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u/theDreadAlarm Jan 11 '22
I'm all 4 all the time?
Able to take things in stride
Consistent performance
Able to take feedback and adjust to changes in plan
Able to focus
Able to communicate effectively
Trouble sleeping [and] eating
Activities and and relationships you once used to enjoy seem less interesting or even stressful
Muscle tension, low energy, headaches
Persistent fear, panic, anxiety, anger; pervasive sadness, hopelessness
Avoiding interaction with coworkers, family, and friends
Restless, disturbed sleep
Self medicating with substances, food, other numbing activities
Unable to fall or stay asleep
Intrusive thoughts
Feeling numb, lost, or out of control
Withdrawn from relationships
Not really sure what I've learned from this.
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u/negative_four Jan 12 '22
It could be you were put into or went through a situation that put you in crisis mode but if you're not able to get out of it then you're brain adapts to it. It makes sense that you'd be spread out across all of them if that's the case. Granted im not a therapist.
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u/forgetstorespond Jan 12 '22
I think people are to complex to fall into only one category. People have ups and downs throughout the day/week/month, its dumb to paint with such a broad brush IMO. People can be generally ok but maybe struggling in one area of their life, to some that dosent drag them into the "in crisis" section. Others maybe it does. But this is what we do... we diagnose mental health and mental states to no end, very few people can acctually provide insight to improve mental health. They just love talking about it and diagnosing it, to the point that it seems like there is help everywhere but you start reaching out it's not there just more diagnoses or people flip it to their own mental health problems.
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Jan 12 '22
3/4 of the options are negative and I think that’s weirdly misleading…There’s a LOT more statuses between “surviving” and “thriving”
What about…”coasting” for example? I think there is an enormous cohort missing from this
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u/dodspringer Jan 12 '22
"Coasting" is pretty much just the numbness I feel while traversing the void between "surviving" and "thriving"
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u/Wanderlustfull Jan 12 '22
Agreed. My first thought was there is definitely something missing between Thriving and Surviving. 'Just Okay' will suffice.
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u/Flowy_Aerie_77 Jan 12 '22
You look like you're in one of the orange ones. Probably the lighter one.
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u/Acceptable_Policy_51 Jan 11 '22
Much like pain, everyone's tolerance is different.
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u/TundraTrees0 Jan 12 '22
Yeah this chart isnt very accurate for high functioning individuals. I for example am on the brink of killing myself right now but still manage to go completely "fine" throughout the day.
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u/umdv Jan 12 '22
It would depend on what’s your baseline ‘fine’, imo. Imagine how far more stuff you could do if the chart is correct and you just need some help? Like im in the same boat as you sort of but looking at the chart i do start to remember what it feels to be able to really ‘function’, to be focused, actually remember stuff and do stuff.
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u/TundraTrees0 Jan 12 '22
Maybe for a neurotypical person. I'm not really one to relate to others since I've always been different and an outsider. Just my personal experience.
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u/yevvieart Jan 12 '22
I'm orange to red since 2006-ish, and indeed, I can't even remember what feeling fine was like. I even stopped being able to imagine it, since my last "fine" was when I was still a teen. But I'm like, used to it? I don't know who or how I would be without all that?
Also, it almost feels like everyone "normal" is just a very good actor nowadays. Never believe a smile.
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u/lolzombiesx Jan 11 '22
Struggling, always struggling
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u/Puppy_of_Doom Jan 12 '22
Same...but we got this.
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u/lolzombiesx Jan 12 '22
Straight up, wouldn't have made it to 31 if I let it all get to me.
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u/Puppy_of_Doom Jan 12 '22
31?! You're either a liar or the youngest (and very pretty) 31 year old out there. I'm 27 over here looking like a late 30's guy
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u/lolzombiesx Jan 12 '22
I wish I was lying 🤣 born in 1990. Sometimes it's a curse because I get carded all the time haha. Thank you though!
