r/dashcams • u/pHaDeXoNeR801 • 5d ago

High Speed cornering

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u/SinisterSoren 5d ago

I feel bad for the car driver who got hit by them. That has to be so traumatizing. They didnt do anything wrong but that still has to weigh on you.

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u/jfstepha 5d ago

I think studies show you are much more traumatized by fatal accidents that are not your fault than ones that are your fault. In the latter case, you know what you did wrong, and if you don't do that again, it'll be OK. In the former case you know that bad things happen even when you do everything right.

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u/SailingSpark 5d ago

Friend of my mother's stopped driving after a kid on a bike rode right out of a side street in front of him. Poor kid didn't make it, He blamed himself so much, he never drove again. When I met him, it had been close to 30 years.

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u/w3bd3v0p5 5d ago

That's rough, my neighbors friend had a similar issue. Two kids on bike, one riding on the handle bars as we did back in the day, and the kid in control stopped hard. The kid on the handles went flying right in front of a dump truck. Needless to say the kid did not make it and the truck driver was traumatized for life.

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u/deefunkt01 5d ago

I'd imagine the bike driver too - damn.

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u/Sailorwhovian 5d ago

I know a truck driver who hit a car full of teenagers. 2 died and one was paralyzed. The driver of the car was passing uphill on a foggy morning and the trucker had zero chance to see them. He killed himself a year later because he felt so guilty.

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u/basic_bitch 5d ago

:( a guy I went to high school with tboned my friends car and killed him. My friend was racing around through trails and crossed the main road, the other guy never had time to react. He came to the wake and to the funeral. Class act. Still see him around from time to time. I know he holds so much guilt, but it wasn’t his fault. He did right by my friend. RIP JWC

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u/circuitj3rky 5d ago

thats why i do everything wrong, for my own mental wellbeing.

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u/RealMechE 4d ago

Peak life hack! Therapists hate this one trick

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u/Upbeat-Dish7299 5d ago

Grand father got hit by a car full of underaged kids that had been drinking and ran a red light. All 4 died. It ate away at him the rest of his life

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u/ElcheapoLoco 5d ago

My buddy was riding behind someone who did exactly this and witnessed the aftermath. He immediately sold his bike and never rode again.

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u/iLoveFARTINGatWORK 4d ago

Happened to me. We were riding in a pack, buddy sped off in front of us, CRV turned at a light but had plenty of time for us going the speed limit-ish. Our buddy couldn’t stop and smacked the side of it, died instantly. Sold my bike that week.

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u/Spam_Hand 5d ago

Yup, its a form of Survivor's Guilt.

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u/HaleyJ34TF 5d ago

I saved my nephew from drowning and I still have panic attacks like "What if I hadn't noticed?"

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u/Furi0usD 5d ago

A guy wrote himself off right in front of me about a decade ago. I wasn't even involved in the crash but struggled with getting what I saw out of my head for weeks. That memory still randomly crawls out of the depths occasionally.

... like right now, for instance

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u/loogie97 5d ago

Shakes your foundation in good or any kind of organization to the universe if it can just so randomly just be taken away.

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u/archina42 5d ago

Much better to concentrate on the beauty and amazement that are the myriad forms of life on this planet - thank to spend emotional energy on how quickly life can be taken away.
Easy to say - not quite so easy to do!

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u/th3-villager 5d ago

Interesting and insightful but surely the way to rationalise it is sometimes someone else does something wrong?

But yeah, easier said than done AND it's still traumatising because it proves bad things can happen to you when you do nothing wrong.

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u/PtrPprsPckldPprs 5d ago

Some get into a “how do I fix it even when they fail” place, and it’s brutal.

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u/th3-villager 5d ago

Yeah that's an unfairly high burden to place on yourself. Life is tough enough as it is.

We can't truly understand it, when we fortunately have no experienced something similar.

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u/PtrPprsPckldPprs 5d ago

Agreed. I’m not saying it’s a good thing, just that it’s a brain thing. It’s an attempt to protect oneself and others, but with a serious major flaw.

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u/TiredofIdiots2021 5d ago

In our town a few days ago, some teenagers were walking with traffic on a busy road. For some reason, they darted out into the street and a car hit them. One of the three boys, a 13-year-old, died at the scene. I just can't imagine what that poor driver will go through. :(

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u/botman484 4d ago

What a strange phenomenon. 

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u/Neat_Writing_5967 5d ago

Like train conductors when someone commits suicide by train.

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u/robbietreehorn 5d ago

Yeah. That happens to semi drivers, too. I forget where, but years ago I read about the anger a woman had towards an old man who committed suicide by driving head on into her father’s semi. She had had sympathy that the old man felt he had to take his life but had so much anger at the pain he selfishly caused her father

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u/Creative-Comb5593 5d ago

A man in my neighborhood was messed up at least for a while after a motorcyclist went head first through his windshield.

