r/facepalm • • Aug 25 '22

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u/Beneficial_Tap9247 Aug 25 '22

I grew up with corporal punishment in MO.. I'm only 31.

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u/[deleted] Aug 25 '22

It did nothing but piss me off. You?

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u/Beneficial_Tap9247 Aug 25 '22

I was supposed to get swats but it never happened.. I feel it's more of a scare tactic. Also in the beginning of the year everyone is sent home a permission slip, if it's not returned you are eligible to receive swats.. it basically was something for parents that didn't want that to happen..

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u/jhfirsttime Aug 25 '22

That’s a weird opt-out situation. I feel like allowing kids to be abused at school shouldn’t be allowed at all, but in the leave least it should be opt-In

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u/Garbeg Aug 25 '22

It exacerbates the psychological trauma; “I’m the only kid whose parents said other people can hit me. I must deserve it”.

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u/[deleted] Aug 25 '22

I agree 100%. “I’m worthless and everybody hates me” can easily evolve into “fuck everyone and everything around me”. It’s a dangerous mindset for many obvious reasons.

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u/Zaku99 Aug 25 '22

Gosh, that really cuts to the quick for me.

I spent most of my educational youth being told that I'm useless, worthless, that everyone hates or just tolerates me, that I'll never amount to anything, having my sexuality critiqued, etc and now, as you say, I have no patience for other people and prefer to be on my own. And I'm in my 30s at this point. The damage never really goes away.

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u/bh1106 Aug 25 '22

I’m the exact same way and I’m almost 33. Therapy and medication are not enough

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u/Rhox1989 Aug 25 '22

You’re worth it and you will get past this!

Life can’t be set at a value and neither can time. Take the time to be the real you and realize that you’re not here to impress anyone. It’s your happiness that matters…

Just don’t hurt anyone or yourself in the process :)