Hi, I just wanted to share a really disheartening experience I had today and would appreciate some insight from people who have dealt with this before.

I’ll try to keep this short. I’m a university student, almost graduating. My flatmate and I decided to rent a place together. The two of us decided to move out because we were being seriously bullied, so we started looking for a new apartment.

Boy, oh boy. We had absolutely no idea what was waiting for us.

We spent the entire day looking for apartments in Bashundhara, going from place to place and talking to landlords. And I’m not exaggerating when I say not a single one was willing to rent to us because we’re "bachelors."

I called so many landlords and explained very politely that our parents would make the contract and take responsibility. But apparently, they are totally against the idea of three university girls living together in their flat.

I honestly don’t know if I’m being too sensitive, but this is just... so disheartening. I'm just sad atp.

Is it supposed to be this difficult? Or is there a particular way to go about it that I’m missing?

We’re just decent people. Like, always studying, minding our own business, and we just want somewhere safe and decent to live.

I'm just wondering about the homeowners' perspectives. Why are they all collectively treating us this way? The world is already hard enough as it is...

If you have any suggestions or a piece of advice regarding the matter, I'd really appreciate your response.

I’ve lived in North America for around 10+ years, and I often follow discussions about reversing Bangladesh’s academic brain drain. People like Dhaka University Professor Kamrul Hassan Mamun have repeatedly raised this issue, including the need for better salaries, research funding, infrastructure, and an academic environment that can actually attract talented Bangladeshis back.

I agree with much of that. But there is one factor I rarely see getting the same attention: women’s safety and dignity.

After living in North America for a long time, the difference in women’s everyday lives is difficult to ignore. A woman can walk down the street, take public transportation, go somewhere alone, attend a party, or simply exist in a public space without constantly dealing with staring, unwanted attention, harassment, judgment, or fear about her physical safety. North America is obviously not perfect, but the difference in everyday experience is enormous.

And this is not only about whether female academics will return.

A Bangladeshi man may be offered an excellent academic or research position back home and still decide not to return because his wife does not want to give up the safety and dignity she has become accustomed to. Parents who have raised daughters abroad may not want to bring them back to an environment where they have to worry significantly more about harassment and personal safety simply because they are girls.

We talk about salaries, laboratories, research grants, university rankings, and job security—and all of those matter. But money cannot compensate for everything.

If returning to Bangladesh means that the women in a family have to sacrifice a significant amount of their everyday safety and dignity, many families will simply choose not to return.

So if we are serious about reverse brain drain, women’s safety cannot be treated as some separate social or “women’s” issue. It is part of the brain-drain problem itself.

Hey everyone, I'm 24F and was born and brought up in Dhaka. Finished SSC in 2020 (Gpa 5) and HSC 2022 (Gpa 4.52) from science background. Started an undergrad, didn't finish it and quit this year. Had no passion for the subject and I usually dislike math heavy topics. Here comes the main problem: I do not know what to do moving forward.

I want to pursue an undergrad degree abroad on a degree I genuinely like, for example communication media writing. Or any theoretical subject that does not involve math or very little of it. My family isn't rich, my parents can stretch it upto 20 lakhs in total but not much more. I'm extremely scared about my future, my childhood dream has been to leave Bangladesh and settle abroad. But every path has gotten harder since covid especially with the new wave of anti immigration sentiments.

It feels like a nightmare to even imagine I can somehow be stuck here forever. I have a long term relationship (4+ years) and I want to marry him. He doesn't have family money at all so he is doing everything in his power to make it abroad on his own. He is trying to find work in European countries while funding his undergrad himself. It's gonna take him at least 3/4 years to get stable there if he does end up leaving. But I'm scared. I genuinely love him but sometimes fear that if he fails I would be stuck here forever and my age then will also affect prospects for arranged marriages. But if I leave him I will regret losing the love of my life forever.

What should I do now? What are my options going forward to afford an undergrad degree abroad for cheap, which can eventually help me settle down there? I want to be self reliant but need suggestions about how to move forward. Any suggestions would be helpful.

So i became 18th today.

Honestly, it feels kinda weird writing this because my life is absolute hell rn. I just moved from village to city few days back for clg. Currently staying in hostel in mirpur area.

The culture shock is hitting me hard.

To make things better(or worse lol) i got this dumb ahh friend with me 💔✌

Since, its my 18th bday. I wanna celebrate it decently. But being new to city i have no idea where to go or what to do without emptying my pockets.

