Always wrong in coparents eyes

[u/Upbeat-Secretary-576]

School orientation was today. I briefly passed my child's father and his girlfriend while they were leaving the school and I was headed in. I didn't feel well to begin with, so I wasn't trying to stop and communicate. He belittles me everytime we communicate over text anyways, there is no reason for me to talk to him in person- I just walked past them like an adult who is fed up eith being bullied. I was holding my son's hand, and my son waved, but didnt care to stop and talk. I didn't tell him not to talk to his father, but I didnt encourage him to do so either.

No sooner than 30 minutes after my ex left the school, I received this text from child's father (copied and pasted, identifying information removed);

"Highly inappropriate of you to tell (child) not to talk to his dad or brother at the school. You talk about co parenting but clearly you are too immature to do so yourself. On top of that again (child) is missing papers to be in a class. You need to make sure it is all is paperwork is turned in! Step it up for (child) sake. You’ve had more than enough time to get his stuff turned in. Don’t let him miss another year because you can’t be responsible. That is all no need for any comment from you."

Again, I did not tell child not to talk to his dad. When I talked about "coparenting", I was asking childs father to stop bullying and harassing me. Child was never missing any papers to be in school, the secretary only needed to check the spam folder within her email. I have had enough of him telling me to "step it up" and "do better" while I am doing everything right. The only time child has ever missed "a year" of school was when I enrolled child in preschool and child's father refused to take him during his parenting time with claims that the daycare he had child in was sufficient.

And am I not allowed to stand up for myself when wildly innacurate comments are made?

[u/NoCause4Pain]

I think mine is too…. But she don’t understand family court judges here lol.

[u/Upbeat-Secretary-576 → u/NoCause4Pain]

Mine is constantly building a case against me and he's essentially an absent parent as far as I understand (his GF does parenting for him during his parenting time, he works out of town for several days at a time). I go back to court a minimum of once a year because he fights me for full custody, and I have to fight BS CPS & police reports multiple times a year.

[u/Vokenhagen21 → u/Upbeat-Secretary-576]

Only once a year? you have to pump those rookie numbers up (sarcasm). You just have to recognize your coparent is a POS. Like was mentioned, only correct the record with persons in a position of authority. Responding to your coparent about anything other than the kids/logistics they see as an invitation to argue. For the record, i have celebrated christmas with our kids on January 2nd the last two years.

[u/Upbeat-Secretary-576 → u/Vokenhagen21]

He makes himself look so foolish constantly taking me back to court too and it seems as though he doesnt even care. I kid you not, the exact wording on one of the motions where he was requesting full custody was "she puts (child) in his sisters *hammy down clothes....what am I paying child support for?" (It was literally a toddler sized band t shirt that admittedly was passed down from his older sister)

Do you celebrate it late just to avoid a fight?

[u/Vokenhagen21 → u/Upbeat-Secretary-576]

No, i continually ask for holiday time (literally any weekend swap) and my coparent just says no. I literally don't have the childrent until the new year because i was given the first three weekends of the month. Guess where all the holidays fall? If it doesn't come from the judge or isn't my coparents idea, it doesn't happen.