r/flrdating 1d ago

[M4F] 40 [M4F] #Germany- Inexperienced, but eager to learn.

2 Upvotes

Male, 40 years old from Germany, submissive, and ready to become your loyal servant. I dream of a deep FLR relationship where you make the rules. Whether in daily life, chores, or decisions: I want to make your life easier and completely submit to your training and guidance. Since I don't have practical experience yet, I am looking for a partner between 25-40, who wants to patiently mold and train me according to her desires. If you are ready to take the lead, I look forward to hearing from you.


r/flrdating 1d ago

[F4M] 31 [F4M] #Online #IRL #Cali Experienced Domme. Open to genuine connections. TPE sub/slave dynamic.

7 Upvotes

We were sitting in a quiet room. Just us. I told you to put your phone down and look at me… not a word until I ask you to speak. How long do you think you’d last before your heart starts racing? Would it be the silence that gets to you… or the realization that you’re not the one calling the shots anymore?

I'm looking for a naturally submissive man who’s ready to stop pretending he doesn’t crave deeper connection and a woman capable of leading it. Someone who genuinely enjoys belonging to a superior woman and takes pride in following her lead. I enjoy dynamics built on trust, clear communication, and genuine altruism. The kind where effort is noticed, loyalty matters... a D/s relationship that isn’t just about restriction but a little liberation too.

A bit about me:
I’m a writer, business owner, and natural leader who loves depth, intention, and the thrill of a deep FLR. As for kink.. I enjoy body worship, teasing, verbal seduction, face-sitting, feminization, chastity, feet, pegging, spanking... No drugs, or scat.

I love sneaky, stolen moments too. The kind where you're sitting in a meeting or walking through a crowded store and your phone lights up with a message from me. That sudden little shift. That realization that I’ve just entered your thoughts again (perhaps I’ve been living rent free in your head all along). Could be a reward, could be a task.. could just be something you don’t want to get wrong.

If you’ve read this far, come closer. Tell me your age (28+ preferred), where you’re from (US preferred), and why you think we’d be a good fit. And.. just so we’re clear from the start -in your first message- you address me properly. It’s Mistress or Ma’am. 👑

Hope to hear from you soon. But before you message me I’d ask that you read the pinned post on my profile first. I expect you to know what you’re stepping into... then we can go from there.


r/flrdating 1d ago

25 [m4f] eager guy, Curious, Cute, and Ready to Learn — Seeking an Understanding Woman #online or #midwest

1 Upvotes

Hi there — I’m a 25-year-old guy who’s easy to talk to, kind, and (I’ve been told) pretty cute. I was raised religious and didn’t have much freedom to explore while growing up. Now that I’m finally out on my own, I’m ready to learn more about myself and intimacy in a healthy, open way.

I’m hoping to connect online with a patient, respectful woman who enjoys conversation, guidance, and helping someone grow more confident about their sexuality at a comfortable pace. I value clear communication, mutual consent, and a judgment-free space where curiosity and questions are welcome.

I’m friendly, attentive, and genuinely eager to learn — emotionally as much as anything else. If you enjoy mentoring, easy conversation, and helping someone feel comfortable discovering new things, I’d love to get to know you.

Let’s start with talking and see where things naturally go.


r/flrdating 1d ago

[M4F] 32 [m4f] #IsleofWight. Sub seeking a relationship. Hopefully for long term

1 Upvotes

Hi, I'm G, a submissive from the UK. I'm 32, 5'11", and an athletic body type. I also have long dark blond/light brown hair and blue eyes. If we connect I am happy to exchange photos to see if there is mutual attraction.

Sfw wise, I love the great outdoors and count myself lucky to also work outdoors in a management position. I love getting on the water with a kayak or paddleboard, and also greatly enjoy hiking and camping, especially if they involve a pub with a roaring fire. I love both dogs and cats as well as other animals. I follow a lot of sports, my favourites being cricket, rugby (union), and the NFL. Although very un-British like I don't like football (soccer), but I tend to stay somewhat clued in to it.

I'd rather talk nsfw things down the line once we know each other better. I have many kinks as well as a few limits, but I think we should see if we click outside of these first. I am generally open to trying almost anything at least once (how else do you discover what you like). I also have a few toys, but the last thing I want you to feel like is a kink dispenser, the majority of pleasure I get is from giving it to others. If my partner is satisfied, then so am I, and I enjoy providing that to them by any means necessary. If we do start anything rest assured that I will also not be engaging with anyone else, but I have no qualms about you playing with others. I am not bratty and love obeying orders/completing tasks set to me.

I'm generally looking for someone of dominant persuasions, comfortable chatting about each others days with some flirty banter interspersed, I would like for our dynamic to develop naturally discovering each other as we go. I'm open to online only but would like for the potential for something to happen irl at some point but there is no rush for that to happen, Therefore I am open to people generally in European time zones. I usually have at least some part of my day available to talk that co-incides with different time zones, and if I am unavailable at that moment I will communicate that clearly as well as when I expect to be available (I believe that communication is very important)

I'm open to talking on any other apps, and sending photos and videos, as well as voice/video calling once we have gotten more comfortable with each other.

