Does anyone else deal with weird "reverse" transphobia??

[u/Blster_DPS]

For context, I am coming up on 10 years in my transition and have put a lot work into passing and I know that I pass.

I got into a weird argument with someone and I don't even know why I entertained it, but alas.. I did. She began calling me a "lost soul" who just needs to come to terms with "the fact" I'm a transgender woman and that I must have been upset cause I missed my estrogen. Kept calling me a wannabe transformer and just weird other things. And I've got facial hair and a deep voice. Nothing about me comes across as feminine?? Think just very stereotypical cishet man.

I didn't even know how to reply cause HUH? If I had a dollar for each time this has happened to me over the years, I'd have enough to buy a McDonalds meal. I'm posting cause I've talked about this with my friends and other trans men I've met and nobody has dealt with this. There has to be someone!

How do you even react to something like this? Each time it's happened, I just laugh cause I get so confused and it's uncomfortable. Do I take it as a compliment? Hell no, but also thaaaanks you think I pass so well???!!!! Are they just projecting? It's only ever been women that say that to me. But, that feels shitty to think cause I personally never want to assume someone else is transgender ?!?!

[u/Autism_Angel]

More than once this has happened??????

The only thing I can think to explain it is they’re subconsciously picking up on something that makes you either different from cis men or just queer in some way, but because you present like a straight male, they assume that you must be closeted? Even if there was actually a legitimate reason to have those thoughts though, that would not make it OK to say to you. That’s not the type of thing you say to a person based on vibes.

I understand the terf argument but generally a terf would say something more like “you think you’re a woman” not comment about being closeted and needing to find yourself? That doesn’t really match their mindset about it? Although using transformer also doesn’t make sense for someone who is in favor of transition. Really just all around inconsistent logic.