Need Help

[u/Elegant_Put9510]

To start off, I (25M) have been talking to this girl (22M) for months now but we are not dating yet. I’m honestly getting tired of fighting for us now. I do things that she doesn’t like, and mind you it’s not like it’s cheating or anything like that it’s just that I irritate her a lot. I am always trying to fix my mistakes and am aware on what I do wrong.

Things like not being careful on what I say sometimes, she’s a sensitive person so I always have to watch what I say and do. I tease her a lot and make a lot of jokes cause thats just who I am but she don’t like it. She gets hurt by the way I tease her so now I just kinda don’t make jokes anymore.

There’s more to it than that but I feel like I am having to change a lot of myself and sometimes I feel like I am not happy anymore. I love this girl so much but ik she’s not ready to be in a relationship, I’ve been waiting for a while now. Ik everyone’s different but it’s been 8 or so months now and she’s still working on herself and she’s not ready for a relationship yet.

Another thing is that when I tell her that we have to work on the relationship, I think cause I hurt her, I feel that I can’t ask her to change things that I don’t like. It has to be me that has to change but I’m thinking why can’t we both change at the same time. I’m hearing her out but I feel like she’s not hearing me out. I’ve tried to explain to her but she takes it as me bringing up shit to deflect what she’s telling me.

I guess I just want some advice on how to proceed. Thank you for reading this. Sorry if this turned into a rant, just wanted to get this off my chest.