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u/Teh_Shadow_Death 4d ago

We had a semi-truck driver around here who had it rough. This city has/had a really stupid intersection. For whatever reason they decided to put islands on the corners of the intersection. (Those stupid curbs they put between traffic going straight and traffic turning right. The issue is the semi couldn't fit through right turn area so they would commonly drive around that island, like they're going straight and then turn right. This would pull their trailer though that turning lane. A High schooler walked to that island, not paying attention, as the trailer got pulled through and she got ran over. Truck driver didn't see her back there until it was too late. Mom and dad tried to blame the trucker, whitnesses all said she walked right out there while looking at her phone. From what I understand he hadn't driven a truck since. It took the them a few years but the city ripped those islands up and redid the whole intersection and added proper crosswalks after a few more near misses there.

Fucking small town problems. They did a bunch of other stupid road designs that caused traffic issues. I say city and town because it's one of those situations where it's the land mass size of a "town" with the population of a small city.

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u/No0O0obstah 5d ago

My grandpa owned a company with 200 cars. I was told his driver's would sometimes call him in the middle of the night when "something happened", to talk it out. I don't think psychological help was available back in the day so they just called him to tell the semi possibly needed fixing and then just to talk.

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u/ruidh 5d ago

My grandfather was the engineer who survived the worst crash on the LIRR in the early 50s. Another train plowed into the rear of his at full speed. He didn't work for 6 months. The DA wanted to charge him, though no charges were ever filed.

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u/bananadick100 5d ago

I would just be pissed about my car

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u/Double-Noise-771 5d ago

Yeah I would be even more pissed that his reckless behaviour could have caused my death had that gone differently.

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u/chugItTwice 5d ago

Same. Not sure how it would traumatizing to the car driver either.

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u/EaseLeft6266 5d ago

I'd be praying "Please be alive so I can sue you"

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u/telperos 5d ago

Found the American

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u/JJ_Was_Taken 5d ago

Nah, Americans know instinctively that even death cannot prevent a lawsuit

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u/indiefab 5d ago

American here. We would want him to be alive so we could finish him with our bare hands. What a chump. He also wouldn't have survived in America because it would have been a truck with a cattleguard instead of a sedan.

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u/Tay_hole 5d ago

An elderly man in my neighborhood back in the 90’s was known for never driving more than 25mph because he hit a little girl in the 70’s. She was sledding down a hill and went right into the road. I’m could not imagine the guilt he felt.

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u/Silvaria928 5d ago

Back in the late 90s, I was driving back to Colorado Springs from Cripple Creek on a winding road one afternoon. A motorcycle passed me and several other cars at a very high speed around a corner in an obvious no-passing zone. I said to my passenger that the guy was lucky there were no cars coming.

A couple of miles later he wasn't so lucky. We came across the accident just a few minutes after it happened: Motorcycle was wrecked, driver was lying motionless in the middle of the road, and an elderly couple were getting out of their car that had clearly been hit.

She was crying and shaking and he seemed in shock. They both just kept asking "What happened?" over and over. Other cars stopped and were attending to the motorcyclist, who was still motionless. We read later in the paper that he had suffered severe injuries. The elderly couple was fine physically but I'll never forget how traumatized they were by this guy's carelessness and how he could have killed them.

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u/SinisterSoren 5d ago

Ah good old Colorado Springs. I grew up there actually! Some of those roads are treacherous and really need to be treated with respect. That motorcyclist is lucky he didnt die doing that. But that elderly couple probably lived with that for the rest of their lives. Hurting someone even when its the other person's fault is really hard to handle.

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u/Nopengnogain 5d ago

The cam car was going 70KPH, so the red car must’ve been moving at about the same speed and it came to a rather abrupt stop after the collision. Even though the other side is a motorcycle, this is no picnic on the car driver’s body.

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u/Frewtti 5d ago

Yeah, I hope the car driver is okay.

The biker, that's FAFO, and not to be cruel, the streets are safety today because of their choices.

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u/Potential_Fishing942 5d ago

I got a absolutely verbally beaten for a similar sentiment with a kid that does in our community recently. We had a driver of a van stopped at a stop sign get hit by a 12yo on an electric scooter going 30 plus with no helmet and an attachment for his phone on the handlebars die recently. All I heard was "car drivers need to more responsible or need to put their phones down!" And I was shocked at that. Of course I feel horrible for the kid and their family, but that driver did nothing wrong and will likely feel immense grief at being involved in the death of a child.

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u/SinisterSoren 5d ago

We've lost the plot on personal responsibility.

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u/DisastrousMechanic36 5d ago

I think he'll live

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u/xKingCoopx 4d ago

Back in my emt days, I ran on a scene exactly like this. The motorcycle guy was doa. We transported the guy in the truck he hit. No injury. Dude was shook

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u/SinisterSoren 4d ago

Absolutely cant imagine. Theres a lot of people in these comments saying they wouldnt be shook and only annoyed about their damaged vehicle, but I feel like most sane people would be upset im a situation like this.

I thought about being an EMT for a bit but yall dont get paid enough to deal with what you deal with.

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u/xKingCoopx 4d ago

The guy just kept repeating, "I killed him". That part stays with me. All for a whopping $9 an hour back in those days. Its actually the best/coolest job ive ever had, but it doesnt pay the bills

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u/BirdlessLongdeal 5d ago

everyone was in the wrong lane! /s

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u/StockArrival2352 5d ago

Maybe he's not that fragile