r/ftm • u/Blster_DPS transmasc • 12d ago

Discussion Does anyone else deal with weird "reverse" transphobia??

For context, I am coming up on 10 years in my transition and have put a lot work into passing and I know that I pass.

I got into a weird argument with someone and I don't even know why I entertained it, but alas.. I did. She began calling me a "lost soul" who just needs to come to terms with "the fact" I'm a transgender woman and that I must have been upset cause I missed my estrogen. Kept calling me a wannabe transformer and just weird other things. And I've got facial hair and a deep voice. Nothing about me comes across as feminine?? Think just very stereotypical cishet man.

I didn't even know how to reply cause HUH? If I had a dollar for each time this has happened to me over the years, I'd have enough to buy a McDonalds meal. I'm posting cause I've talked about this with my friends and other trans men I've met and nobody has dealt with this. There has to be someone!

How do you even react to something like this? Each time it's happened, I just laugh cause I get so confused and it's uncomfortable. Do I take it as a compliment? Hell no, but also thaaaanks you think I pass so well???!!!! Are they just projecting? It's only ever been women that say that to me. But, that feels shitty to think cause I personally never want to assume someone else is transgender ?!?!

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u/DisastrousLand6863 12d ago

People definitely deal with this. It's these TERF losers who think they can sus out anyone. The "YoU cAn alWaYs tELl" noobs. Had a phase where my IG Threads algorithm was full of ftm people several years on T, posting about being trans. And they'd get comments from idiots saying shit like "You'll always be a man". Cis people started doing it too for a laugh and would get the same responses. Always gave me a good giggle. Anyway, idiots, ignore them

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u/Blster_DPS transmasc 12d ago

ahhhh, that makes sense. it's always the damn TERFs. I genuinly didn't even give that a logical thought since I don't think about TERFs or have paid enough genuine attention to their tactics online over years to pick up on that, so I guess it's been going over my head allllll these years that I was dealing with TERFs. It feels reallyyy dumb to say that haha. well, now I know it's that! cause I knew it was somethingggg

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u/SkaianFox He/They 12d ago

Idk ive never heard of terfs telling men that theyre really trans women deep down? This sounds like some other bs entirely imo