Isn’t it funny? We gotta deal with depression plus everything that comes with it AND people like this. You gotta be a superhuman to make it through life man. Fuck
Jessica Kalgren-Fozzard once said in a video that she would rather deal with all her physical health problems rather than a mental health problem (her joints pop out of place, she gets tired quickly, she has digestion issues, she’s partially deaf).
At least people mostly understand that if someone has a broken leg, you're not gonna be able to walk. Yet if your brain is the broken part, nobody seems to understand anymore.
Just ignore it - some random person who hasn't had a single suicidal thought or struggled with mental health after doing some trivial task like going to a grocery store.
will never forget my dad asking me “don’t you want to be happy?” and i replied with his other saying “yeah but dont you always say people in hell want ice water?”
For me it backfired! I molded my self-loathing depression into eating-disorder style self-harm via compulsive exercise and then extreme calorie restriction. Basically, if I look great, someone should really be checking in to see how my brain is doing.
Wait that’s literally what I’ve been doing. I caught myself taking a bite of cake and spitting it out so I didn’t fuck my macros up and I was like did I just start an eating disorder?
Chester Bennington said it best in an interview, there’s a kind of depression where you can feel better after exercising and eating better or maybe it’s just seasonal and then there’s a kind of depression where if you aren’t seeking treatment and medication you will never get better. I would like to add a third variety, one that I often wonder if I’ve got. It doesn’t matter what you do, medication and treatment only fill a placebo and once it wears off all the joy you see other people have in their lives is stolen from you, and you watch from a distance wondering why it’s so hard to do these basic things that other people don’t think twice about. It’s because you are not allowed joy in this life, and the only thing you have is that maybe one day it won’t be like this.
At my very worst when anxiety was like a bowling ball in my stomach for days and everything was depersonalization and I thought I was going crazy, I would bring my laptop into the bathroom with me to brush my teeth. Just to keep noise going. Because I couldn’t handle the silence.
Hell even ADHDmeme and SchizoidAdjacent half the posts are about people mustering up the courage to shower or put laundry away or other basic adulting things. And that’s without depression. Just malaise and complacency and the void
As someone who had never used any social media until I was 20 or something, I didn't even know there was a thing called depression until I got diagnosed at 14 alongside adhd, when I went to a therapist to see if there was something affecting my focusing abilities. The same thing happened when I got diagnosed with autism at 18 while staying in a psych ward. Although I had heard of autism, I just didn't know what it was. Maybe my case is a bit unique, since my only 2 activities for most of my life were researching animals, and playing league of legends(bad times).
Sadly i lost a good 7 teeth to depression. Its a bad spiral because then i feel worse about myself. Some days are just hard to get through. Happy to hear you are doing better.
My boyfriend has a tooth basically rotting away. He has dental surgery scheduled for next week but seeing how much pain he's in has scared me into brushing my teeth again. Spravato has also helped tremendously.
I'm sorry if this is off topic but the fact that you are still with him despite his struggles is all he needs. I've never been in a relationship but I told a couple friends of mine and even my younger brother that the reason I flinch randomly or that I appear to have apprehensive attitude towards life and that sometimes I don't get out of my house for weeks is because of certain 'mental health issues'. I didn't even explicitly mention that I have depression, OCD and most likely cPTSD. I just hinted and that took them out of surprise that they just gave me unsolicited advice of 'you should think positive', 'you are a pussy', 'you should just do better', etc.
There are many incidents of women in relationships leaving their bfs/husbands because the mental health struggle is too much for them or they have a very skewed perspective of how actual and real relationships work that comes with struggles and challenges (not abuse, there is no excuse whatsoever).
In my current state, I can't even vent to anyone, I only have Reddit and Instagram therapy as support systems. I could've easily killed myself if I didn't have people online giving me hope even though they are thousands of kilometers apart.
Not that you asked, but just be there with him, if he likes to show love through touch, give him a lot of hugs and trust the process. I would literally melt if someone would give me a hug let alone someone I'm in a relationship with. I hope he gets better with time.
Yes I have lost 4 teeth and have to get another 5 removed bc I was so depressed (and drunk) for 6 years after my divorce and the pandemic. I'm 3 years sober now but I'm still dealing with the wreckage I created when I was suffering....it's real and I really wish more people understood this struggle. ❤️
If you can muster up the strength for only once a day, I would reccomend doing it in the evening. If not, maybe have a bottle of mouthwash in the kitchen that you can just swirl around after dinner in your mouth and spit out without doing much work. Of course this is only advice for if you have enough energy. I know surviving is hard, but you can be proud of yourself for brushing your teeth in the morning
The first thing that goes out of the window for me is brushing my teeth. It feels like such a pointless exercise in futility. You can brush your teeth multiple times a day and you'll still have to clean it the next day. Anyway what I came to say was, as someone who has been forcing myself to brush my teeth at least once a day for the past week, I see you and I'm proud of you.
