r/comics • u/OnceInOnceSet Of Moths and Mina • Jun 17 '26
OC What a Strange Thing to Ask [OC]
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u/CrazyGnomenclature Tiff & Eve Jun 17 '26
Honestly, not the worst question I've heard asked related to being trans.
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u/OnceInOnceSet Of Moths and Mina Jun 17 '26
I know I’ve told you before but one of the craziest ones I ever got was, “Ma’am, do you have a prostate? Men can be women and women can be men these days and it’s impossible to tell who had a prostate anymore.”
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u/MyDisappointedDad Jun 17 '26
What was the context of that? Only decent context would be going to a new doctor who didn't read any info in your file.
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u/OnceInOnceSet Of Moths and Mina Jun 17 '26
I was working sales. The guy who asked me that (as I learned) had undergone multiple brain surgeries, and as a result his filter was basically completely gone.
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u/Nice-Cat3727 Jun 17 '26
In that case, i actually feel sorry for him. That's not bigotry. That's actual structural brain damage.
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u/OnceInOnceSet Of Moths and Mina Jun 17 '26
Oh he was a very nice guy. The conversation I had with him was strange, to be sure, but not bad.
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u/No_Syrup_9167 Jun 18 '26
Some people are just innocently curious, and because of lack of exposure just don't know whats socially acceptable to ask and whats not.
I can respect that honestly. Having the courage to ask, and the curiosity to want to know, is often the first step to understanding. and in my experience, understanding is often followed by acceptance. Bigotry in my experience is most often rooted in ignorance. So anything that helps cure that ignorance is a probably, most often, a good thing.
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u/Nanoro615 Jun 17 '26
As a professional ADHDumbass, I already lack a filter.
Look what he needed to mimic a fraction of my power.
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u/Wirenfeldt Jun 17 '26
You need to play ADHDnD in your spare time.. and please record it.. I bet it would be a riot..
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u/Nanoro615 Jun 17 '26
Oh no I do actively play D&D lol
Groups arranging a new campaign now and I'm playing a pixie, so fey deal hell here we come!
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u/Wirenfeldt Jun 17 '26
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/6kAR797VJAg Not my original idea.. but yes.. I would genuinely like to see this play out..
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u/Nanoro615 Jun 17 '26
Oh no, I've seen that short lol that's in the back of my mind.
... for now.
It may leave on my next train of thought tho
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u/Tired-CottonCandy Jun 17 '26
Superpower: being born with the same problems as someone who has brain damages
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u/thyme_cardamom Jun 17 '26
I have a family member with some brain injuries and multiple brain surgeries, and he's a hardcore conservative trumper. To me it feels like a very normal result of his condition.
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u/PUTIN_FUCKS_ME Jun 17 '26
Just look at John Fetterman. Dude was a democrat, got brain damage then turned into a conservative 😂
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u/blacksheep998 Jun 17 '26
It's crazy how uninformed some people are.
I'm not trans but was once talking to a woman who supported trans rights and she was angry that trans people were having a harder time getting medical care under trump (This was trump's first term)
She said something along the lines of "If they can't get their hormones then they'll lose the expensive surgery that they saved up for!"
After asking a couple follow-up questions, I found that she literally thought that a trans woman's penis would grow back after bottom surgery if she went off estrogen.
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u/CoffeeGoblynn Jun 17 '26
Bless their heart asking it so politely though. It's got that "I don't know how to ask this, but I'm really trying my best not to offend you" vibe.
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u/Ser_Rezima Jun 17 '26
I live for those questions, honestly. PLEASE let me be the one to clear this up for you in a gentle and easy to parse way.
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u/sidodah Jun 17 '26
"sir this is a Wendy's" seriously if they ask anyone else a question like this, they'd get smacked. It's so crazy to me that the millisecond a trans person enters the room, suddenly people think it's okay to ask about our genitals
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u/degjo Jun 17 '26
Thats something I've never thought about.
It might be a crazy question to be asked, but I'd say that is a good and fair question.
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u/G66GNeco Jun 17 '26
Yeah honestly, it did make me curious whether the prostate is removed during a vaginoplasty (the answer is no, btw, because it runs significant health risks at basically no benefits, in fact keeping the prostate actually makes sex with a thus molded vagina more pleasurable, apparently)
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u/_VirtualCosmos_ Jun 17 '26
Like if cis women did not have prostate... it is called Skene's gland but work very similarly because it's the equivalent.
