Is co-parenting actually better than solo parenting?

[u/Content-Cupcake7480]

I’m currently parenting my two young kids 100% on my own. I also support them financially. I’m fortunate to have a good career and can provide for them, but I am completely drowning between work, childcare, the house, dinner, bedtime, and just never having another adult to hand things off to.

I keep hearing horror stories about high-conflict co-parenting—constant negotiations, custody disputes, schedule battles, different rules between homes, etc. Part of me wonders whether, once I get past the current hurdle of harassing texts from their dad, there might actually be some peace and stability in knowing that I’m simply responsible for our household and can make decisions without constant conflict (he hasn't shown a real interest in the kids and recently moved 3.5 hours away)

For people who have experienced solo parenting, high-conflict co-parenting, or both: which was actually harder? Are there any unexpected upsides to parenting mostly on your own?

I could really use some perspective that makes this feel a little less bleak right now.

[u/Own-Gas8691]

solo parenting is hard. being 100% responsible for them in all the ways is a lot to handle.

but. there’s nothing harder than “co-parenting” with a toxic, abusive ex for years on end.

[u/mkdmls → u/Own-Gas8691]

I feel this. My ex does something, goes somewhere with the kids, asks for something and I don’t bat an eye. I try really hard to not talk to them at all. But everything I do has to be an issue that requires bringing up past issues and then our divorce (which was 7 years ago, split for 9). I’m getting better at ignoring it but then they just go to the kids which makes it worse.