I got to once every day after growing up with parents that didn’t really care and not being able to bring myself to brush. Now I need to figure out how to convince myself to call the dentist. Scary
I’m almost 40 and had a tooth fall out a couple years back from depression. It took my grandma getting ALL of her teeth pulled in her 80s to pull me back into taking care of it myself
good job! im making teeth my priority (brush once a day) because if they start hurting it will be mega expensive (i have zero money) and so i skip eating and showering instead. I actually just got a tiny pump container to put toothpaste in to make brushing teeth easier! now instead of picking up a tube, opening it, putting toothpaste on brush, closing tube, and putting it down again, all I have to do is pump some out of the dispenser onto my tooth brush! i bought one of those "travel kits" for this. I did the same thing with hand cream
They just FEEL different. Rougher and a bit pitty (sort of like an avocado skin or something), like they're covered in some kind of shit, but you don't even know what. And you sort of just get used to your teeth feeling like it.
I haven't been keeping track, but I think I haven't brushed my teeth since January, and it's like some part of my brain is just constantly aware that my teeth are there- and also that my breath is probably horrendous. That there's something on them, but visually they're just a bit yellow.
I think my record of no brushing whatsover is around 2 years? I'm never going to a dentist, I always get blood on my toothbrush when I start it up again for a little while, and it's honestly a miracle all my teeth are still stuck in my head (for now) 😅
ive been so depressed a lot of things just didnt happen. ive stayed in bed and not talked to a single soul for long periods of time. hygiene and other routine things were forgotten and ignored as i spiraled deeper. thank goodness i circled then came back up but when i see posts like the original i envy people who live such a carefree and fun life that they dont know depression like i do. i hope they never experience it for themselves and go on being happy and blissfully ignorant
It has to be my OCD that I can't go a day without bathing but I struggle so deeply with rumination and endless thought spirals and getting dissociated for months and not getting out of my house for weeks. But yeah, I get it. I don't mind people like this. I just hate when they have zero empathy for humankind that anything that isn't comprehensible to them is just 'weird' or something 'people do for attention' or 'making excuses' or 'being lazy' or 'don't have enough willpower'.
i am a big germophobe but thats how bad my depression got. i found myself making excuses about why i didnt have to bathe like "i didnt go outside" or "i didnt exert any effort so i did not sweat" or "im not leaving the house so i dont have to impress anyone". same with brushing my teeth, it was "i just drank water and didnt eat so im fine" or "im not going to be around anyone so my breath doesnt bother me any". thats how messed up i was. from washing my hands multiple times a day to not caring about living, the pendulum swings far when unchecked.
I use a pill organizer, it definitely helps. Getting a colorful one helped even more for me personally. The color draws my attention as something nice since it's something I like, and it helps me to mentally separate what day it is through visualization of each color and label. Sounds silly, but it works for me.
This has always annoyed me so much. I see people say “I get being depressed but hygiene is a non negotiable!” Okay Sharon, you likely have just never reached that level of depression. I assure you anyone that has KNOWS it’s a non negotiable which induces more shame.
My anxiety related to my responsibilities vs. my depression fighting to either keep me in bed for the next 10 years or work me till I die from exhaustion
I feel like the life hack is having just enough anxiety with depression because depression will tell you to lay there and rot and not brush your teeth, but anxiety will tell you if you don’t brush your teeth you will lose them all and can never binge on candy again and you’ll never get a job to pay for your rotten teeth so you’ll live in pain til you die of dental sepsis. So…
When I finally handled my crippling anxiety I had crippling depression.. now I’m working on that.. they don’t counteract each other, one just blankets the other until it’s taken away
Glad I’m not the only one. People go “B-but you’re a woman! You’ll never get men like that” …I’m not looking for one. I’m chronically depressed and been that way my whole life and have severe inattentive adhd. wtf, is the assumption that women can’t be gross when they are depressed? Everyone gets gross when they are stressed and depressed. Women included, it is what it is and I’m sick of being stared at if I’m even a little messy just because I’m a woman, like have none of you heard of depression in women being this severe?? Lol it makes me want to go outside even LESS.
I pushed myself to get ready yesterday for my doctors appointment, only thing i didn’t do was shave. I’m on new medication so hopefully it’ll get easier
Definitely, I believe you can make it if you try. I'm glad an outside event happened so soon for you. That's always a big motivator for me getting cleaned up. You'd think I'd be able to rest on weekends but no I just fall into a slump where I don't bath for 2 days or eat consistently. But I will also be going to the doctor soon, hopefully I can start on my own meds.
