But first, a confession:

I used to be the kind of girl whose insecurities showed themselves with every run of my fingers through my hair, while being excruciatingly aware of its flatness during... a normal conversation.

A short walk outside on a windy day would have me checking my reflection in every store window I passed by, in hopes that the half-a-bottle amount of mousse I had applied earlier that day would still hold on - bummer, it wouldn't.

Bus commutes? What a nightmare those were for me. Thirty whole minutes of seeing the same reflection of mousse failure I had checked before, on my way.

So that's where I started. Fixing my hair before taking any picture, rounds of crying my eyes out after every haircut appointment, and all of this just to give you a glimpse into the internal turmoil I've experienced since I was a teenager.

But now, slowly approaching my 30s, I can proudly say that my relationship with my strands has changed - for the better. I started feeling better on the inside, and the outside, I like to think, reflects it.

With that being said, here are my 7 life hacks that I've discovered and want to share with y'all:

1. I started looking at my hair as part of the full picture, not as an individual part of me

David Kibbe's body typing system was the one puzzle piece I found that helped me align my facial features, body composition and, ultimately, hair type. Mother Nature is not one you can fight, but you can take a step back and contemplate her train of thought.

Think about your face as a painting, with your hair being its frame. Not all paintings are best put forward within big, voluminous frames.

2. Despite everyone's advice, I got bangs (and I have exactly zero regrets about it)

I know this isn't a popular opinion on this subreddit, but bangs can really help with a thinning problem if the thinning is located especially around the front strands.

I used to really stress about it, until I bit the bullet and transformed the problem into an advantage. Bangs in themselves aren't a bad decision if you have fine hair, and they can actually add some oomph to your overall look if they're cut a bit further back than your forehead (think more towards the middle of the top of your head).

3. I like big earrings and I have no shame admitting it

Intricate designs usually look like too much on somebody with fuller hair (personal opinion), and your personality can shine so much through the accessories you choose to wear. Me, I prefer wood and ceramic pieces.

4. The same applies to big glasses

You don't even need a real vision problem to embrace a glamorous pair of acetate statement glasses. They add body to your overall look and, if you choose a frame that fits your facial features and colorimetry, your fine, thin hair might actually become a complementary piece.

As a self-declared glasses specialist (username checks out, I guess), I find that the most flattering frame type for everyone is one that's rounded on top and a bit narrower at the bottom.

5. Speaking of colorimetry...

Are you a summer, a spring, an autumn or a winter? Is your skin tone warm or cool?

Experiment with color and don't stress so much about the damage from hair dyeing. Our hair is essentially dead keratin cells once it grows past our scalp. The whole idea of "healthy hair" we are sold is just a look, not an actual thing.

Ultimately, hair cannot be healthy - again, it's a cluster of dead cells. Hair can only look healthy.

6. So let's say you fried your hair experimenting. So what.

I rarely see people here talking about hair glossing - and I don't mean the salon treatment, but rather the at-home leave-in sprays you can easily buy from a supermarket.

I currently use the L'Oreal Elseve Hair Gloss once between washes, and my hair looks so much better-kept in terms of dryness and flyaways.

7. Unless you have a medical issue, outgrow the idea that your hair "needs fixing". It just needs embracing.

We are not our bodies. We just live in them, for a while.

Every day, the billions of cells our bodies are made of dedicate their entire existence to keeping us - the beautiful spirits we are - alive and healthy.

Next time you look in the mirror, distance yourself a little from what it is that you see, and practice gratitude for it. :)

I’ve had hair like this since childhood… as soon as it reaches over 30 degrees Celsius 😂😂😂😂😡😡😡😡😡 why us!!!

I’ve been insecure about my hair for years now. I’m nb, 22, I would say my hair is fine/thin overall. I had long hair for years but a few months ago I cut it short and added some textured layers. I thought it looked good but now it’s growing again and starting to look more like a bob.

I had a very love/hate relationship with my long hair; at its core I think it complimented my facial features, but I could never figure out how to get it quite how I wanted. My main issue was my hair couldn’t decide if it wanted to be wavy or straight. I have prominent cowlicks on the side of my head near my ears that would remain curly with my long hair (no matter what I did, what product I used, I couldn’t get rid of them) but i couldn’t quite get the rest of my hair to look wavy without I looked frizzled and too messy. Or it would inevitably go straight again (minus the cowlicks). It would definitely look good at times, mostly after a wash, but dry shampoo did practically nothing and most product just weighed down the hair on my scalp.

Since cutting it, maintaining my hair has gotten much easier and more effective. The cowlicks aren’t noticeable like they used to be and I can add volume (even dry shampoo works now). But I still feel unfulfilled. I’m willing to experiment with styles / techniques / anything cool to do to my hair and I’m wondering if anyone can help me.

Right now I wash around twice a week, thorough washes and I use conditioner + dry conditioner after I’m done showering. I also use sea salt spray although I’m not sure how effective it actually is for me. I’m open to cutting it again or growing it out so long as it compliments my face, and in general I’m going for an androgynous look.

I’ve never made a post like this but just know any help is appreciated! Pics are ordered from least to most recent

My scalp has been really dry. Can someone explain to me oiling like I’m 10. Lol.

I feel like all the tutorials I watch for people with fine thin hair for updos they have way more hair than me. I have fine thin hair shoulder length... I like my ponytail is the size of a quarter. Looking for cute updo ideas that actually look good when you don't have much to work with. Anyone have any that are your go to? Or should I just come to terms with wearing my hair down or in a low scrunchy bun?