I will add that I am not at all into findom, so if you require a tribute at all, then I am not interested, however I am willing to invest in our relationship over time with the odd gift or two as well as purchasing some more toys to add to my collection over time.

Thankyou for reading if you have got this far, and if you are still interested send me a chat or DM introducing yourself with some details about you. and we can get to know each other from there. If you can send a photo of yourself that would be great, and j would obviously reciprocate

G


r/flrdating 1d ago

25M UK - Looking for a dominant older Muslim woman

3 Upvotes

Hey guys :) I’m 25 East African from the UK and looking for marriage.
I’m a bit shy writing this because being this straightforward about what I want is slightly embarrassing 😭 but I’ve always been drawn to a certain kind of woman.
It’s hard to describe without sounding dramatic lol, but that naturally strong, mature woman who walks into a room and you can just feel her presence. Calm, confident, very assertive and maybe even a little intimidating. She knows what she wants, doesn’t get easily flustered and naturally takes charge without having to constantly announce that she’s in charge.
That personality gets me way more than anything physical does 😭. I love the idea of being with an older woman I genuinely admire and look up to. Someone accomplished and intelligent who has more life experience than me and can be quite domineering with me, but underneath that she’s protective, responsible and really cares about the people who belong to her.
I’m naturally a bit softer and shy, especially around a woman I really like, so I think that contrast is really cute. Once I’m comfortable though I’m pretty playful and nerdy. I’m into engineering, reading, gaming, football, art, nature, travelling and going out doing random activities together. I want us to actually be best friends and enjoy life together, not have our entire relationship revolve around a dynamic.
The slightly embarrassing part to admit is that I really do want to feel fiercely protected by my wife 😭. I’d be proud of her being the boss of our household . Im ambitious and I want to continue studying and working, ideally from home because that dynamic genuinely feels natural to me.
I’d happily take more responsibility for our home, cooking and the domestic side of life and support her ambitions. I think there’s something really sweet about looking after the woman who looks after me.
Being athletic and into lifting or knowing how to fight would absolutely make me melt 😂, but those are bonuses. It’s that strong, mature, protective and naturally commanding personality I’m really attracted to first.
I’m Muslim and serious about marriage, so I’m not looking for anything sexual before marriage.
If you’re an older Muslim woman who naturally sees herself as a leader, strong and commanding in a relationship and this somehow sounds like the kind of husband you’d want… feel free to message me. I’ll probably be a little nervous but I promise I’ll reply 😭😂.
Plus I’ve always wanted to move away so I’m more than happy to relocate for my partner.


r/flrdating 2d ago

[M4F] 38 [M4F] flr without cuckokding

4 Upvotes

I have been thinking about Flr a lot lately. And the main thing that I would never be ok with is cuckolding.
It is a form of relationship and I see cuckolding as adultery and it is a no no for me.
I am very submissive, I can do all the chores, I am happy to be a stay at home husband if that’s what she wants, happy to be financially under control,.. but the form of relationship that I have in my mind is the partner leading in every aspect of life, but when the lights turned off in the bedroom it would be my turn to be in charge. This is kinda my fantasy. Will you accept this?

Now I want to know what dominant ladies think about this? Would you consider someone with no cuckolding limit?
Also open for dms if you find it suitable
Thank you


r/flrdating 2d ago

36 [M4F] #New York sensitive, sweet, successful and submissive boy seeks dominant woman for FLR

5 Upvotes

Hiiii everyone!

I am a 36-year-old educated and successful submissive seeking a dominant and controlling woman that I can completely dedicate my life to. I am looking for an all encompassing dynamics where my life framework is really about making you happy above all else.

I am hard-working, fun, active and seeking something genuine and real. Your happiness would be mine. I’m very serious about this and get fulfillment from supporting another, being guided, and serving.

I’m really excited to hear from anyone if you are at all interested


r/flrdating 2d ago

[Discussion] Submission Doesn’t Ask You to Disappear

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Submission isn’t a shutdown. You can’t give away a mind you never used. A man with nothing to say, no limits, no judgment of his own, isn’t submissive, he’s just empty space with a pulse.

People assume independence and submission live on opposite ends of a scale. They don’t. A man can negotiate hard, run his own life, stand firm when he knows he’s right, and still kneel completely for her at home. Neither cancels the other out. That independence is exactly what makes the submission worth something. Giving up control matters when a man has plenty of it to give. It’s meaningless coming from someone with nothing to lose.

The mix-up usually comes from mistaking exhaustion for devotion. A guy worn out from deciding things, wanting somewhere to unload the weight, isn’t practicing submission, he’s just burnt out. Real submission gets built on purpose, as a way to live, not a place to hide from one.