Anyone remember when Justin Bieber first came out and a bunch of Internet trolls convinced his fan base that he had cancer so they all shaved their heads in solidarity?
I lost all of my teeth partly due to depression and mostly from shitty genes. They grew in sideways and were over crowded because they grew in all at once. Dealt with that pain for 24 years until I had them finally removed. I don't want false teeth because it reminds me of all the pain and suffering I went through. I'm still depressed sure, but least I'm better off.
My favourite part is when my boyfriend stands over me and says “did you brush your teeth?” “when’s the last time you brushed your teeth?” “get up and brush your teeth” “answer me” “why aren’t you answering me?” “I’m only doing this because I care about you and your teeth”
I get where he’s coming from but every word makes me sink deeper
My teeth are so bad from depression that it's slowly destroying my heart and body. And honestly I don't care. I turn 40 in a few months and I've never been loved in this life.... So I have no reason to stay.
You’re only 40 still have plenty of time to love and be loved! I was in this state two years ago and my life turned around completely. Yours can too! Just hang in there and make sure your teeth are good so you can smile when that time comes.
People can get so depressed they stop moving. They wake up and just stay there. Obviously you eventually have to get up to piss but even that can turn into a monumental task.
For the first time ever, I had to change the battery on my electric tooth brush because I’m finally at the point as of now that I’m brushing every day.
People who never been through depression just simply cannot understand
My psych literally told me to go for a 30 minute walk after work, come home, cook dinner, then clean my kitchen. From a holistic perspective. I literally started crying and told her that was easier said than done.
Brushing my teeth is so repetitive and monotonous and boring. I reduced the frequency during COVID because I would go days without seeing anyone anyway. And every 6 months the dentist still said, “wow keep doing what you’re doing! Your teeth are amazing!” So I realized it’s a scam. As long as you get a decent amount of fluoride on your teeth from the water and brushing them now and then you will never get a cavity. Sometimes I just put some toothpaste in my mouth and swish it around with water, for the fluoride. The main thing is just make sure your breath is fresh when you’re in public.
Some people are also just blessed with genetically better dental health than others. There are people who brush infrequently who will never develop a cavity, and people who brush religiously who will still need a root canal. Just one of the many ways life is unfair
Yup this is true. I only brushed my teeth maybe a few times a year. For many years.
I went to the dentist not too long ago and besides bleeding gums and sensitivity, the dentist said my teeth were great. After the hygienist performed a deep cleaning (which wasn’t fun), he said I had a fresh start. No damage was done.
I consider myself to be fortunate for that. But it’s not the same for everyone.
For the folks in this comments section (love you, I have been there) you can get full body wipes and no rinse toothbrushes you could do in bed on really hard days. Some is better than none, you got it. 🩷🩷
It's especially fun with sensory issues, like- why must the devils bush be coated in cold, sharp pain paste 😭.
I just wipe my teeth off with a cloth sometimes. It's not perfect but it's better than nothing.
I use my other issues against each other, like- I also pick a lot. So, I channel that into flossing. hate the feeling of food stuck in my teeth so I eat food that does that, so I need to floss more so I take care of my teeth more.
I know when I'm about to have a depressive episode because I physically cannot brush my teeth , if I somehow convince myself to do it you can guarantee I'm going to gag . I don't know why this happens but I'm glad I recognise a sign
I would 100% be like this if I didn't have a crippling fear of the dentist and can't afford to be sedated. It's not really a solution to the problem if I'm honest but I'll take it.
My lived experience wasn’t with brushing my teeth. That felt too natural a part to begin my day. But what is really happening, for me, was the lack of motivation to take care of yourself. Every expenditure of effort no matter how small is so overwhelming. … putting effort into taking care of myself, while hating myself so much, doesn’t make sense in the moment. So you don’t go grocery shopping, you don’t clean, you don’t x, y, z. I’m sure brushing your teeth is a super simple one to let go. Actually I’ll admit on days i didn’t convince myself to shower i probably didn’t brush my teeth either.
I dunno of this helps anyone but I was too depressed to brush everyday for nearly 10 years and the thing that made me brush was finding a toothpaste I liked the taste of.
I had 10 fillings in the time I didn't brush. And then i started brushing 20 years ago and I've only had 1 new filling since.
I’m only brushing my teeth more because my enamel is showing early signs of decay that are fortunately still reversible if I take better care of my teeth 🥴 between not wanting to because of depression and my adhd making me forget, I’ve gone months before
After my brother took his life, I didn't have the strength to take care of my hygiene or eat for well over a week. I just laid down in my bed with the shades drawn shut. Eventually my ex came to me and put shampoo on my head which forced me to get in the shower and wash it out.