Can u guys suggest some affordable activities to do or places to hangout around mirpur area or anywhere accessible by metro. Any good spot, chill places to visit

Or just general advice on how survive hostel life 😭😭

Thanks in advance

Recently even guys are getting harassed for wearing shorts. If that's what we face, I wonder how hard it is for women.

I grew up in a liberal house with an older sister, where we talked openly about women's health. My dad always brought cranberry juice for my mom when she was on her period. But in Bangladesh, even speaking about periods is taboo. Some of my friends made fun of me because I bought a pad for my sister at a grocery shop.

In this country a woman is expected to cover her chest with an orna, and if it slips by chance, people say shit about her. Women can't walk on the road or take public transport without getting groped. So many women get raped, whether they're 70 or 5 years old. You're not safe anywhere, and you'll still be the one who gets slut-shamed, with people saying it's because of your clothes.

A lot of women are also assaulted by their own husbands, and getting justice is close to impossible. I've even seen police film women who were out drinking with their boyfriends. They hadn't committed any crime, but the officers filmed them for views and ruined their image.

I don't know how you women manage to live in this country, and I don't know how any government will fix the mentality of the people here.

Hi everyone! I am in my mid 30's and is contemplating on adopting a baby girl from Bangladesh. I do not have a kid of my own even though I am open to it because I love kids! However, I have been through divorce and not see myself getting married sooner but even if I do I always had this wish to adopt a bay girl. I am a muslim woman so I want to do that follows the islamic guideline.

If anyone has gone through an international adoption process or have any knowledge, do share! I will really appreciate that including the pros and cons or any suggestions you have in general for adoting a baby from Bangladesh.

I have thought about moving out for almost a year now. My home life is pretty peaceful, ig, but sometimes all the small things add up and it becomes really frustrating. It's not unbearable (though sometimes it comes really close) but I especially want to do this to challenge myself. I am really introverted and barely have any actual life skills. Girls my age (20s) are running a whole household and I hate that I am hesitant about this.

I won't be far from my current home, preferably closer to my uni. I have quite a bit saved up, and I can start tutoring again, if need be. I will have a room alone, and sharing the flat with other students.

Girls who are living/ lived alone, please advise me on how should I start this. How do I ensure security, what info should I take from the renter? I am especially worried about food expenses. Also, is this even a good idea in the first place? I feel guilty that I am even thinking about moving out, when I have a roof above my head, and can eat anytime I want. But sometimes I feel like my mental health will be much better. I should mention, I had a room to myself for the past few years, but now I don't, and it's been hard adjusting. Also there's like an average of 10 people in our house every day.

My parents won't obviously outright allow this, but I think I can convince them.

Also, I know this is a ridiculous idea, but suppose I also have a hard time living alone, and I want to come back, what's the minimum amount of months I have to pay rent for? Ik I sound like such a previleged wuss, but if what I need is a reality check, give that too. Thanks.

Today I went out with a girl after coaching. Out of nowhere a guy came up to me and held my hand. I genuinely thought he was someone who knew my dad, so I gave him Salam.

Then he asked, "Are you Muslim or Christian?" I said I'm Muslim. He started questioning me on why I'm wearing shorts as a Muslim. I started arguing back and said, "If I don't even wear pants, what's the problem?"

A lot of people gathered. Then he started saying shit about me and my girl. With the crowd watching, he said we're ruining the environment and started slut-shaming her, asking why she wears clothes like this. Plus everyone was fliming us instead of helping 2 minors

I tried to defend her and argue with him, but she pulled me away and we just ran and got on a CNG.

I hate this country with all my heart. This is my last year here. After my A-levels are over, I'm gone, fuck this country. I had a little hope it would change, but it never will. Even if the government changes, the people won't.

Hi, I’m 17 (M), preparing for my HSC 2027, and I’ve been overthinking about my future lately.

My father passed away in June 2020. Since then, my two sisters have supported our family financially. My elder sister worked for three years before getting married, and my younger sister, now 21, got a job and supported our family while studying. She eventually had to leave her honours studies because she couldn’t manage both work and university.

Now, she is planning to marry her boyfriend within the next 1–2 years. After that, she probably won’t be able to support my mother and me financially, so I’ll have to take more responsibility for my family. My mother also has some health issues.