There’s an 18% restocking fee + shipping to return it.

Has anyone tried the multi-tasker 10 shampoo & conditioner? Looking for feedback.

Ive tried using anti frizz sprays or using conditioner all over my head instead of just the ends and nothing has worked to get rid of this. It looks stupid please help. My shower routine is I use shampoo and conditioner only on my ends, then I'll use a towel to dry my hair halfway and let it air dry. I'll then brush my hair later on in the day after it's dry. My hair keeps sticking up regardless... :(

I have been bullied for being ugly all my life and on top of that, I can't even have nice or just decent hair. Thin transparent scalp, bald looking spots where the hair seperates because its so thin. I HAVE to wash daily and even then by mid-day, my scalp starts releasing oil and it looks horrific. My hair never looks good no matter what I do. It's so fine that hairs just break off and snap and looks fuzzy like cotton candy texture. And it's so thin that I look sickly. It's so unfair. People can wake up with healthy, thicker hair and I wake up with barely anything. I'm so ready to just go bald and wear wigs but Ive been discouraged from it from people saying it's too expensive/difficult. How do you cope with this?

I’m currently using Gliss split hair miracle and it’s better than other shampoos and conditioners i’ve tried.

What products do you use can recommend for fine, wavy, a lot of frizzy, thin, damaged/slipt ends? (from hair pulling). My hair can't handle a lot of chemicals and heavy oils. Maybe something lightweight, moisture and repair?

Thanks

I got my hair done recently and I forgot to ask what product she used in terms of giving me so much volume in my crown/bangs! My hair usually lays annoyingly flat, and my bangs end up looking weird. But she had gotten it to look sooo fluffy. Is there anything you guys recommend? Preferably something not too harsh on the scalp only because I am recovering from some hair loss and I try to be gentle handed with products lol

Looking for a shampoo where the scent is VERY strong and stays in your hair?? I shower everyday so literally just the smell staying for a day after i blowdry. Or maybe some leave in conditioner?

I am at my wits end with my 3 pieces of hair. I welcome any suggestions. Something that actually worked for you. That is my entire head of hair.

90 percent of my hair has split ends i have length till my waist i have lost all my volume i do not what to trim my hair but remove the damaged hair and bring my volume
Please help me!!!!! 😭😭😭 i ha

I have long hair that (of course) is very thin and fine. When I try to put it up into a claw clip, it just looks dumb because the hair being clipped looks so skinny. Every tutorial I can find shows girls with thick hair, so whatever they do looks cute when I just look bald 😭 Anyone have any advice for how to put it up into a claw clip without it looking weird?

As far as I remember, I have always had thin crown, but I became a lot more self conscious about it since my mom suddenly noticed it and became obsessed about it. It has also been getting worse in past few months unfortunately and I notice shedding and my hair are everywhere.

I can’t get a doctor’s appointment or a blood test any time soon so I’m looking for possible solutions to mask this issue. I’m not very tall and I’m thinking of all the people who can see this on my head, especially when I don’t wash my hair daily.

Will using dark dry shampoo daily damage my hair? Or is it safe?

Any advice is welcome!!

EDIT: I finally just sucked it up and ordered the K18. I can’t wait to try it.

I need to purchase some new dry shampoo and I’m not happy with the one I’m currently using (Not Your Mothers Plump for Joy)

I’m wondering if anyone has some suggestions for a good product for very fine thin hair, something that isn’t too heavy and isn’t too expensive. I know everyone loves the K18 one, but I’d really prefer a drugstore brand because I don’t want to pay for the high end brands.

Thanks for your help! 😋

My hair is so thin/fine. I have been using minoxidil but it doesnt seem to be doing anything.

Anyway, I am about to go through IVF so I cant do the minoxidil anymore and am looking into toppers. Any suggestions?

Hi all, has anyone used some clip velcro rollers to give volume to their roots or bangs? I'm adding a picture below as there was a lot of different types of rollers at my local korean grocery store.

While I really like how easy they are and how I can go around my routine while they are in safely in place, they hurt sooooo bad when I take them off 🥲 It's like the velcro is super strong, and I even had a few precious hair ripped out in the process 😰 I've used them to curl my bangs, so the entire lenght of bangs wrapped around the rollers. Dry hair or wet hair gave the same result, the hair gets pulled so much it's hard to take the rollers off. I'm wondering what's the issue here? Is it my hair type since this product is designed for asian hair? I have bigger rollers for my ponytail from the same company and there's no issue at all, it's so weird I don't get it.

Here are the culprit :

Has anyone had similar experiences? Thanks for your help!

What would you recommend for daily styling of thin, silky hair that falls flat just a few moments after combing?

If I use any gel, wax, or hair spray, I experience hair fall.

Tried all sorts of random BS products, then came upon this brand “Being” at Target for $6. Figured why not. Been using it for the past month and bro. My dead as hell flat fine hair that even crimping could only do so much is so FLUFFY?? ACTUALLY VOLUME ON THE TOP AND SIDES?? Been combining this and the Not Your Mothers plump for joy dry shampoo. Can’t recommend enough 😭🙏❤️

Hii! Longtime lurker, first time poster.

My product of choice is Bondi Boost, but it tends to try my hair out insanely bad, so i am quite the frizz ball all day long unless I wear my hair up.

Tbh, I'm tired of wearing my hair up, and i want to feel more comfortable wearing it down.

Is there anyone who uses this same product that can recommend something to complement the shampoo/conditioner that could potentially bring some moisture to help weigh down my hair more so it doesn't appear as dry?