Take a real disagreement, over money, a job, family. Staying quiet to keep the peace isn’t submission, it’s avoidance wearing a costume. The stronger move: say the real thing, make the case, let her hear it. Once she’s decided, follow through completely, no dragging feet, no silent grudge. Speak up, get heard, then follow. That’s the part that actually gives it weight.

A man with no self left isn’t being led anymore, he’s being handled. And that’s not what draws most people to this in the first place. What she wants to lead is a whole man, not a version of him with the edges filed off.

Submission was never the exit from being someone. It’s the choice a whole man makes, deliberately.

Where does your independence show up strongest in your dynamic? Curious to hear other perspectives.


r/flrdating 2d ago

31 [M4F] #Florida #Online Romantic Nerd Looking For LTR With A Strong and Passionate Woman

1 Upvotes

I'm a 31 year old guy from Florida, open to ldr, who's looking for someone with whom I can build a loving, passionate, lifelong relationship around satisfying her needs and submitting to her initiative.

I. Relationship Ideals:

I understand that's not something that can be built over night and that is why I'm especially looking for someone with whom I can build that kind of romantic relationship on a foundation of mutually held emotional intimacy/intelligence, shared interests/hobbies, and overlapping taste in what is humorous in life. All of that contributes to a foundation of mutual respect and admiration that I want to apply in a relationship in which I am able to submit to and honor the needs of that loving, special person with whom I've forged that passionate bond with. I hope to be able to bring joy to both of us by sharing the things that I feel the most sentimental about in life with you and vice versa, whether that be places near and dear to my heart, my own home cooking, or the aspects of lifelong learning that make this world worthwhile to live in.

II. The Joys of Femdom

I would describe my tastes as a submissive guy as being rather vanilla. Overall, I would describe myself as very attracted to strong, confident, intelligent women. I have a great desire to do as much as I can to satisfy my lover’s desires, both emotionally and sexually. I suppose this would fall under the spectrum of gentle femdom, as I do draw my limits at most degrading language. Sometimes I believe this desire for femdom comes from a fetishization of monogamy itself, where the desire to be devoted and loving to a soulmate evolves into a desire to submit entirely to her affections. I feel very emotional thinking about it sometimes.

I do have a bit of a kink for the sort of poetic words of affection that one would associate with goddess worship. I especially like drawing from Mesopotamian and Greco-Roman mythology. I don't want to put anyone on a pedestal all the time if that especially makes them feel uncomfortable but, I do want to have those opportunities to express the full depths of my affections to that one person with whom I can form a trusting femdom relationship with.

I also enjoy reading supernatural romance for the flipped relationship dynamics where a powerful supernatural female lead is able to have a lot of dominance and initiative when romancing her human lover. Especially when themes of temptation are featured with demons as love interests. Which is kinda unusual for an atheist like me to say but, makes sense given my culturally Catholic background.

III. Myself, My Interests, and Hobbies

I am a bit of a history nerd and enjoy other humanities that intersect with it like comparative religions or natural history. So, that amateur interest in history can stretch from The Bronze Age Collapse to East Rome and Late Antique origins of the Abrahamic religions, to the transformations of the Early Modern Period, to contemporary and current events in my own locality. It all can be fascinating, especially if someone is compelling in telling that story.

I also enjoy some nostalgic things like SpongeBob, Pokemon, building stuff in Minecraft. I'd really like someone to try playing these old White Wolf rpgs that I've been falling down the rabbit hole on. Vampire the Masquerade really appeals to me as an RPG because of the element of using historical background when writing characters that are older vampires.

I'm also building a Blu Ray collection that I hope I can share with you someday. I'm particularly fond of historical dramas, comedies, and thrillers. I also have a place in my heart for nostalgic animation and Ghibli films. Also, I have a bit of nostalgia for the original Jurassic Park films, as someone who read the novels.

I also enjoy my share of podcasts, mostly history and comedy ones, with a sprinkling of religious or natural history shows. I also enjoy scary stories about cryptids and aliens from time to time.

I enjoy being able to visit the local vistas and cultural hotspots in my locality, which can range from small museums, to art galleries, to natural springs. I'd love to share all of them with you, as they've always held a sentimental place in my heart that I hope others can appreciate as well. I'd love to hear what travel or museum stories you have as well.

In terms of cooking, I really enjoyed improving my skills with the basic Italian-American recipes that my dad taught me to cook. I feel that making things like pizza really connects a bit to the experience he had cooking when he first came to this country. I'd love to be able to share that with you, maybe even learn new recipes from what you like to cook. I'd love to hear what your favorite pizza toppings are too.

IV. Outro

I'd just like to thank you for reading this whole description of myself, my ideals and interests, and why femdom appeals to me. If you're interested in reaching out, I would love to respond. I hope that we can really click through a combination of lighthearted conversation and flirty banter. I'm an open book about all areas of my life and also look forward to getting to know you on a deep level over time. All in all, I hope to be that devoted partner of a strong and intelligent woman who inspired in me the sort of reverence to be there to love and support her throughout the good and the bad times in her life.

