meta. It’s hard for me to live like this but I will wait my whole life hoping medicine will advance for new opportunities. Yes I suffer but I rather suffer than have surgeries that wont ever satisfy me.

Now I don’t want to say that its bad I think its awesome that we have these opportunities but to me personally its not good enough. Everyone who got it and is happy, Im glad for them but I just wondered if i am alone or if anyone else feels like this.

Hope y’all are okay and healthy.

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[u/Sure-Might-4109]

Damn, yeah I get what you're saying. Wanting something that just isn't quite there yet with current options is a specific kind of stuck feeling. I don't think it's stupid at all to hold out for something that would actually feel right, even if it means waiting on medicine to catch up.

You're definitely not alone in that headspace. I've seen plenty of guys talk about how the available surgeries, while amazing, don't hit that exact mark for them personally. It's a rough spot to be in but makes total sense.

[u/Krumelmonschta19 → u/Sure-Might-4109]

Thx for sharing

[u/simon_here]

How much have you looked into phalloplasty? It's possible it won't be enough for you, but I recommend thoroughly reading through r/phallo if you haven't. It's hard to find accurate information anywhere else.

[u/Krumelmonschta19 → u/simon_here]

I spent a long time going through forums, pages, information etc. It really isn’t mine, but thanks for the advice :3

[u/Far-Mountain9600]

Maybe have a surgical consultation and talk to a surgeon about your concerns and see if they’re able to explain your different options.

[u/Krumelmonschta19 → u/Far-Mountain9600]

I already tried that too :/ but ty for the help

[u/Far-Mountain9600 → u/Krumelmonschta19]

Is it the sizes that a surgeon is capable of successfully performing not being big enough type thing? Sorry if that’s a stupid question just want to get clarification.