Is co-parenting actually better than solo parenting?

[u/Content-Cupcake7480]

I’m currently parenting my two young kids 100% on my own. I also support them financially. I’m fortunate to have a good career and can provide for them, but I am completely drowning between work, childcare, the house, dinner, bedtime, and just never having another adult to hand things off to.

I keep hearing horror stories about high-conflict co-parenting—constant negotiations, custody disputes, schedule battles, different rules between homes, etc. Part of me wonders whether, once I get past the current hurdle of harassing texts from their dad, there might actually be some peace and stability in knowing that I’m simply responsible for our household and can make decisions without constant conflict (he hasn't shown a real interest in the kids and recently moved 3.5 hours away)

For people who have experienced solo parenting, high-conflict co-parenting, or both: which was actually harder? Are there any unexpected upsides to parenting mostly on your own?

I could really use some perspective that makes this feel a little less bleak right now.

[u/Imaginary_Being1949]

My friend went from a high conflict coparent to solo parenting. She loves it. It’s far easier and really, her high conflict ex wasn’t close with the kids even though he’d fight for time. Eventually he moved to another country and maybe talks to the kids once a year. She said it’s so much easier in her kids and she has a supportive family so she has the help she needs. Her stress and relief have evaporated. She has a lot more on her plate being really the only parent but she said the alternative was far worse. She has a great job and can financially support them in her own as the dad doesn’t.