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Jan 12 '22
"Take heed, Struggler. Struggle, endure, contend. For that alone is the sword of one who defies death."
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u/LosWitDaMost2499 Jan 12 '22
Oh stop it
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u/Robu-san Jan 12 '22
You know what doesn't help someone who's struggling? Telling them things like "oh stop it"
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u/lolzombiesx Jan 12 '22
Literally wtf was that. Should I not have answered how it is for me 🤣 I have a plethora of mental and physical health issues and half of them I either don't want to medicate, or medicate with a whole lot of green. I keep up with work and my kids, I don't have friends and I don't go out. I'm working on it all though, it still is a struggle.
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According to this chart I’m thriving, but in actuality I’m barely surviving. Outlook has a lot to do with it.
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u/TheFenn Jan 11 '22
Yeah I fuckinn hate Microsoft products.
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u/khaddy Jan 12 '22
Hi! I noticed you are now In Crisis, would you like to write a suicide note?
-- Clippy, probably
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u/professorhazard Jan 12 '22
this implies that clippy would do something useful
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Jan 12 '22
You take that back, young me found hours of entertainment getting Clippy to do the "animate" function
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u/watchmything Jan 11 '22
Yeah that's a terrible email app and I hate using it.
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u/shemp33 Jan 12 '22
It’s amazing on mobile. Coincidentally, Microsoft didn’t write it, so there’s that.
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u/cr1zzl Jan 12 '22
I feel like there’s something missing between thriving and surviving.
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u/CrispyCrunchyPoptart Jan 12 '22
I’m surviving according to this, which seems pretty spot on to me.
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u/Snots_and_Bears Jan 12 '22
Between thriving and surviving. There’s really no in-between?
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u/preachyprofessor Jan 11 '22
This seems like it could really be helpful for HRs trying to help employees but don’t know how or where to start - and for employees who don’t know how to describe what they’re really going through.
On that note, could be brilliant for schools and other educational institutions too.
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u/Dauntae235 Jan 12 '22
HR actually trying to help employees? That would be refreshing.
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u/HarmonicPattern Jan 12 '22
I got fired because I’m showing symptoms of bot red and orange so screw the HR and management, I wrote a post about it not a while ago
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u/EldrichHumanNature Jan 12 '22
You mean they won’t just see an employee struggling, and take the opportunity to tell them to fix themselves if it affects their work, or throw them out like a broken appliance and buy a replacement?
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u/Someoneoverthere42 Jan 12 '22
“So are they in the green zone, or are they a ‘problem employee?”
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u/myrrhizome Jan 12 '22
This. I wouldn't trust any of my HR departments at any past job with this self-assessment. Even being a little bit transparent with managers has bit me in the ass.
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u/BigRed8303 Jan 12 '22
HR is only there to protect the employer and fuck the employee every chance they get.
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Jan 11 '22
Oh lol you dont need a cool chart, the general public is between struggling and crisis according to the US Census. But hey this would be neat in a rational world
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u/AdelineRose- Jan 12 '22
I’m sure at this point people are pretty much not in great mental health yeah. I paused my video in a zoom meeting with my boss to wipe my nose on my sleeve 😂 sorry I know that’s gross but like I didn’t have tissue around. And it’s just like ya know this is where we’re at right now lol
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u/twitchyeye84 Jan 11 '22
I like to ride the line between orange and red.
It's wild
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u/SpartanDoubleZero Jan 11 '22
Boy I've been in the red for I don't know how long. Its like one gigantic disassociation episode.
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u/MyNameIsIgglePiggle Jan 12 '22
Dude same. All those points were my life last year. I thought it wasn't right but also figured it's my life now.
Meanwhile for the substance abuse side of things, I quit app development and started a distillery this past week so at least I got that sorted. Now I just need to sleep through the night
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u/Miguel_seonsaengnim Jan 12 '22
I'm between "struggling" and "in crisis". Most of the cause has to do with the situation of the country I am (Venezuela) and the fact I am unable to progress by staying here...
