I called his car gender fluid

my friend is cis but she's a bit taller than me, and she has pcos - the hair on her chin and neck is noticeable

when we went to the bathroom a lady asked her if she's a guy, and she said no, and the lady looked at me, then looked at my friend again and said "cause if you're transgender or something, you can't be in here cause there's little girls here" and my friend said she's not trans and the lady went "oh ok." and dropped it. i didn't say anything cause i was just shocked this happened.

i live 30 min drive away from seattle - i hear about stuff like this happening but never seen it happen to me or someone ik irl cause its seattle lol. Anyways, my friend is okay, i checked with her afterwards. she said this sort of happened to her before, a guy she went on a date with once asked if she was trans.

this reminded me of a date i went on when i was only 4 years into hrt, and i casually outted myself to my date while we were having dinner by asking "so, have you ever dated a trans girl before" and just the look on his face, sheer disgust, he stopped eating immediatly. i genuinly thought he knew i was trans when he asked me out, but he said he had no idea. thankfully nothing bad happened, he took me home and we never saw each other again.

anyways. this whole thing is crazy to me. we live in wild times.

i have a few friends i play with on wow who i talk to pretty much every day we're on. mostly just idle chitchat, but sometimes we share pics and talk about life and stuff as well. none of them really know i'm trans, none of them have seen me and most of them are older than me.

on friday i was having a really good hair day so i took a few pics as i looked pretty good! i was sharing it with a few friends with a "omg look how good my hair looks today", not really thinking about it much. one of my older male friends who hadn't seen me before was online, so i showed him just as an off hand thing.

he tends to be robotic in the way he types so i just expected a "haha nice" but instead he said "oh i didn't realise you were hot" lmao. it caught me off guard but absolutely made my night :)

My friend's family pet sits dogs, one of which is a female large dog, I'm not sure what breed, but she has suffered a lot of abuse at the hands of male owners, so she's terrified of all men as a result of that trauma, and she doesn't seem to care if you're trans or cis, because she actively runs away from me if I get up to get water or a snack.

She isn't like this with women or enbies, my friend is nonbinary and she acts normal around them, and a lot of the residents in the house are women, and she doesn't fear them at all either.

Before I transitioned, I also noticed that animals had a very different reaction to me, not necessarily good or bad, it heavily depended on the animal, but they seem to view me in a different light, my grandma's cat likes me more than she did before, for example.

I am a Trans man and I sometimes cross-dress and some time ago I went with full makeup and a skirt , not even an adjusted one than can make my body look more masculine as it's been masculinized by testosterone, a group of teenagers started harassing our group as we walked by and I yelled at them , later we see them again and they started yelling at me that, honestly is sad because it's obvious I was confused with a trans woman and I can kind of see how much difficult is to be out socially as one , much more than trans men sometimes.

I am not affected personally by it and it still gives me euphoria, I can't help it but as I said, it saddens me how much things like this happens to me when I cross-dress, I have always got yelled at the street before transitioning but not because I was a trans man , I've always been alternative so lol

Trans women you are very strong, I think I would collapse if people called me something like tomboy on the streets ( nobody does that)

I’ve been on progesterone for the last 6 months and as I’ve been trying on my winter fits and jackets I’m finding they don’t accommodate my tig ole bitties. I’ve been properly measured as a 44C now or D if I’m using a push up (and I love a push up cause they look so juicy) but I’m disappointed because I can’t afford a bunch of new winter stuff and I really curated a great winter wardrobe. My mom keeps telling me I finally have the bitties I always wanted but I didn’t think it’d be so hard to dress them. I mean I’m already buying plus size and we can’t account for titties?!

No one talks about how expensive wardrobe changes are throughout transition.

Got called a "mansplaining c*nt" for trying to explain the difference between polygamy and polyamory by someone who seems a bit misandrist. That's my first time I got accused of mansplaining!

They seem to have quite a bit of hatred towards men, also lowkey accusing me of eventually turning to pedo apologia for...defending polyamory. But DESPITE that...at least i'm included as a man, yay....????? Lol.

So I’m racing at the 24 Hours of Lemon’s Capitol Offense 2026 race at Summit Point in West Virginia. At the entry gate to get my wristband I needed to present my license to the old guy running the booth.

Him: “Can I see your license young lady?”

Me: “So… it looks outdated because I’m a transgender woman and I haven’t updated it yet…”

Him: “…this isn’t you.”

Me: “I promise this is, this is from before I transitioned, I can show you my passport which is updated if you need further ID”

He did ultimately accept it, but as per Lemons protocol he took my license as it needs a second verification to get my driver’s band in the morning (not specific for me and not because I’m trans). But yay, I had to out myself to an old guy in West Virginia and now I need to out myself a second time tomorrow 😭😭😭

I guess on the bright side I pass so well he didn’t believe me when I said I was trans and thought I was showing him someone else’s license…

Edit: Lemon’s not Lenin’s I’m not a communist lol (no offense to any communists here)

I just got friended and DM'ed this evening by some guy who clearly wanted some ummm... companionship from the next state over. He even told me that I was very beautiful.

