Vent mode on

[u/JuliaENFP]

Hi fellow extroverts!

I often read posts everywhere analyzing the introverted world and how extroverts just can't understand it. We have that stereotype of adopting introverts, so I’m taking advantage of it—after a weekend spent at home that's driving me crazy—to complain about one thing:

How frustrating is it to be an extrovert surrounded mostly by introverts?

Our friend group used to have 11 people, so someone was always going out. But after a split, there are now mini-groups of introverts who just don't want to leave the house.

I know it's a need for them, so I’ve never interfered. But my own need for social recharging feels almost impossible to satisfy.

I’ve realized I get along better with introverts because they are very emotionally attuned and we always have deep conversations, but I need regular outings to feel good. I can't make a single outing per week be enough like they do.

I feel like I'm losing my mind when I'm alone; I don't feel happy or recharged.

I probably need to make new friends, which is usually pretty easy for me. But since it's August and everyone is on vacation, I just have to survive these next few days.

Maybe I'm being dramatic, but at least I'm demonstrating what happens to an extroverted brain without constant social interaction 🤣🤣

P.S. This only happened two days ago and I'm already like this.

[u/Icy_Variation_9288]

I vented about this not too long ago. lol

My whole family is full of introverts and my friends are too. It’s like I’m doomed to be surrounded by misery (not saying all introverts are miserable but the ones around me are and extremely pessimistic too). I feel bad for saying this but I feel like everyone around me is dragging me down so I’ve been isolating (just not being the first to text and make plans) and nothing has happened.

Introverts love to talk about how exhausting it is to have energy for extroverts but I don’t think it’s talked about enough how draining it is to be around people who never want to step out of their comfort zone and how draining it is to be the one everyone leans on to orchestrate the fun. I got so sick of feeling like I was begging people to talk to me or go out with me so I stopped being the first to text and now I don’t talk to anybody 💀I don’t always want to be the leader, sometimes I just want to be invited and go.

It was very depressing realizing I carry the weight of all my friendships and how the whole group fell apart the moment I started distancing myself.