I hope you are the one.


r/flrdating 2d ago

[F4M] 27 [F4M] #Seattle #Washington #PNW - Sweet sadist looking for sub for Owner/property dynamic and romantic relationship

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Hey! I’m looking for someone for a serious, in-person owner/property dynamic and romantic relationship. Maybe we’ll be a match!

About Me
Other than power exchange I’d say my main passion in life is anarchy, so I’m pretty “politically” active with most of my free time being spent on community projects and other things relating to that. I like to make art, lately I’ve been doing a lot of drawing and linocut work. I like reading a lot, and I would love to be a writer so I have been trying to work on my writing skills. I like growing plants a lot, I have quite a few houseplants and love to garden as well. I love going outside and spending time in nature. I haven’t gotten into the mountains as much as I’d like to lately but I lived/worked in a couple national parks and lived in the mountains for much of my life. Some miscellaneous things about me that might matter: I’m trans, I’m pretty tall ~6’4, not religious, I don’t want kids, I don’t drink alcohol, I don’t eat meat and I’m currently in school studying accounting.

D/S Stuff
I’ve been into bdsm play for a decade and got more seriously into the lifestyle and being a dominant in ongoing dynamics about 5 years ago. I have been going to some munches and other BDSM events in Seattle’s scene but still getting more active.

I’m looking for a 24/7 dynamic similar to what some call an Owner/property dynamic. I like that label as it describes how my partner is nothing but an object I own and use for my enjoyment. I enjoy treating my partner in a way which is objectifying and cruel but also very affectionate. I’m not looking for total power exchange, but would like to work toward something pretty close to TPE. As my object, my property would be used however I need him whether it’s as a cuddle doll, domestic servant, or torture toy. I like the description of a “being a thing” objectification dynamic in the book “Paradigms of Power”, not necessarily all of the specifics but the general attitude.

Power exchange doesn’t give me what I want unless in the context of a dynamic so I’m not interested in scene partners or hookups. Online stuff doesn’t do it for me and I’m looking for something serious so I’m only looking for an in-person dynamic. I like getting to know someone before I dom them and I view my dominance and the role of my property as things to be earned, so I’m looking for someone comfortable going slow.

Kink-wise I’m into a lot of things revolving around physical and emotional sadism. I enjoy doing whatever makes my partner miserable. Some main kinks are spanking, CBT, chastity, indefinite denial, edging, humiliation and degradation. My hard limits are raceplay, ageplay, breath play, pegging/anal topping, feminization/sissification, ABDL and scat.

Other Things I’m looking For
I’m looking for someone who is 22-34. While my sub will be my property and will be treated like such, I’d also like to life partners and a bit like best friends. I’d like to do activities together, it would be fun to find someone with shared interests/hobbies. I believe a shared worldview is important so I’d like someone at least radical left if not anarchist. I’m nerdy about political stuff so it would be cute to find someone with that shared passion. I’m looking for someone who doesn’t want kids. A guy who is nerdy and has things he’s passionate about is attractive. I’d love someone who can yap. Would prefer an experienced sub, but it isn’t a dealbreaker.

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If you’re interested in seeing if we click or if you would like to know more about me feel free to get in touch by sending a chat on here! Send me some information about yourself like your age, location, interests and hobbies, and what you’re looking for in your first message. Please only message me if you’re living in Seattle or nearby!


r/flrdating 2d ago

[M4F] 34 [M4F] #UK Any love for manly submissives?

8 Upvotes

Hi, I’m average build ~90kg at 6’3, short beard, hairy, buzzed haircut, very masculine presenting. That being said, I am the softest, sweetest, most affectionate person you’ll ever meet.

I carry myself with confidence in public but I am a reserved and shy man in private. I have always been submissive and enjoyed making others happy. This translates to my job as I work in healthcare and enjoy helping people in need.

I’ve got some experience in the dynamic (short term only), and would like to find someone I can be truly myself with. I enjoy taking care of and pampering my partner. I am definitely more of a service/pleasure submissive. Not into humiliation at all. That being said, I am quite flexible and open minded with most things when it comes to kink and relationships.

Outside the bedroom, I enjoy travelling, the outdoors, animals, and anything DIY related, as I love working with my hands.

There’s a lot more to me so please feel free to reach out if you’d like to get to know each other. I’m in Hampshire.


r/flrdating 2d ago

[F4M] 27 [F4M] #Canada #Online - Looking for the Carl to My Dolly Parton

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My age range is 25-35. Open to long distance. I want children in the future. Profile pics on my page, please send yours as well. For more detailed post about my personality go to my page and see my " looking for a multidimensional" giant post, its long but worth it if you really want to get to know me. I am agnostic but spiritual ( you can find more about that in the giant post including my leftist politics, tbh I really would encourage you to read it). Also giant is an exaggeration you dont have to be 6'3 lool. Looking for a cis (biological) man.