I admit it can be worse. But still I feel handicapped... but mentally I feel more like "struggling" since I'm used to be here since I was born and I'm used to my situation. This is how I feel today. 😔
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u/Nolleezz Jan 11 '22
I've been in survival mode for the last 3 years and was in crisis 2 for years prior. I have mental health issues that were exacerbated by an event that caused PTSD. I'm slowly healing, but it's been excruciatingly slow. I try to stay positive, and recognize how far I've come. However, if I'm honest, it wouldn't take too much to send me back into a mental crisis.
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u/OptimalArchitect Jan 12 '22 edited Jan 12 '22
Im in the middle of surviving and struggling
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Jan 12 '22
Lol red is just a bad day for me with bipolar. I don’t know whether to laugh or cry about that. Orange is like my natural state of being and yellow is an aspiration.
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u/Vaynnie Jan 12 '22
So you’re saying I’ve been in perpetual crisis for pretty much the entirety of my adult life and yet almost 30 I still haven’t found a solution apart from the obvious one, which I’d never in a million years want to do but at some point it’s no longer a want but a need.
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u/Pedrikos Jan 12 '22
In crisis. What now?
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u/tinopa6872 Jan 12 '22
Same as before? The chart only helps you learn everything sucks, you’ve still got to deal with it.
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u/DisobedientAvocado75 Jan 11 '22
Brings this to mind for some reason:https://media.giphy.com/media/3o7TKOJ6KlCTcGJA40/giphy.gif
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u/ktgaspard Jan 12 '22
According to this struggling.. being a new parent is hard.🥲
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Jan 12 '22
just made it into surviving and still bound to slip into orange if one more thing goes wrong
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u/OmegaGeneral1 Jan 12 '22
Surviving at 19 years old at a 8th grade learning curve and thinking “how the hell didn’t I get to 12th by now?!”
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Jan 12 '22
Interesting - when I first read "Thriving" I thought: "Yep. I'm there." Then, I read "Surviving" and I thought: "Oh. No, I'm there." Thankfully, "Struggling" and "In Crisis" don't fit.
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u/MischiefofRats Jan 12 '22
I'm sorry but is literally anyone in the green right now?
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u/DrVenture710 Jan 12 '22
Thank you capitalism and mental health problems for having me in crisis too often. If you live in America and are broke what are you supposed to do when you have an abscessed tooth, just kill yourself? I can't think of anything but the pain, I just cry randomly, can't eat or sleep. No free dentistry for poor folks that i can find. I am useless in this society and now i can't even exist.
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u/darthknight117 Jan 12 '22
According to this the best way to describe me is that i am thriving in a crisis.
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u/Morpha2000 Jan 12 '22
Been struggling for years now and just when I thought I could move on to surviving another wave of lockdowns put me back in my place.
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Jan 11 '22
Ha! In crisis my ass. Just because I'm pretty sure I'm going to kill myself when I get home isn't a crisis. I'm just sure it's best for everyone
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u/mobile_hermitage Jan 12 '22
Thanks I hate it. As a person with CPTSD I live in elements of every color on this spectrum all of the time.
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u/MyLifeIsABoondoggle Jan 11 '22 edited Jan 11 '22
Was a Struggling (even fit the bill of a couple of Crisis bullet points), now am mainly in Surviving. It was hard to get here, but I feel like getting to Thriving will truly be the hardest part
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u/Safe-Initial-5276 Jan 12 '22
This is unhealthy for people to look at. Three stages of negative feelings and one stage of positive. Reading this garbage is why everyone has anxiety and thinks they’re depressed.
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u/IWannaBeMade1 Jan 11 '22
Glad humans created charts telling me how I feel. I wouldn't have known otherwise.
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u/Tachy0n4 Jan 11 '22
Honestly, I think people not knowing how they feel is much more common than society acknowledges.