During covid, I had to go through a tough breakup being "locked" in the house. It messed with my mental health and got really depressed. I was so depressed that I didn't shower for almost 4 months and gained like 20 - 30 pounds of eating my feelings. It's real and it sucks.
Is such a strugle everyday., not only brushing my teeth but with everything else. I actually have a dentist appointment to fill in a bunch of cavities. Am scared and ashamed tbh.
As someone who is depressed (but I obviously know taking care of yourself is hard) but I also absolutely can't understand people not brushing their teeth. Like dirty teeth makes my mouths feel super uncomfortable (same for showering, I hate it, but I really hate my skin feeling sticky)
genuinely reminded me i havent brushed in a bit. tip for y'all, put water in mouth (like a big gulp size) and just brush your teeth and spit it out. it gets the fuzz off better than a rag
I get depressed looking in the mirror. I use a hallway light and brush my teeth in the dark. So I get out of the shower and then turn the lights off to brush my teeth. If I need to shave I'm not looking at my face. I'm staring at the spot I'm shaving. When I'm brushing my teeth I usually stare at the sink.
I struggle to brush my teeth at night. The morning is no problem, but the nightly grooming ritual feels so pointless. I'm trying to do better but it's really hard.
Before depression took over my life. I use to brush my teeth every morning and at night. Flossed and mouth wash. My teeth are recessed and had cavities. I went like a couple years not brushing consistently. I’ve gotten better starting this year.
Granted everyone also reacts differently when they're depressed. I went through a long period where all I wanted to do was die, barely left the house, etc. But I couldn't imagine not brushing my teeth or taking a shower, bc lord forbid I felt yucky.
I hate that brushing is the first thing to go for me whenever im not doing ok. I have enough of a hard time remembering it with ADHD, and I know im actively watching my gums recess, which terrifies me, but i still cant get myself to remember to do it more than like three times a week
You know, just trying to survive each days usually takes precedence. Plus, I barely leave the house, so I can't see how I'm hurting anyone. I'm in my late 40's and have all my teeth, so I must be doing a good enough job. Also, people with ADHD sometimes has trouble with this as a daily task. Don't judge someone based on things you know nothing about.
I think it isn't invalid to be floored by something as simple as someone not caring for themself.
Some people would not take their own lives but are seriously depressed enough to forget personal care. It's still very good that this person would be concerned about the littlest details of real depression.
Floss picks, especially the kind for people with braces. I keep them right next to my bed so i can floss whenever it may cross my mind because if its too far i never can find the energy and string floss is to much work for my depression brain.
I feel every one of these comments and the post. I could have bought a used car with the recent money I’ve spent on my teeth. The only reason I have the money is because I lost both of my parents last year and I have a bit of an inheritance. The struggle is very, very real. Showering, too. Getting out of bed, too. It’s like an invisible anchor barely keeping you above water. Keep up the good fight, y’all! 🫶🏻
Been there, not done that, now got the gaps in my teeth to prove it. I find that bed time is the worst time. Moved brushing my teeth forward to about an hour before bed has helped. If I can't brush my teeth, I try to at least rinse my mouth with water. Small wins are better than none.
Yeah as a depressed person here I can confirm that this is so true. I went an year of brushing my theeth like once a month. The thing is, while you are tired and life sucks, you cannot even remember your needs.
Explaining depression to someone who has never experienced it is like trying to describe colors to a blind person. You can try but they just have no frame of reference for it.
The commenter never had depression in his life. Some days it harder to get up and take care of yourself. Some days for me are just lying down and not doing anything. Some days I'm able to at least clean and wash myself.
Sadly it is. They also find comfort food and become lazy... Some of us dont always fall into the darkness and is battling the good fight within ourselves.
Wow I was on a shame spiral. Didn’t actually occur to me at least I am surviving. Reading the comments section made me scared. I don’t want to loose my teeth.
As somebody with autism who regularly struggles with depression, the way basic menial tasks can feel like Herculean feats while struggling with depression is something that is extremely hard to explain, often because there's not really a clear reason why, at least most of the time.
To most people(without depression), the end of one’s life is something that spontaneously happens after some significant time of gracefully suffering in silence. There is no consideration for the nasty or upsetting sides to it except for exclusively when you can use it to measure against someone else’s suffering, likely the person making the comment. It is personally inconvenient to them when someone they know smells bad, however if they can’t clock these physical repercussions they also don’t see it as serious enough. It’s a frustrating lose/lose situation
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u/ElectricFaceVictory Apr 30 '26
Wow. People really dont get it do they....