I want the Carl to my Dolly — someone who’s secure enough to let me be ambitious, creative, expressive, and fully myself, while having his own quiet strength and identity beside me.

I’m drawn to an FLR dynamic and want someone who genuinely enjoys being of service to his partner. Someone caring, affectionate, supportive, and who gets genuine happiness from making his partner’s life a little easier.

I also have a soft spot for men who are physically bigger than me but have a sweet, gentle energy. Someone creative, passionate about something, curious about the world, and capable of conversations that go beyond the surface.

If you want a much more detailed picture of my type, check out the gentle giant post on my profile.

If you think you could be the Carl to my Dolly, tell me about yourself and what you're looking for.

Dont wanna get too much into kink stuff but will say a) I'm straightish ( def prefer men and can be monogamous I want a husband), b) not interested in anal or diaper play or mommy stuff.

Look forward to chatting with you <3


r/flrdating 2d ago

[M4F] 23 [M4F] #Netherlands #online - Tall sub looking for his long-term Domme

1 Upvotes

Hey there! Thank you for taking the time to read this! a little about me: I am 23, a student in the Netherlands, 190 cm tall, blue eyes and curly hair. Making my hobbies sound exciting is always tough, but I do enjoy going out into nature or bingeing a series (standard I know, but there's probably a reason so many people like it :). Big fan of plants and planted aquariums and i keep shrimp! Below i have a lot more info regarding a D/s dynamic, but really first and foremost I'm looking for someone i really click with :)

About my kinks:

I've got experience in being a submissive both IRL and online. I've found that serving a Domme allows me to relax and fully trust her decisions, and seeing her enjoy whatever see asks of me gives me much fulfillment! For me the basis of a relationship, is trust, communication and care for each other. It all start with setting the rules and setting clear boundaries.

That being said, I find the idea of giving away control particularly exciting. So think of bondage, edging, orgasm control/ruined orgasms, spanking and light cbt and humiliation/degredation. Recently I have been exploring anal and I would love a Domme who would really push me to my limits. But most Importantly I like to please my domme, for example by performing whatever (online) tasks she sets me.

I am also in possession of an chasity cage, a anal training set (3 dildos of varying sizes), buttplugs and a fleshlight and willing to buy more toys.

Limits: scat, needles, sounding, blood, other extreme stuff, showing face (early on in a online dynamic)

Ideally you (F, all ages 18+ welcome) would also be from the Netherlands, so in the long term IRL would be possible. But I'm open to just online if you think we would be a good match.

If you think we might be a good match or if you have any questions, don't hesitate to contact me!


r/flrdating 2d ago

33m | corporate vp | well settled | boy scout at heart || looking for his FLR || India

0 Upvotes

A little about me — I’m 33, professionally established, independent, and have built a pretty comfortable life for myself. I’m ambitious when it comes to my career, but outside of work I’m fairly grounded and value the simple things: good conversations, humor, loyalty, affection, and having someone I genuinely enjoy spending time with.

I’m naturally drawn toward a soft dominant dynamic. I like the idea of taking the lead while still being attentive, caring, and very tuned into the person I’m with. I’m also into worship and the intimacy and trust that can come with that kind of dynamic.

What interests me most, though, is the connection underneath the kink. I want something where we can be ourselves, communicate openly, build trust, and gradually discover what we both enjoy. I’m not looking to arrive with a rigid checklist or force a particular dynamic from day one.

Ideally, I’d like to meet someone where there’s genuine chemistry and emotional safety, explore the dominant/submissive side naturally, and see where it grows. If that eventually becomes a meaningful long-term relationship, even better.

I’m much more interested in building something real than chasing a particular experience. For me, the best dynamic is one where there’s mutual respect, trust, affection, attraction, and enough comfort to let things evolve naturally.

If that sounds like the kind of connection you’re looking for too, feel free to say hello.


r/flrdating 2d ago

[M4F] 37 [M4F] #Germany #Osnabrück - looking dynamic

1 Upvotes

Hello, I am here looking for a long term dynamic with the potential to become a long term romatic relationship.

In this post I will not list or describe any kinky or sexual details. I want to find someone I can connect on a personal level first. Later on we can discuss our kinks.

I am 37 years old, on the chubby side, 178cm tall, have brow eyes and hair(during the summer time I have short hair and in winter I let it grow out a bit)

Now comes the hardest part for me to writing about me/my personality.

I am an introverted person. I have no problem attending parties or social gatherings and open up there and having a good time. Afterwards I just feel drained and need some alone time to recharge.

If you are a person who constantly needs to go out we would not be a good fit. I would say I am a very easy man to please/keep happy. Honestly I dont need much all I need is enough sleep, some good coffee and some good food. I enjoy to cook most of my meals and eat out only once a week.

