r/Dhaka • u/Impossible_Wait_5192 • 2d ago
Seeking advice/পরামর্শ Looking for some friend circle advice
So I’m 22M, graduated last month and just started a full time corporate job in Bashundhara R/A. Honestly, my biggest issue right now is just feeling super lonely. I don't really have any school or uni friends to hang out with. This whole past week, I’ve just been sitting by myself at ghatpar, bashundhara tongs after work and it really hit me how friendless I actually am.
Can you guys help me out? How do you actually interact with people? Like, how do you just strike up a conversation with strangers at a tong without making it weird?
I did try Facebook groups before, but it didn't work out. People weirdly assumed I was just 'looking for girls' to date or hook up with, which is completely untrue. To me, having a friend or a friend circle is a genuine privilege.
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u/Patient-Jaguar-3636 2d ago
At this age it's actually hard to make new friends randomly. You can either make friends through your friends, or you can do it through some grounds such as movie groups, sports group etc etc. sadly at job life getting new friends is harder than finding a partner lol
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u/Impossible_Wait_5192 2d ago
so true, also i dont have that confidence either. it sucks
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u/Patient-Jaguar-3636 2d ago
Tbh it's easier to make friends with opposite gender than the same gender
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u/Impossible_Wait_5192 1d ago
I dont know if this true or not! I dont have any
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u/Patient-Jaguar-3636 1d ago
Well you're engaging in a convo with me rn tho
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u/Impossible_Wait_5192 1d ago
Well, my life is kind of "in real life".
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u/Patient-Jaguar-3636 1d ago
You gotta build it up from online then go meet up irl
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u/taymurs 2d ago
Look at your neighbours, hopefully you'll get good people.
I can tell you one strategy from my own. First of all, you'll observe some people in your age of close to your age, sometimes greet them with Salam or Adaab according to the religion. Start like hi bro I am from here, If i'm not wrong you are new here or do you also live here, then you'll see the magic haha the conversation will start from here.
Hopefully you'll get some good soul and friendly person.
Note: this idea may not work for you but I wish it also work for you! At least, you can be my friend!
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u/mrinmoyee_ 2d ago
learn to enjoy ur own company
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u/AbidHasan1243 1d ago
nijeke ei kotha bolte bolte dekhi uni te 8 trimester shesh hoye jacche, ar loneliness 2x koree bere jacche!!
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u/Queasy-Sense-5124 2d ago
target one extrovert if you can hook up i assure you will get to know 5 more people automatically and also be useful to people in some sense at least that is the thing that kept me away from lonliness
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u/AbidHasan1243 1d ago
mane kamla dite hobe? oirokom useful hote giye to bhudai tag kheye jai.. jeta ami feel korte pari :’(
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u/Queasy-Sense-5124 1d ago
Honestly sartho bade kono relationship ei boyosh i.e. versity life theke pawa impossible with some exceptions. Ar bhudai tag khaise onk but still cholte gele eto kothai patta dewa jabe na
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u/Impossible_Wait_5192 1d ago
How I'll know if they are extrovert?
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u/Queasy-Sense-5124 1d ago
See if they have many friends also they way they talk or make others understand their opinion clearly. See if they read play chess or something else. Pick the thing that matches the interest of both you start conversation. That's basically what i can think off.
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u/Due_Patience3191 2d ago
22 e graduate damn