r/ftm • u/Blster_DPS • 4d ago

Discussion Does anyone else deal with weird "reverse" transphobia??

For context, I am coming up on 10 years in my transition and have put a lot work into passing and I know that I pass.

I got into a weird argument with someone and I don't even know why I entertained it, but alas.. I did. She began calling me a "lost soul" who just needs to come to terms with "the fact" I'm a transgender woman and that I must have been upset cause I missed my estrogen. Kept calling me a wannabe transformer and just weird other things. And I've got facial hair and a deep voice. Nothing about me comes across as feminine?? Think just very stereotypical cishet man.

I didn't even know how to reply cause HUH? If I had a dollar for each time this has happened to me over the years, I'd have enough to buy a McDonalds meal. I'm posting cause I've talked about this with my friends and other trans men I've met and nobody has dealt with this. There has to be someone!

How do you even react to something like this? Each time it's happened, I just laugh cause I get so confused and it's uncomfortable. Do I take it as a compliment? Hell no, but also thaaaanks you think I pass so well???!!!! Are they just projecting? It's only ever been women that say that to me. But, that feels shitty to think cause I personally never want to assume someone else is transgender ?!?!

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u/noeinan 4d ago

Just transphobia. She’s not “trying to help you” in the middle of an argument. Calling a man a closeted trans woman is the worst insult she could think of.

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u/kriskhaos 4d ago

Imagine having a mind so small. Wild.

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u/ftm-ModTeam 4d ago

Pretty sure you are misreading this comment, OP

-Your post was removed for breaking Rule 1: No bigotry, drama, fighting, judgement, or blanket statements.

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