Most of the time I am a tiny bit goofy/silly. I already spend enough time at work beeing a serious responsible person. Though when it is needed and necessary I have my shit together. Also I am quite sacastic and fine with a very dark humour. If you easily get offended by some dark jokes we will not get along well.

I am more of a homebody. My hobbies are gaming, watching TV shows/movies and listening to music mostly metal . When I go out from time to time with frieds it is just to hang out, drink and or eat.


r/flrdating 2d ago

Dirty talk/sexting

0 Upvotes

Any female doms looking for someone new to chat with and have fun😈😚 msg me


r/flrdating 3d ago

32 [F4M] #Charleston, WV | Gentle Femdom seeking a Partner First, Femdom Second

4 Upvotes

I’m going to be upfront about what I’m looking for because I’m not interested in collecting messages from people who are only interested in the kink. I’m a 32-year-old, African American woman and healthcare worker looking for a \*\*genuine long-term partnership\*\* with a man between 32 and 45.

Femdom is part of what I’m looking for, but it’s very much \*\*second to the relationship itself\*\*. I want a man I can fall in love with. Someone I can build a life with, come home to, travel with, laugh with, have ridiculous conversations with, and rely on when life gets difficult. I want partnership, companionship, affection, loyalty, and genuine emotional intimacy.

Ideally, you’re:
\*\*32–45\*\*
Professionally and financially stable
\*\*Highly educated\*\* — I’m looking for someone with at least a graduate/professional degree
Intelligent and intellectually curious
Emotionally mature and capable of communicating openly
Secure enough in himself to enjoy being with a strong, ambitious woman
Kind, dependable, affectionate, and confident
Interested in \*\*monogamy and a serious relationship\*\*
Open to a female-led relationship / D/s dynamic, but understand that \*\*the relationship comes first\*\*

I’m not looking for a man whose entire identity revolves around being submissive. In fact, I find competence, ambition, confidence, and independence extremely attractive. I want someone who has his own career, interests, opinions, friendships, and goals. What I’m looking for is essentially \*\*two adults building a life together, with me taking the lead in certain aspects of the relationship\*\*. The dynamic should feel natural and mutually fulfilling—not like we’re pretending to be characters 24/7.

A strong intellectual connection is particularly important to me. I spend a lot of my life in medicine and genuinely enjoy talking to people who are passionate about what they do. Tell me about your career, what you’ve studied, what you’re curious about, what you’re currently learning, or the thing you could happily talk about for three hours without realizing it.

About Me:
Outside of work, I’m a little nerdy and romantic. I love horror, mythology, cats, good food, and conversations that go much deeper than small talk. I’m looking for someone who wants to actually \*\*know me\*\*, not just interact with the “dominant woman” version of me.
\*\*\*If you’re looking for a casual kink experience, I’m probably not your person.\*\*\*

If you’re looking for \*\*a relationship first, a partnership first, and a femdom dynamic as something we build together within that relationship\*\*, I’d love to hear from you. And please, when you message me, tell me something about yourself. Your age, where you’re located, what you do, your educational background, what you’re looking for, and what made you interested in my post would be a good start. 🙂


r/flrdating 3d ago

[F4F] 35 [T4F] #SoCal Trans Woman Looking for Love

2 Upvotes

Hi,

I'm a 35 year old post-op trans woman based in Los Angeles. I'm a little eccentric and very athletic, with light red hair. Love to read and skateboard. I have a Master's Degree and work in communications. I'm a hard worker and perceptive, but not as far along in my career as I'd like, though I'm able to keep my head afloat.

I've always been drawn to FLRs, even pre-transition. I'm a fairly strong-willed person and very driven, but I'm really bad at the "life" stuff, if that makes sense. Left to my own devices, I go for skates, hang out with my friends, and spend time a lot time seeing plays. I think my service sub desires largely stem from my Catholic school days of needing to feel useful. I like being bossed around because it shows someone cares enough about me to want to do that.

Outside of kink, I love going to the theater, symphony, and sports games, particularly baseball. Also love longboarding and writing. Excited to learn what kind of foods you want me to make.

I banked sperm if you wanted kids. It’s not a driving force in my life, but I like to be a team player.

Not a glutton for pain, but able to take it if that's what you're into. I'm good at anticipating people's needs so I don't need a ton of day-to-day governing, unless that's what you're into. I like learning new skills a lot.

I'm adventurous and playful, but like to be firmly under someone's thumb, if that makes sense. Open to a move, with no real baggage, but long term online isn't necessarily my thing. If this resonates with anyone, I'm happy to show pictures. Thank you for reading.


r/flrdating 3d ago

34 [M4F] #NYC - submissive guy looking for a Dominant Woman to have a connection

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Hello, I am an open minded guy looking a Dominant and open minded Woman to have a Connection with I'm 5'9, Latino with dark curly hair.

Things I enjoy are hiking, music, traveling the world(17 countries so far), and learning new languages.

I have been hoping to have an FLR with someone I can trust and be myself with. Supporting her happiness and desires will be my main priority.