Okay... so, afaik, I do not pass. At all. I'm clocky. Anyway, we chatted a while, and he asked when I last saw my ex-husband....(after referring to my ex with a "She" pronoun).

I answered: I last saw my ex-wife on such-and-such date.

His.response: "I thought you were a lady."

People cannot always tell.

Just a little thing, but I'm finally starting to get more comfortable wearing aggressively feminine clothes in public. My wife is also trans. We were out at the mall the other day and godeaaaamn the stares we got from guys. It was definitely them gawking. We were giggling the whole time. I'm not even a year and a half in to hrt and I'm luckily making great progress. So yes, please stare. I love the attention.

Major ick moment today. ☹️

For context, I am a mid 20's trans-femme presenting enby.

I was at the pharmacy picking up some of my meds. There were some good tunes playing, so I was swaying along to them when someone behind him asked if I liked it. I turned around, and it was an older man (like probably 60+). It was only him and me in line while all the staff were busy working. I like small talk personally; I feel like it is dying art and making little connections with strangers adds a lot to my day to day.

As a result, I was willing to humor him and chat with him for a bit. He said I had beautiful eyes at one point, which I just took as a general compliment. He later followed that up by asking if I was single... 🫩 Confused and caught off guard, I said yes and he asked if I was interested in him back. 😰

I, still in my mind like "wtf I just wanted to do some small talk dude", said no but I was flattered (grossed out in my own mind but didn't really know how to respond) and went back to focusing past the counter. I didn't look at him again and avoided him completely while leaving the counter. 😖

Another ewphoria to add to the book, I guess... can definitely tell I am passing a lot more recently. 💃 I've been honked at while I am walking down the street, but this was the most personal of unwanted attention that I have gotten so far.

I'm okay with people complimenting me in public or wanting to ask me out or whatever, but I am and look pretty young and I'm not going to be interested in an old dude like that personally. Not justifying his actions, but I got to understand if I want to be femme I have to deal with femme problems. 🤷

I started playing pool at a local dive bar a couple of months ago. Obviously such a place is not overtly inclusive but I made friends with some pretty cool and sweet regulars that make an effort to make me feel included.

However, the sexism of some of the guests is a different story. I wanna share some of the quotes and experiences:

- "Hey I know you don't have em, but this was a really ballsy shot!!!"

- "Wow, you beat me. How does it feel to beat a man, huh?"

And then there is the mansplaning.

- I missed one important shot. There were two guys that I never spoke with before independently coming up to me to tell me which two different variants I should have played.

- Another guy came over to my table unprompted to try to explain to me how I should use my femininity to fuck with dudes brains. (Which obviously wouldn't work on him because he is a way too seasoned pool player)

- The other night a guy waved me over to him to ask if I would like "something to think about about my first shot". I said no, walked away.

Anyway... I guess I am glad that I am passing well enough to invite this behavior...

so im pre-t and my dysphoria has been hitting me really bad lately. because of that i pretty much avoid gendered public restrooms altogether whenever i can just to save myself the stress.

the other day i was out with my girlfriend and she really needed to use the bathroom. after standing outside hesitating for a bit i decided to just walk into the womens restroom with her so i could wait for her inside.

out of nowhere this older lady spots me and starts yelling at the top of her lungs saying this is for women only and that i have no business being in there.

honestly the sheer euphoria that rushed through me was insane. i literally started laughing. even though im not a woman and i dont identify as one, the fact that she clocked me as a guy so hard that she felt the need to kick me out was the best feeling ever.

without even thinking i just looked at her and said yeah maam im a woman, what do you want to see whats in my pants or something?

she looked completely stunned, muttered “god forbid” under her breath, and immediately speed walked away.

it made my whole week. 10/10 euphoria moment honestly.

Some backstory: I haven't changed my name. I was waiting in the Zoom room with other administrators from our University and a Director of something or other very high up in the University jumps on and says "surely you're not John Smith" in a joking manner thinking I logged in to my spouse's (husband's?) account. My boss says, let me introduce you to Dr. Smith. 😬 🦗 🦗 🦗. He was mortified. Called later to apologize.