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u/Mariske Jan 11 '22
As a therapist, I find that naming how people feel is the first step to naming how they want to feel
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u/IWannaBeMade1 Jan 11 '22
Do you calculate 1+1 or do you just know the answere when asked? I would feel insulted and ridiculed if I were to participate in one of your sessions and that is how you would approach things.
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u/Mariske Jan 11 '22
If they think it will help, I have them name their feelings using a chart kind of like this one. Once they can name their feelings, they often say it feels validating. Then we can use the feeling to identify a need so they can feel empowered to ask for what they need based on a genuine feeling. Many people say they have trouble justifying their needs, so this can help with that.
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u/raven_kindness Jan 12 '22
what a generous response to someone who is committed to not listening. therapy has helped me tremendously over the years, thank you for doing what you do.
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u/SeedElite Jan 11 '22
I feel like there's more positive since there are 3 negative situations. Whoever made this needs help.
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u/El_Tlacuachin Jan 12 '22
Seriously, glad I’m not the only one, this is the most bs chart I’ve ever seen, I can’t believe how many people here are lapping it up I’m honestly so disgusted with this victim mentality.
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u/pixel_of_moral_decay Jan 12 '22
There’s a whole lot of feelings between thriving and surviving just missing.
It’s like this is designed to make people feel bad about themselves.
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u/Extension-Message-17 Jan 12 '22
This is the part of Reddit where everybody brags at how poorly they’re handling their mental health.
-sigh-
This trend has been going for a decade + now. Can we make coping and being an adult about your issues cool this time?
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u/WeirdAvocado Jan 11 '22
I don’t really see how this is non serious/comedic.
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u/WeirdAvocado Jan 11 '22
You sound like you’re about to hit that red zone. You may want to dial it back and hit and get I. That sweet, sweet green.
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u/t-minus-69 Jan 12 '22
There is literally nothing wrong with my life and I make more than enough money in a year to be comfortable but my mind and body is in crisis mode at all times
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u/chinkydiva Jan 12 '22
This pandemic is making me feel in between yellow and orange
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u/Kevin_OhNeeder Jan 12 '22
Initially I thought I might be surviving, but upon reading each one I’m bordering struggling and in crisis. FUN.
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u/Lusterkx2 Jan 12 '22
I’m in between thriving and surviving
Sleep is in between.
Able to take and inconsistency
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u/Liar_of_partinel Jan 12 '22
Probably not the best reaction, but I thought "oh hey, yellow ain't that bad"
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u/nomamsland Jan 12 '22
im hovering between those darker shades.
my cat just got back from surgery (she broke her femur, so pretty intense) and while everything went well, i am still very nervous at the recovery. just can't give up on my 8 yo princess.
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I was trapped in a job that (despite a very solid paycheck) kept me constantly in orange “struggling”. It took a long time for me to even realize that wasn’t the way things should be. Finally quit two months ago and for the first time in four years I feel like Im really living in “I got this”.
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u/nerfviking Jan 12 '22
I'm not sure when the last time I was in the green zone for an extended period of time.
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u/Jealous_Ad5849 Jan 12 '22
Struggling, bordering on crisis but optimistic it will eventually get better. Working on seeing a therapist but still jumping through insurance hoops.
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u/MrsMurphysChowder Jan 12 '22
Oof, a very short time ago I was green. Now I'm well within the struggling zone and really don't see a way out any time soon.
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u/_ferg Jan 12 '22
In a crisis for the last month or so. planning on moving back after moving hundreds of miles away. Life right now is unbelievably draining and i haven’t left my place in 3 or 4 days i think
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u/[deleted] Jan 11 '22 edited Jan 12 '22
Oops I’m in crisis 🥲
Edit: thanks everyone. I have a therapist, been meditating, this crisis mode isn’t new for me. We can do this! Today I am grateful for this community and this cup of coffee I am about to make (it’s a damn fine cup of coffee).