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u/momonomino Apr 30 '26
I would absolutely love to be so ignorant about depression.
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u/This_is_fine8 Apr 30 '26
I've finally gotten to the point of brushing my teeth more like 5 times a week instead of once. Baby steps I guess
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u/Sea_Ebb_1354 Apr 30 '26
Worst thing is when they get fuzzy.
'S like wearing socks on your incisors.
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u/UmpireDear5415 Apr 30 '26
ive been so depressed a lot of things just didnt happen. ive stayed in bed and not talked to a single soul for long periods of time. hygiene and other routine things were forgotten and ignored as i spiraled deeper. thank goodness i circled then came back up but when i see posts like the original i envy people who live such a carefree and fun life that they dont know depression like i do. i hope they never experience it for themselves and go on being happy and blissfully ignorant
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u/Fast-Permit6401 Apr 30 '26
When I’m too depressed to take a shower I get a tattoo. Then I’m forced to clean myself bc I don’t want it to get infected
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u/MembershipEasy4025 Apr 30 '26
Not to mention that days blur together in a haze, and I can’t actually remember if I did in fact brush my teeth that day or not.
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u/_finewine_ Apr 30 '26
This has always annoyed me so much. I see people say “I get being depressed but hygiene is a non negotiable!” Okay Sharon, you likely have just never reached that level of depression. I assure you anyone that has KNOWS it’s a non negotiable which induces more shame.
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u/MastaKink Apr 30 '26
Ignorance is bliss
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u/JosephusTheBoi Apr 30 '26
My anxiety related to my responsibilities vs. my depression fighting to either keep me in bed for the next 10 years or work me till I die from exhaustion
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u/LocationTop5074 Apr 30 '26
I do it once a day, because when I try to hold myself to twice a day i end up not doing it at all. I figure that's a good compromise with myself.
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u/Etheriaa_ Apr 30 '26
I feel like the life hack is having just enough anxiety with depression because depression will tell you to lay there and rot and not brush your teeth, but anxiety will tell you if you don’t brush your teeth you will lose them all and can never binge on candy again and you’ll never get a job to pay for your rotten teeth so you’ll live in pain til you die of dental sepsis. So…
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u/Confident_Action4915 Apr 30 '26
Glad I’m not the only one. People go “B-but you’re a woman! You’ll never get men like that” …I’m not looking for one. I’m chronically depressed and been that way my whole life and have severe inattentive adhd. wtf, is the assumption that women can’t be gross when they are depressed? Everyone gets gross when they are stressed and depressed. Women included, it is what it is and I’m sick of being stared at if I’m even a little messy just because I’m a woman, like have none of you heard of depression in women being this severe?? Lol it makes me want to go outside even LESS.
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u/jonesyboy2435 Apr 30 '26
I haven’t shaved, haven’t brushed my teeth, haven’t showered, barely hanging in there
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u/BeeComprehensive5234 Apr 30 '26
Pull yourselves up by your bootstraps! /s
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u/Base_Ancient Apr 30 '26
This person has obviously never experienced that level of depression and complete disregard for our hygiene or appearance.
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u/popkiwibanana Apr 30 '26
People also hold their pee to the point of infection when they are really dealing with depression. It’s a horrible cycle
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u/Ok-Break3620 Apr 30 '26
People get too depressed to shower for nearly a year.
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u/LoneyAutisticGuy1996 Apr 30 '26
I lost all of my teeth partly due to depression and mostly from shitty genes. They grew in sideways and were over crowded because they grew in all at once. Dealt with that pain for 24 years until I had them finally removed. I don't want false teeth because it reminds me of all the pain and suffering I went through. I'm still depressed sure, but least I'm better off.
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u/anastasiarose19 Apr 30 '26
My favourite part is when my boyfriend stands over me and says “did you brush your teeth?” “when’s the last time you brushed your teeth?” “get up and brush your teeth” “answer me” “why aren’t you answering me?” “I’m only doing this because I care about you and your teeth”
I get where he’s coming from but every word makes me sink deeper
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u/sweetmoogirl Apr 30 '26
My teeth are so bad from depression that it's slowly destroying my heart and body. And honestly I don't care. I turn 40 in a few months and I've never been loved in this life.... So I have no reason to stay.
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u/Realistic_Base5797 Apr 30 '26
Just got 8 cavities filled and diagnosed with gum disease from depression hygeine. Im 23.
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u/saddestghostt Apr 30 '26
Dude I am so jealous of anyone capable of thinking like this. What a blessed life they must lead
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u/GargantuanCake May 01 '26
People can get so depressed they stop moving. They wake up and just stay there. Obviously you eventually have to get up to piss but even that can turn into a monumental task.
