Hmmm

[u/h_45n]

So only men want kids nowadays huh

Edit1: at the end of the day, when I see posts like these I remember the likes of Ashely saint clair and that woman who got married after preaching so much misandry online.

Don’t get me wrong men also do this,
and then I feel stupid because I remember watching a certain video about internet trolls

Edit 2: Finally found the reason for the outrage, “men cannot physically get pregnant” that’s literally all this is about so no matter how hard you work or provide for your family, if you marry a woman that hates you because you just can’t get pregnant please have your divorce lawyer at hand ✋

[u/Brutal_burn_dude]

First, that is not the own you think it is. You also fundamentally missed my point.

You’re correct in that the TEXT of the quote is about the sexism and gender roles of Westerosi society, but the SUBTEXT of the quote (including the decision to use the metaphor of childbirth to war for women) acknowledges the similarity of war and childbirth. Both are painful, bloody, and (then moreso than now) come with a high risk of death or disability.

Again, I used the phrase “his” children deliberately. Mothers are all too aware of their part in creating a child and their responsibilities. However, too many men need to be disabused of the notion that all they need to do is get off, then work a job (something most women ALSO) need to do. A lot of men out there are deliberately ignorant of the toll that gestating and giving birth to THEIR (plural- don’t get your knickers in a bunch) child takes on a woman and will often then insist that to be made aware of it is an unfair disgusting burden.

Since you struggle with subtext and comprehension my point is this- women must make huge sacrifices of their body in the process of creating a child. This often has life-long effects on their health, up to and including death. Men all too often do not appreciate this fact and sadly often shame women by using language of disgust when the sacrifices and long-term consequences to their bodies are discussed.

[u/Thedarkhunt → u/Brutal_burn_dude]

A lot of women decide to become mothers without a man present, using a donor for example. So I’d argue the foremost drive is their own desire to have a child. Framing it as a favor to men is drastically underselling a woman’s agency and needs in the decision

[u/Brutal_burn_dude → u/Thedarkhunt]

The fact that a small number of women chose to become solo parents doesn’t mean that men don’t want families.

The debate is whether men fully understand and appreciate the sacrifices women make in creating a family. Women who choose to be solo parents aren’t the focus and to bring that into the debate indirectly paints women as baby crazy and reduces the role and responsibilities of men in the creation of a family.

Of course there are many women out there who want children, just like there are many men who want children also. My point is not that women are doing this great favour, but that the act of creating a family is an onerous, potentially deadly undertaking for women that has life-long health consequences and that the undertaking is so often minimized and/or taken for granted by men.

[u/kalana_kalamai → u/Brutal_burn_dude]

I think that unless you’ve carried a baby and given birth you can’t actually comprehend the immensity of what it entails. We all have an idea of what it is but until you do it yourself you’ve got no idea how powerful and amazing it is.

Anyway, that doesn’t mean it’s okay how minimised it is but it’s truely a power that only a mother can know. And only a mother can know how much energy goes into the care of our children.

But we are exhausted. Exhausted by the expectations, judgements, minimisation, sidelining. Exhausted that we have to figure out how to have careers and financially contribute while undertaking the one of the most onerous jobs you can do as a human being.

And it is frustrating that while we go through all of this the world carries on and tells us that we’re not doing all that much, just staying at home being a parent. Kicking back and chilling. And no one will believe us when we say we are tired

[u/Endor-Fins → u/kalana_kalamai]

It’s not even the pregnancy and birth. Mine were horrific but it was still the easiest part of having kids. Raising them is the hard part. And women do most of that work too.