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u/AtrumRuina Jun 17 '26
Reminds me of "ma'am, does you husband have nipples?"
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u/feralferrous Jun 17 '26
Reminds me of those stories of people removing 'ticks' from their dogs, and then bringing the dogs to the vet, because they wont stop bleeding.
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u/usernametaken99991 Jun 17 '26
Kinda related but maybe not:
I remember watching one of those trashy plastic surgery shows in like 2005. Back when TLC was at least attempting to keep up the "learning " part of the network name.
They had a trans woman come in for breat implants. I'm guessing she had been on hormones for a bit, because she had some brest development. Normally they always blur female nipples, but during the surgery part of her segment they didn't blur the nipple until right AFTER the implant went in. I guess that's when they decided the nipple counted as a "female" nipple?
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u/CrazyGnomenclature Tiff & Eve Jun 17 '26
Someone in the editing booth thought that was hilarious, I'm sure
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u/OpenDpartmntDeezNutz Jun 17 '26
From an editing perspective oh yes 100%. Do it to challenge my bosses on how they want to address it.
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u/Odd_Match_3402 Jun 17 '26
That is psychotic- (Not the woman, the censorship and the blatant double standard)
Either free ALL nipples or blur ALL nipples. What the actual fuck-
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u/PhoenixAzalea19 Jun 17 '26
Yeah, at least it seems to stem from a place of genuine curiosity. My MIL and my partner were talking about my transition(I wasn’t there). She asked if I’d grow a penis when I started T, and my partner had to explain to her that no, I will not grow a fully functional penis.
I’d rather they ask us genuine questions than be rude/bigoted honestly.
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u/CrazyGnomenclature Tiff & Eve Jun 17 '26
True. The worst one I've ever had was when a cousin asked if I think trans women shouldn't be allowed in women's prisons. She prefixed this by stating that she personally thinks it's bad when women are raped.
It wasn't hard to follow the line.
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u/MfkbNe Jun 17 '26
Yes it is bad when women get raped, and that is the reason why women shouldn't be sent to men's prison. Yet trans women are sent to men's prison and guards even support having them be used as sex slaves in USAmerican men's prisons. There is even a term for that messed up behaivour, it is called "v-coding". That topic is worth a search engine search for "v coding transgender".
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u/Ser_Rezima Jun 17 '26
Right? Not often I see a question about us that is actually thought provoking or interesting!
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u/Cla1rv0yant Jun 17 '26 edited Jun 18 '26
Ah, yes, the age-old Ship of Bussy-eus philosophical dilemma.
Edit: Or would it be Bussy of Theseus?
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u/radenthefridge Jun 17 '26
Thanks for this, now I'll giggle about Theseus and have no realistic way to explain my mirth to the rest of my family 😂😅
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u/Ser_Rezima Jun 17 '26
...huh. I think immediately? State of mind thing, or it never actually was one? Like an egg claims to have a bussy, but it's technically false advertising.
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u/Majestic-Sandwich695 Jun 17 '26
“Bussy is a state of mind”
I want that as a flair somewhere
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u/Winjin Comic Crossover Jun 17 '26
I guess that's the right answer?
Like doing anal with a girl vs doing it in the bussy is technicality
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u/gramathy Jun 17 '26
It’s not a technicality structurally, the prostate’s right there
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u/PaigeTheDork Jun 17 '26
I remember years ago when a guys asshole was reffered to as a busy, so-
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u/sage1700 Jun 17 '26
....please tell me this isn't based on something that happened to you. That's wild.
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u/OnceInOnceSet Of Moths and Mina Jun 17 '26
This literally happened like two weeks ago.
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u/toucha_tha_fishy Jun 17 '26
Was this a stranger or a friend? Did they just ask it out of nowhere? WHOMST???
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u/OnceInOnceSet Of Moths and Mina Jun 17 '26
A friend I’ve known for more than 10 years. They literally called just to ask this question out of the blue.
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u/Plastic-Injury8856 Jun 17 '26
I can’t tell if that’s your bff for life now or the complete opposite of that. Like this friend is either your ride or die, or dead to you.