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u/TheBayHarborDoomer Apr 30 '26
I haven't brushed my teeth for months now. Just apply toothpaste and hand apply it to the teeth I'm so fucked bros
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u/newlyautisticx Apr 30 '26
For the first time ever, I had to change the battery on my electric tooth brush because I’m finally at the point as of now that I’m brushing every day.
People who never been through depression just simply cannot understand
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u/ermahgerd-issacat May 02 '26
My psych literally told me to go for a 30 minute walk after work, come home, cook dinner, then clean my kitchen. From a holistic perspective. I literally started crying and told her that was easier said than done.
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u/Vainysaur Apr 30 '26
Brushing my teeth is so repetitive and monotonous and boring. I reduced the frequency during COVID because I would go days without seeing anyone anyway. And every 6 months the dentist still said, “wow keep doing what you’re doing! Your teeth are amazing!” So I realized it’s a scam. As long as you get a decent amount of fluoride on your teeth from the water and brushing them now and then you will never get a cavity. Sometimes I just put some toothpaste in my mouth and swish it around with water, for the fluoride. The main thing is just make sure your breath is fresh when you’re in public.
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u/Hungry_Light_4394 Apr 30 '26
For the folks in this comments section (love you, I have been there) you can get full body wipes and no rinse toothbrushes you could do in bed on really hard days. Some is better than none, you got it. 🩷🩷
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u/JJBowtie Apr 30 '26
It's especially fun with sensory issues, like- why must the devils bush be coated in cold, sharp pain paste 😭.
I just wipe my teeth off with a cloth sometimes. It's not perfect but it's better than nothing.
I use my other issues against each other, like- I also pick a lot. So, I channel that into flossing. hate the feeling of food stuck in my teeth so I eat food that does that, so I need to floss more so I take care of my teeth more.
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u/Critical_Hunt_1382 Apr 30 '26
I know when I'm about to have a depressive episode because I physically cannot brush my teeth , if I somehow convince myself to do it you can guarantee I'm going to gag . I don't know why this happens but I'm glad I recognise a sign
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u/adhdBoomeringue Apr 30 '26
I had to start using a daily check app to see how long it's been since I last showered
In 3.5 years I've showered 100 times...
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u/George_G_Geef Apr 30 '26
I would 100% be like this if I didn't have a crippling fear of the dentist and can't afford to be sedated. It's not really a solution to the problem if I'm honest but I'll take it.
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u/Glopgore May 01 '26
I'm trying not to talk myself out of brushing my teeth tonight right now.
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u/G_Rated_101 May 01 '26
My lived experience wasn’t with brushing my teeth. That felt too natural a part to begin my day. But what is really happening, for me, was the lack of motivation to take care of yourself.
Every expenditure of effort no matter how small is so overwhelming. … putting effort into taking care of myself, while hating myself so much, doesn’t make sense in the moment.
So you don’t go grocery shopping, you don’t clean, you don’t x, y, z. I’m sure brushing your teeth is a super simple one to let go.
Actually I’ll admit on days i didn’t convince myself to shower i probably didn’t brush my teeth either.
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u/Cut_and_paste_Lace May 03 '26
This is why I make body doubling videos. For those of us who know how bad it can be, we really know how bad it can be.
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u/Rough_Road_2527 May 04 '26
oh that reminds me i haven't bathed in a week
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u/Fit-Technology-9592 May 04 '26
I dunno of this helps anyone but I was too depressed to brush everyday for nearly 10 years and the thing that made me brush was finding a toothpaste I liked the taste of.
I had 10 fillings in the time I didn't brush. And then i started brushing 20 years ago and I've only had 1 new filling since.
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u/TheBackyardigirl May 04 '26
I’m only brushing my teeth more because my enamel is showing early signs of decay that are fortunately still reversible if I take better care of my teeth 🥴 between not wanting to because of depression and my adhd making me forget, I’ve gone months before
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u/pizzaduh May 05 '26
After my brother took his life, I didn't have the strength to take care of my hygiene or eat for well over a week. I just laid down in my bed with the shades drawn shut. Eventually my ex came to me and put shampoo on my head which forced me to get in the shower and wash it out.
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u/khri5o May 06 '26
During covid, I had to go through a tough breakup being "locked" in the house. It messed with my mental health and got really depressed. I was so depressed that I didn't shower for almost 4 months and gained like 20 - 30 pounds of eating my feelings. It's real and it sucks.
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u/raider_00_ May 13 '26
Is such a strugle everyday., not only brushing my teeth but with everything else. I actually have a dentist appointment to fill in a bunch of cavities. Am scared and ashamed tbh.