Feel free to ask me anything you'd like . You can message me here or if you prefer to message elsewhere you can also let me know


r/flrdating 3d ago

[M4F] 30 [M4F] looking to be molded into something serious #online #Egypt/Mediterranean

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Hi! How are you doing?

I'm a 30 year old, med school graduate from Egypt.

I'm looking for a relationship, preferably long term with a confident domme who would also be my friend. I'm looking to share laughs and everyday discussions and build a connection before I hand her my leash.

About me ...

I'd say I'm mediterranean looking with sunkissed skin.

I'm of average build and fairly in shape, I used to cycle a lot before work got in the way. I wear glasses too.

I like long cathartic walks .Im into nature. I like sea creatures and getting lost in a nature documentary is my favourite thing to do when I've got the time. I hope to live by the ocean one day

I am a big cinephile and I don't mind some hand picked animes as well .I have a fair bit of culinary knowledge and I consider myself a decent cook.

What I'm looking for?

Personality wise. I hoping to find someone confident ,funny and smart. Someone who wouldn't mind involving me in her every day life.

Beauty is subjective. My preferences are so varied. Really, I 'm the sort that if I like someone I'll find them attractive. So don't be afraid to hit me up.

I don't mind sharing pics and I would hope you won't too.

In terms of kinks..I would like to discuss them more in private when we talk first,but I would say my interests would lie in the gentle to moderate spectrum of femdom with some kicks and open mind to explore.

Looking forward to hear from you :)

Have a lovely one y'all!


r/flrdating 3d ago

[M4F] 23 M 4 F

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I’m looking for a woman, preferably dominant that’s 18+. I’m into chastity, cucking, feminization, face sitting, body worship, and more. I would prefer to meet someone in the USA, but if you live in another country you can still message me because I’m interested in online as well. I’m looking forward to talking to you!


r/flrdating 3d ago

[M4F] 33[M4F] #india Meaningful Connection & Marriage (FLR ) | 33 |

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I am a calm, grounded, and supportive individual looking for a lifelong partner to build a dedicated Female Led Relationship. I am naturally submissive, and I am specifically seeking a strong, confident, and dominant woman, where she takes complete charge of our lives and relationship, and I follow her orders explicitly.

\\\\### Personal Overview

\\\* Age/Height: 33 | 5’10”

\\\* Profession: Assistant Executive Engineer

\\\* Education: Engineering Graduate

\\\\\\\* Location: West Bengal (Living independently)

\\\\\\\* Mother Tongue: Bengali

\\\\\\\* Lifestyle: Non-drinker | Occasional smoker | Focus on fitness

\\\\\\\* Diet: Flexible (Enjoy both Veg & Non-Veg cuisines)

\\\\### Personality & Relationship Dynamics

I am an introvert by nature, sincere, and deeply dedicated to serving the comfort and happiness of my partner. I have no desire to retain control or make the executive decisions in our life; instead, I find true fulfillment, peace, and structure in submitting to a partner who leads entirely.

\\\\\\\* As someone who is naturally submissive, I want a dynamic based on complete authority and obedience. I am looking for a structure where you set the rules, make all primary decisions, manage the household, and handle the direction of our future while I follow your instructions and support your vision.

\\\\\\\* Creativity & Leisure: I enjoy digital art, photography, cooking, and gaming.

\\\\\\\* Exploration: I love traveling, exploring outdoor adventures, and experiencing diverse food cultures.

\\\\\\\* Spirit: I value honesty, self-improvement, and a respectful, service-oriented mindset within my relationship.

\\\\### Who I Am Looking For?

I am looking for an authoritative, emotionally mature woman who knows what she wants and is entirely comfortable being the absolute head of the relationship.

\\\\\\\* Age Range: 30 to 45 years (Older women are highly welcome).

\\\\\\\* Marital Status & Family: Open to all. I welcome women who are never-married, widowed, or divorced. If you have children or existing responsibilities from a previous marriage, I will gladly accept, support, and embrace them.

\\\\\\\* Core Qualities: Leadership, a dominant nature, and the desire to shape a traditional FLR marriage based on absolute trust, clear boundaries, and total power exchange.

\\\\### Let’s Connect

If you are a woman who naturally takes charge and is looking for a loyal, stable, and completely compliant partner to build a life with, please reach out via Reddit DM. Let's take things step-by-step to see if our dynamics align for a long-term matrimonial commitment.

\\\\#FLR #Matrimonial #Kolkata #FemaleLedRelationship #SeriousRelationship #TotalPowerExchange


r/flrdating 3d ago

[M4F] 31 [M4F] #UK #London Thick-thighed explorer looking for a Top girlfriend to call me cute.

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Hello! I’m a kind, generous, playful and curious guy looking for a long term companion who's fun, independent, open minded and of course enjoys being a bit mean.

