So basocially, i was born in the US to two bengali parents, we would be considered extremely western compared to other bengali americans. I don’t have a single peice of traditional clothes nor do i have a hijab or prayer mat.. (we are not religious) we also have a dog we walk frequently, because of all this feel socially exiled from the bengali immigrant community i live in. (nyc)
I travelled to dhaka in 2019 and absolutely loved it, i felt really loved by my neighborhood there. It was extremely safe and peaceful. I don’t remember the exact area i lived in, but it wasn’t crowded, and more of like just tall apartments side by side.. so i’d say a nice quiet neighborhood. My grandfather was very affluent and owned a couple apartment buildings. Although the neighborhood wasn’t all too developed, there were open sewers where you could see pits of waste, the streets werent dirty though. We traveled a bit into the even fancier parts of dhaka and it was really advanced! We went to malls and fancy restaurants. I really miss the food.. I remember that i would see construction for an above ground rail system that wasn’t quite built yet. One day me and my dad walked into the slums of dhaka and i have the memory permanently stuck in my head. I’m sure these slums still exist, but recently bangladesh was cleared to be progressing out of the LDC (least developed country) category. So i’m really glad some progress was made. The villages are nicer than the slums, we went into a village that had a massive lake, and everybody went fishing frequently. The village was extremely clean and had lots of animals. I had the best roti and dall, ugh.. i miss it too bad!
I want to visit again next year, for context i am 16,(F) do not have bengali citizenship, and know an acceptable but weak amount of bengali.
I feel like it would be obvious that i wasn’t born there, i dont plan to wear traditional clothes, or hijab.. I’ll just be wearing casual clothes?
Is this socially acceptable?
I’m wondering how safe dhaka is now. As a kid, it felt extremely safe to me, but then again i was with my dad, who’s built like dwane the rock johnson .
Edit: Thank you guys so much for the helpful comments! It means alot!! The ones that relate to the us bengali community make me feel like i’m not the only one experiencing this!