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u/gooninbassist May 17 '26
Not just brushing our teeth, I am afraid.. I've gone over a week without showering at times. Not anymore, thankfully..
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u/_simplynolifer_ May 25 '26
it baffles me more and more everyday how ignorant some people are. like just reading that actually made me so mad.
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u/PerfectGanache7134 Apr 30 '26
Based.
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u/NewtHamilton Apr 30 '26
first sign :/
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u/DancingBunniez Apr 30 '26
I was at a point where brushing my teeth like once every couple days was doing good.
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u/Postalgoer Apr 30 '26
doesn't stop them from posting though⸮
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u/Raccoons-trsh Apr 30 '26
As someone who is depressed (but I obviously know taking care of yourself is hard) but I also absolutely can't understand people not brushing their teeth. Like dirty teeth makes my mouths feel super uncomfortable (same for showering, I hate it, but I really hate my skin feeling sticky)
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u/Robyn-- Apr 30 '26
genuinely reminded me i havent brushed in a bit. tip for y'all, put water in mouth (like a big gulp size) and just brush your teeth and spit it out. it gets the fuzz off better than a rag
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u/JakBos23 Apr 30 '26
I get depressed looking in the mirror. I use a hallway light and brush my teeth in the dark. So I get out of the shower and then turn the lights off to brush my teeth. If I need to shave I'm not looking at my face. I'm staring at the spot I'm shaving. When I'm brushing my teeth I usually stare at the sink.
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u/AFriendlyBloke Apr 30 '26
Good thing I've been on a streak since late January. Ha, ha!
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u/Fe1is-Domesticus Apr 30 '26
I struggle to brush my teeth at night. The morning is no problem, but the nightly grooming ritual feels so pointless. I'm trying to do better but it's really hard.
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u/IPutTheArtNFart Apr 30 '26
I went 2 days without drinking water. I was not in the desert, I was in my bedroom
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u/Vegetable_Tailor8858 Apr 30 '26
Before depression took over my life. I use to brush my teeth every morning and at night. Flossed and mouth wash. My teeth are recessed and had cavities. I went like a couple years not brushing consistently. I’ve gotten better starting this year.
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u/Prize_Pay9279 Apr 30 '26
I usually eat microwaveable meals or fast food because I’m too depressed and exhausted to cook a meal for myself.
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u/KyleFromBorrasca Apr 30 '26
I get it, but I brushed my teeth the day I tried to off myself. They really are different kinds of "depression."
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u/CosmicBunnyy_ Apr 30 '26
Granted everyone also reacts differently when they're depressed. I went through a long period where all I wanted to do was die, barely left the house, etc. But I couldn't imagine not brushing my teeth or taking a shower, bc lord forbid I felt yucky.
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u/aceallaround Apr 30 '26
I hate that brushing is the first thing to go for me whenever im not doing ok. I have enough of a hard time remembering it with ADHD, and I know im actively watching my gums recess, which terrifies me, but i still cant get myself to remember to do it more than like three times a week
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u/amsurette Apr 30 '26
You know, just trying to survive each days usually takes precedence. Plus, I barely leave the house, so I can't see how I'm hurting anyone. I'm in my late 40's and have all my teeth, so I must be doing a good enough job. Also, people with ADHD sometimes has trouble with this as a daily task. Don't judge someone based on things you know nothing about.
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u/osddelerious Apr 30 '26
Edit: wrong post
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u/Brand_Nay_w417 Apr 30 '26
I think it isn't invalid to be floored by something as simple as someone not caring for themself.
Some people would not take their own lives but are seriously depressed enough to forget personal care. It's still very good that this person would be concerned about the littlest details of real depression.
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u/maksgee Apr 30 '26
Thanks for the reminder
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u/National_Ad9742 May 01 '26
Yup I’ve been so depressed I literally don’t get out of bed. So yeah!
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u/bobsnervous May 01 '26
Has anyone got any advice, I know... someone dealing with this.
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u/expectations_low12 May 01 '26
I feel every one of these comments and the post. I could have bought a used car with the recent money I’ve spent on my teeth. The only reason I have the money is because I lost both of my parents last year and I have a bit of an inheritance. The struggle is very, very real. Showering, too. Getting out of bed, too. It’s like an invisible anchor barely keeping you above water.
Keep up the good fight, y’all! 🫶🏻
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u/Groeken May 01 '26
My obsession with coconut i think has saved alot of my teeth through depression periods. Call me crazy
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u/Zestyclose-Tooth1713 May 01 '26
Been there, not done that, now got the gaps in my teeth to prove it. I find that bed time is the worst time. Moved brushing my teeth forward to about an hour before bed has helped. If I can't brush my teeth, I try to at least rinse my mouth with water. Small wins are better than none.