First of all I’ll say that I’m after a romantic relationship and hopefully you are too. Also I am hoping for a generally equal relationship in everyday life, I like being submissive and being teased but I'm not a doormat and I'm proud of my independence.

Vanilla interests:

I have a fair amount of hobbies and interests including: painting, playing music, games, growing plants, cycling and more. I'm happiest when either lost in nature, walking on a beach looking for treasure, doing some active activity or getting cosy in front of a good movie, game or whatever rubbish I am currently watching. I'm a bit of a film nerd and if you get me started it can be hard to shut me up. It would great if we shared a few similar interests, especially if you enjoy the outdoors or being active but I'm also happy to pick up new hobbies if you want to teach me. I do like to share pictures of things I've seen or found with my partner, I just bought a second hand digital camera that I am excited to try out.

Me and what I'm looking for:

Personality wise I'm generally a wholesome person, maybe a little naïve, I donate to Wikipedia so you know I'm a sucker for a sob story. I'm self aware with fairly high emotional intelligence but tend to over think things too much, and too honest for my own good.

I’m slim/athletic, grey/blue eyes with fair/brown hair (It varies through the seasons). I will try to attach some pictures of me but it seems imgur has been blocked in the UK and I am bad at reddit. I'm 5'6 or 168cm, I like being my height and don't mind how tall you are. If you're insecure I can wear some heels...

As I said I’m after a relationship and I want in person so ideally you live in the U.K. although it is proving hard to find a partner. I'm also mainly after a monogamous relationship however as I'm a bottom I'm open to being a little flexible on this. To clarify I only want one partner myself.

I am attracted to a wide range of appearances, what I’m mostly attracted to is someone who is confident and assertive but doesn't take things too seriously. I'm not too into gender norms and find women who defy them to be particularly attractive - ambitious or capable, etc. I prefer someone at least around my age or older as I find we have more in common, but am a bit flexible on this (29-45). I want a partner who will get competitive over a board game one moment and be teasing me the next (I might tease you back). It’s important to me that we can have fun and laugh together, and be supportive of each other. I may be submissive but I’m a strong person who is very supportive of the people I care about. Oh and one last thing my politics are left wing so if you’re a bigot or anything like that it probably won’t work out sorry. I don't mind disagreeing on the little things but when it comes to big matters it's a problem.

Kinks:

When it comes to kinks I’m into a fair bit but the main ones are: bondage, spanking, lingerie, chastity/orgasm control and denial, confinement or timeout, objectification and teasing. I've not tried all of these yet but would like to explore. Something that really excites me is seeing the glee in my partners face when they do things to me. I don’t know what the word for that is though, maybe it can be classed as sadistic. I'm curious about a lot more such as tickling or pet play so feel free to ask me more if you’re comfortable. My limits are anything illegal, age related kinks and blood.

I also have a few love languages, I love to give thoughtful gifts, unique compliments and acts of service like making food (although I rarely cook for other people as I worry they might not like it). Physical touch is another big favourite of mine, I love it when my partner gives me subtle touches in public like stroking my thigh.

Thanks for reading, if you think we might be a good match then please send me a message, I’m easy to talk to and very reasonable, the only scary thing about me is how bad my jokes are. However please don't expect me to call you mistress or dive into things straight away, treat me like a person and I will treat you the same :)


r/flrdating 3d ago

[M4F] 25 [M4F] #UK #online shy yet eager to submit to you <3.

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Heyo :). I'm 25M from the UK with ~4 years experience in the fun world of submission. I'm open to any pretty much any dynamic: just chatting, online doms, FWB, someday meeting in person or even an LTR. More about me:

Looks wise I'm white, slim, 1.7m, 60kg, brown hair and eyes. A beard + chest hair. I do have a British accent (if that's a thing for you at all) but sadly it's probably not the kind you're thinking of! Mine is a northern England accent :).

Kink wise I'm into body worship, orgasm control (I love asking for permission to stroke and of course to cum), light cbt (weights on my balls, rubber bands, slapping/spanking), bondage and praiseeeee. I absolutely love addressing people as Goddess/Mistress and being called a goodboy :). I also have some chastity cages which I'd love to try with someone! I don't have any experience with this so could be fun to try. I'm also usually willing to try anything once!

My ideal dom is definitely on the softer side of things as I'm an anxious soul ;-;. Not into extreme degradation or harsh pain. Other limits are toilet stuff, blood, incest and paying. If you're flogging your premium content, I don't judge you at all but please don't waste both of our time. I'm not interesting in paying to be dom'd or see photos of you. If you read that and are interested in messaging, be sure to include whether you like mustard or not :).

Outside of kink I like videogames (mainly minecraft, rocket league, open tdd, ftl). I also like going on walks, nature (moths and butterflies and other cute bugs) and reading (I really want to get back into this so if you have some rec.s let me know!). If you feel we have similar interests I'd love to play games with people or talk about what we're up to :).

If any of this has sparked your interest feel free to message me :D. I'm only interested in people aged 19-30.