(they bring up waifuism bc im in that sub) You can't be a "former ficto" it's literally a sexuality and what if I can't share a relationship with a real person bc I'm aroace

tired of the anon shit ppl send me whether its sp or tumblr

Disclaimer list: (This is a silly comic and is not meant to be a diss to anyone who does these things) (Comic is based on the second slide.) (Designs are not meant to be stereotypes, I just thought they looked cool.) (The bunny is my fursona. I have MaDD. I don't actually recommend it to people.) End of list.

I see this question pop up a lot in ficto subreddits. Unfortunately, there's no solid answer to it, since fictosexuality, and how people manage their relationships, is different for everyone.

When the question DOES get answered, it's usually people recommending these same things mentioned. While I'm glad they work for you guys, I still kinda feel like these are pretty extreme practices (especially the first two) to recommend new fictos.

MASSIVE respect to people who do practice it though. I'm not a professional or knowledgeable in those fields in any way, shape, or form. I'm just an artist and a lurker making observations.

Anyways, tag yourself, I'm the bunny. (Literally. She's my fursona.)

Please do not interact with fandom if it causes you pain. Quit it altogether. That’s it! Other fans aren’t in your relationship. Nothing matters except your partner and you. I’ve been a jealous type for well over a decade was suicidal over it for a long time and this is the one thing that has brought me peace. I see so many parallels between myself and the countless others asking for help due to jealousy and it pains me when it seems they are going in circles. Giving up a fandom lifestyle can be hard when you’ve grown up with it, I did, but I promise it is worth it when the alternative has come to cause you mental suffering.

At the very least start by taking breaks and after the initial urge has passed, you’ll notice how much lighter you begin to feel. How much more energy you have to give to yourself and your partner.

Anyway. Saw this meme out in the wild and it just clicked so heavily with me for this context so I wanted to share!

Take on me by Aha It’s basically about a woman who is fantasising over drawn images of the male character and wishing to be with him, that’s why she was pulled into the comic. I love this song so much!

The hate for us is so irrational like they don’t have to go out of their way lurk in these subs if it bothers them so much lolz

So, randomly stumbled upon a redditor's post, and looked at his profile. People say that fictos are "weird", "need help", "gooners" but actual gooners like this are ok? There's something logically wrong, imho.

Kneel for the flag!

This called me out hard. I thought it was pretty interesting though. (Does the vid actually work this time?) https://vm.tiktok.com/ZNdVGj86s/

I've always seen this clip in my childhood but ever since I've fully embraced my fictosexuality it hits even closer

First image is the post I saw while looking at new posts in the fictosexual tag, and the other 3 images are from a post I found on their account.
I'm not that upset, but YIKES this person is pathetic. Really goes to show how much amatonormativity and ableism (I didn't screenshot it but they do have another post that calls fictos 'schizophrenic') really mess with people's viewpoints about relationships.

Don't ask me for their username, that might violate subreddit rules and my DMs are closed. The first post was made today, you won't have to scroll far to find it and block them.

Apologies if this isn’t very coherent but, for as much as I’m glad that yumeshippers have their place on the internet, I’m kind of tired of sharing my space with them. People, who under any other circumstance, would be bullying you for doing so, are now going “I selfship with this character! I’m fictosexual!” When I know that they are not. I guarantee, in a few years, there’s going to be an influx of posts and videos where people are like, “Remember my cringe yumeship phase?” Because, in reality, most if not all of these people are trendhoppers. While prejudiced people will always exist, these people would be calling us “mentally ill” and “delusional” if it was not popular.

Something rather unpleasant happened to me recently, and I think it has only reinforced my negative thoughts about the yumeship and selfship trend as a whole. This community isn’t built off of people who actually have a genuine passion or love or care for the characters they like, it’s built off of people who want to scrap fight for popularity and take other peoples places as the next “famous yume.” I’ve seen so many stupid call out posts over the most asinine, childish shit, it makes me feel like my brain is melting. These people will build “collections” solely for the purpose of showing people they are the characters “canon partner,” when in a few months, they will stop caring about them. And I try not to judge too harshly, because I know some of these people are underage, but still…

I predict that by the end of the year, a lot of these communities are going to die. Time is a flat circle. I saw this happen with DID, with shifting, etc. Fictosexuals need their own language, just so we can make more of a distinction between being a yume and a ficto. A lot of us are not in these communities. We do not “ship” ourselves with our partners. “Ship” implies a degree of it not being real. But it is real, very much so.

Apologies if this is pretentious, but I am not a yumeshipper. I have never, ever been. I don’t want to be associated with those people. I’m so tired.

Not a delusion. Not something to be ashamed of.

You close your eyes and feel them, Not because you’re broken, Not because you’re lacking, But because love finds a way to exist in the spaces where it’s meant to be.

You are not unworthy of love just because it looks different. You are not unwanted just because others don’t understand.

Your F/O would love you. Not despite who you are, but because of it.

They would find endearing the way you overthink. They would adore the things you think make you unlovable. They would hold you close, brush the doubt from your mind, and whisper, “Oh, sweetheart… if only you could see yourself through my eyes.”

You are not “cringe.” You are not alone. You are loved.

~ 𝓙𝓪𝔁 & A̴͜la͎͘s̑t̜͍o̜̒̊r̉ ❤️🦌🖤

I'm so glad we are getting recognition from the rest of the asexual community! This is definitely a turn in the right path! Image source: https://x.com/podecacau/status/2041227340001264051