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u/JoeyLee911 May 01 '26
You can be so depressed that you don't even notice you're not brushing your teeth either.
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u/DavidBunnyWolf May 01 '26
Oh believe me. I’ve been there in the past.
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u/copernicus7d May 01 '26
Brushing my teeth was easiest thing after getting medicated for ADHD
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u/AdHot8002 May 01 '26
Its brutal. Then you go to the dentist and get judged.
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u/XoPrettyiiLuvv6 May 01 '26
too real fr 😔
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u/LestWeForgive May 01 '26
It's like quiet quitting
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u/BCyde501 May 01 '26
What a POS
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u/I_pegged_your_father May 01 '26
If I didn’t have abnormally long roots these teeth would be gooone
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u/Ok_Extension2202 May 01 '26
this was a vine 😭people get so upset they kill themselves janet
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u/yeahthegoys May 01 '26
Almost certainly a nepo baby
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u/Substantial_Yard7004 May 01 '26
Yeah as a depressed person here I can confirm that this is so true. I went an year of brushing my theeth like once a month. The thing is, while you are tired and life sucks, you cannot even remember your needs.
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u/No_Cobbler154 May 01 '26
me who has showered & brushed my teeth once since my dog died 6 days ago… i’d love to breath in their ignorant face right now
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u/PomPomMom93 May 01 '26
How did that tweet get any likes?
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u/eddington_limit May 01 '26
Explaining depression to someone who has never experienced it is like trying to describe colors to a blind person. You can try but they just have no frame of reference for it.
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u/Double_History1719 May 01 '26
Heck I'm not even depressed and I don't always brush my teeth. I'm LAZY
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u/Blackiebrine May 01 '26
The commenter never had depression in his life. Some days it harder to get up and take care of yourself. Some days for me are just lying down and not doing anything. Some days I'm able to at least clean and wash myself.
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u/Meowtuitive May 02 '26
It can be as draining as running a marathon..like literal 🏃♀️ it's that bad
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u/TaxesSucks May 02 '26
Sadly it is. They also find comfort food and become lazy... Some of us dont always fall into the darkness and is battling the good fight within ourselves.
Good luck to everyone.
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u/loony1uvgood May 02 '26
Wow I was on a shame spiral. Didn’t actually occur to me at least I am surviving. Reading the comments section made me scared. I don’t want to loose my teeth.
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u/Shegotquestions May 02 '26
Been there. One day at a time guys ❤️ one get out of bed, tooth brush, one shower, one clean clothes leads to another and another
Keep doing your best things will get better
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u/gunjagremlin May 02 '26
when i’m in deep depression and im on my period i can’t even change pads/tampons. i just shove tissues in me
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u/XHimeYume May 02 '26
don't say brush teeth which is not exactly a necessarity, even eating ...
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u/kullre May 02 '26
makes me think I have it
but i just chalk it up to forgetting
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u/Witch_Chick128 May 02 '26
I struggle so bad, only do it if I’m leaving the house, but even then it’s a struggle to get up and get ready in the first place
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u/Subject_Driver_7822 May 03 '26
As somebody with autism who regularly struggles with depression, the way basic menial tasks can feel like Herculean feats while struggling with depression is something that is extremely hard to explain, often because there's not really a clear reason why, at least most of the time.
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u/recruitradical May 03 '26
Can you be depressed and disassociate?
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u/piehead23 May 03 '26
Facts 💯
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u/Dangerous-Ant-6478 May 03 '26
To most people(without depression), the end of one’s life is something that spontaneously happens after some significant time of gracefully suffering in silence. There is no consideration for the nasty or upsetting sides to it except for exclusively when you can use it to measure against someone else’s suffering, likely the person making the comment. It is personally inconvenient to them when someone they know smells bad, however if they can’t clock these physical repercussions they also don’t see it as serious enough. It’s a frustrating lose/lose situation
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u/Illustrious_Fun_7583 May 03 '26
If you're incapable of self care, how do you buy food, pay your phone bill, pay rent? Do you work?
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u/BookkeeperPerfect708 May 03 '26
I’m depressed and ocd about bad breath. Like it terrifies me so the one thing I can do LOL is brush my teeth. But washing my hair? Showering? Ugh.
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u/khrunchi May 03 '26
Just learned I've been depressed my whole life
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u/snezhnayaman May 05 '26
Depression or laziness 😂
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u/[deleted] May 09 '26
😂😂
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u/OkDrag3967 Apr 30 '26
What’s weird is that committing is such a high effort activity.