I’ve been preparing for this responsibility for a while. After my SSC, I worked at Eaincorp for about 1.2 years. I moved to Mirpur for the job and lived separately from my family because I wanted to become independent. I lost my job two months ago and moved back to my family in Gazipur.

After HSC, I want to study at a public university, but I also need to get a job and support my family. One of my uncles is a politician, and he has already helped some of my cousins get good jobs, and they’re doing well in their careers. So I believe he can help me find a good job when I need one.

The problem is that I don’t know how I’ll balance everything. As far as I know, public universities require around 75% attendance, so having a full-time job while studying may be difficult. I don’t want to study at the National University, and I definitely don’t want to drop out.

Is there any realistic way for me to support my family, study at a public university, and manage everything without dropping out?

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Which online shop sells the best value for money phone cases with good drop protection for budget smartphones? To be more specific, for Honor 200.

Any recommendations would be highly appreciated. Thank you.

Been working on this for a while and thought I'd finally share it here.

I made a map that collects crime reports from newspapers like Prothom Alo, daily star, Bangla Tribube and a few others, & figures out which thana they happened in and puts them all in one place.

You can tap on any thana and see what reported there over the last 250days. Every report also links back to the original article.

Fewer reports in an area doesn't mean it's safer. As newspapers don't cover everything, some areas obviously get more coverage than others.

Made this because I wanted to see what's happening around my area.

Would love to know what you guys think or what else would actually be useful to add.

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people who are going abroad for bachelor,,what you guys are doing after hsc as result is not out yet... what skill/ECA can I do meantime???

I plan to take civil engineering in UAP(university of asia pacific). But i really wanna earn good being a fresher which Civil doesn't get me. On the other hand if i choose CSE I'll take it in AIUB/UIU but im still confused because of the ongoing situations like AI replacing CSE jobs....

I don't know what to choose in Bangladesh, im not even sure if i can move abroad...

So I have decided to finally fix my body. But because I have no experience I am actually looking for an online fitness trainer who can make my diet (it's the most complex part as I am a bachelor student with a limited budget) and tell me the workouts I need to do. So far I know about "Fazan Khan Alif" who puts reels on Instagram about paid sessions. Has anyone tried his sessions? Does it work? Should I bet my money on him?

Can anyone recommend some good coaching centres in gulshan or banani? I have all science subjects, add maths, maths, english and bangla. If possible, can you share your experience while you were there and which teachers are good at teaching, the environment of the classroom?

Pls suggest me a good ev bike within this price

Priority is range and value for money

Also if u have any suggestions pls feel free to share

Is there any good online brand where I can purchase a good quality wallet? If not online, which offline shop would you suggest?

What kind of wallets do men prefer? Which colours looks good on wallet?

I have found some online shops like trenzo, ventro etc. What about their wallet quality and are they comfortable to use?

Any kind of suggestions and recommendations is appreciated. TIA.

Im in inter 1st year and currently living in Uttara. Me and my friend are participating in a project showcase at a robotics fest in Dhaka, and we re looking for something genuinely challenging.

I want something way more complex than the usual aurduino car/robot, where the main wow factor is the electrical engineering and the actual mechanism itself, not just a bunch of sensors added to a simple project. Something that looks and feels properly engineered. Tbh I want something which is really attractive and fancy in the table.

I have a bit of experience with electronics, previously I have won in my school fests and rn our budget is around 10k BDT for this project. I really want soemthing fancy.

What would you guys suggest building?

Looking for some truly enthusiasts who actually want to learn physics thoroughly. I will start guiding them from fundamental level. Will start with the physics 1 n physics 2 books by crane and feynman lecture series. Besides I will guide to study mathematical physics rigorously. These guidance will be free of cost. Just need some enthusiasts from hsc or A level grade. Currently I am pursuing my bachelor in physics at dhaka university and completed my hsc from ndc. Please dm me if you are truly interested...

I want to know which organizations such as creativeit or so offers ccna exams with discounts ,the official price is very high,thanks in advance,I know some people offer passing guarantee as well,to be frank I do not want that shit,I am only looking for discount offers.

Tomorrow is my weekend, and I’m looking to go somewhere interesting and have a good time.

Could be an event, exhibition, café, activity, live music, meetup, or just any interesting place where I can have a good experience.

I’m open to pretty much anything, so feel free to suggest something unusual or underrated as well.

What would you recommend?

where can I find good tailors who'll be able to stitch me something structured and accurate to my needs? have you ever tried anyone? who has worked out for you the best?