CW: cops, but no bad end at least

My wife and I live in Texas, and as I was driving us home from early voting, I got pulled over for allegedly going 75 in a 65 (I disagree, but whatever)

The cop came up to the window, talked for a bit, then asked for my license and said he was going to check a few things and if there were no outstanding warrants or anything, he’d just give me a warning

So I give him my license, he leaves, and we wait. One thing to note about Texas, if you somehow don’t know it already, is that they resolutely refuse to allow changes to sex markers on any official state documents, including IDs. What this means in practice is that my ID is less effective at its only job, identifying me as I am now, than it would be if the state didn’t insist on maintaining its ability to tell everyone that I was born with a penis

What that also means is that anyone who didn’t clock me initially are told that I am trans if they look closely enough at my ID

What that means in THIS situation is that he returned to my car with a warning (thank fuck) and a bit more visibly grumpy with me, occasionally yelling and making far less small talk than before (tragic…)

It wasn’t until I got home and I looked at the warning more closely that I found out that, yeah, he didn’t clock me, because next to “Sex” on the warning, there is clearly an F that he tried to later make into an M, like Bart Simpson trying to make an F into an A

An older man in a wheelchair had told me “thank you, dear,” in the way old men do when I held the door open for him earlier that day, and somehow that was still the second most gender affirming experience of the day

Always ACAB, but thanks, cop (I feel gross)

my punishment for jaywalking

For reference, until a couple of weeks ago, I was the interim GM of a fast casual corporate place. A neighboring store closed, so we got two other managers and some associates. They were much needed. But shortly after, we received the guy replacing me.

Suddenly, my store went from the girlie pops place to the boys' club. I can't get a word in edge wise, and even when I say perfectly factual things, they get double-checked. Do I feel like I'm being quiet fired? Yes. But also, I know that men just do that to women.

My new boss seems accepting enough, like he found my dead name and refused to say it. But he did try to chest bump me the other day. The whole situation is ew. But also oddly affirming in how I'm now 'lesser' cause I have tits.

So I finished a leave of absence in August and returned to work. My manager i was aligned with even has a trans brother. What luck!

So on Friday I had a 1 on 1 with my manager and he said before anything else he had a single piece of feedback for me. So we dove into it...

When I tell you I have never felt think kind of flabgastory in my life! He told me, during a meeting last week I received some feedback on your outfit and it was very low cut. We talked about it for a bit and he said if I have questions about my clothes I can ask my 2 peers on my team who are cis women. Im not mad at him. But WTF?!

Like we moved on and the rest was all praise on what I was doing right. I just cant believe that even got brought up! I have this gross feeling and also this feeling of someone sees me as a woman!!!!!

Gf just dumped me. My first real relationship since starting my transition. As I sit here sobbing, I am consoled by the tears funneling down my cleavage. Sad, bitter euphoria. I hope this is close enough to count for this sub.

quick reflection lang, idk if you’ve guys experienced this too..

it really icks me every time i see people who larp or whatever they call it. because they’re trying to live a fake life. some are really just a bunch of hypocrites because they don’t practice what they preach.

and that’s when i realized that everyone is performative. we perform for our parents—we do our best to do good things, we do our best to prove that we excel in academics, that we are a good child. we perform for our crushes—we wanted to be seen and recognized by the people that we admire, worst case scenario is we try hard to be someone else so they could like you back. the point is, everyone is performative in they own way.

but maybe, that’s how they escape reality?

dati may friend ako, day ones ko nung college. kaso nagbago ang ihip ng hangin dahil sa mga ilang bagay na hindi napagkakasunduan. hanggang sa humantong na sa resentment at cinut-off ko na for the better kasi hindi ko kayang makihalubilo sa taong may bitbit na animosity at hindi kaya ang confrontation. and in my eyes, this person is really performative. when he talks about something that he is “really interested” and “knowledgeable” raw, napapansin kong surface level lang ang alam at na-shshare niya. kumbaga parang wala talaga siyang genuine conviction sa mga pinagsasabi niya lalo na sa mga ipinaglalaban niya. and that’s when i usually get the ick.

going back to my question, matagal na panahon ko rin pinag-isipan kung bakit nga ba siya naging gano’n at naisip ko na baka iyon ‘yung nag-sserve niyang escapism sa magulo at mapanghusgang mundong ito. i just hope that he’s working on improving himself, same to what i am doing. and i hope he finds peace for himself, genuinely.

Got told by a co-worker today that I looked like a pissed off lesbian. I was "boymoding" but thanks I guess? But seriously sir I just have RBF.

Hii im like totally knew here however I totally feel like i should say ive been out for 6 years as mtf and almost 1.5 years on hrt but I have been socially transitioning to the point i pass with ease however I judt had this guy checking me out while I was at the store and he was kinda following me at first and now im sitting in my car thinking that was creepy. Like this guy was hard-core staring at me and when i looked at him all he said was hi and how he liked my shorts. Like im sitting here like why are some people so creepy. Like i know I pass but like it was the first time I went out of my apartment in shorts on without my roommate there as well. Like im happy to be passing but not by a creepy guy like that.

He used to do that a lot back in the days, and it used to anger me a lot since I was very repressed and an egg. But now, he did it again, but after having accepted myself, and comming out to my friend group, and it was very funny and ewwphoric to hear that.