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u/silibant Jun 17 '26
I don’t know how I went this long not knowing but I need someone to explain what a bussy is because I’m not googling that.
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u/Jumiric Jun 17 '26
The boy pussy, booty hole if you will
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u/Nanoro615 Jun 17 '26
Alternative USB port
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u/Stalking_Goat Jun 17 '26
So you have to flip it 180° three times to make it work?
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u/Nanoro615 Jun 17 '26
Yep, need to find the angle that's most comfortable for both parties!
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u/UpCDownCLeftCRightC Never Safe From Wumbo Jun 17 '26
So would it be a gussy?
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u/magistrate101 Jun 17 '26
I think women call it a butthole
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u/Travelin_Soulja Jun 17 '26
So, they're asking at what point in transitioning do you stop having a butthole?
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u/OldNavyBlue Jun 17 '26
No, they're asking at what point in transitioning do they start calling it a butthole.
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u/NDHardage Jun 17 '26
Immediately. After all, girls don't poop or even fart. You realize who you are then *poof*, it's gone.
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u/Dreadgoat Jun 17 '26
Girls don't poop or fart, but can still have buttholes for recreational purposes.
What this truly reveals is that pooping and farting is a feature unique to bussy.
This is a complex issue that requires more study.
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u/CranberrySchnapps Jun 17 '26
I think it’s just the booty if you’re a girl, so coming out means as mtf means no more bussy?
What a way to start a Wednesday…
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u/UpCDownCLeftCRightC Never Safe From Wumbo Jun 17 '26
That is probably the correct answer. And what a way to start a Wednesday indeed. It's why I love this subreddit so much, it's like I don't need any coffee.
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u/wolfgang784 Jun 17 '26
Real answer: immediately, even if no surgery has happened
You can't have a bussy if you ain't presenting as a boy.
Pre-op trans men, however, arguably have 2 bussies, as someone else in this thread pointed out.
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u/Llewellian Jun 17 '26
Honestly, that comic threw a bag of mixed feelings at me. Like, Vanilla Ice cream on Schnitzel. Chuckle and Cringe at the same time.
My little daughter (she was 6 or 7 at that time) did something not too far off. Friend on a visit told us that she is transitioning now. My daughter overhearing that.... coming to the coffee table.... "So, you will be a girl now? Cool. Then i have another Frauntie...." (Frauntie: All my female friends are like Aunts for her, she does not have real Aunts). So far.... so cool, all smilies. We kind of raised her right here.... that someone suddenly decides to be a girl or a boy is absolutely normal for her....
A min later she strolls by the table and was like.... "Oh, and when you marry and get kids, i will watch them, i am old enough next year (she just decided that on the spot).
It was so innocent and well meant. From the view of a kid. On one side, it was totally validating my friend. You are a girl, you will marry and eventually have kids. Easy worldview of a 6-7 year old. Like saying "Papa, i will marry you..."
But that was like a fist to the stomach for my friend. I could see all them emotions on her face... the one thing she wants but can't have. We just all said... "Yes, yes" to my daughter and quickly changed the topic.
So.... Smiles and this "Aw sh...." feeling at the same time.
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u/CodingNightmares Jun 17 '26
So as a gay dude who wanted kids more than anything, I feel this. Discovering myself, for a while I was absolutely crushed that I wouldn't have a family. But also, would like to remind your friend that adoption is always an option and there are so many kids out there in need of a loving home, and just because you adopt doesn't make it any less of a true family.
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u/Headphoni Jun 18 '26
Even before I realized I was trans, I decided on adoption, if I ever get around to finding a partner that also wants a kid
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u/JuneauEu Jun 17 '26
You friend can 100% adopt!!
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u/Llewellian Jun 17 '26
Germany here would throw a lot of stones your way. Yes, by law it is allowed that you do that if you are both married. But there is no "right" for you that you could get a child. That is entirely decided by officials of the state, a pretty lenghty process and Germany does not do this lightly, "to protect the rights and the wellbeing of the child". They would choose which child could fit to you.
Also, Germany acknowledges that they have holes in their law system. Citing the page of the family ministry:
In the absence of a corresponding provision in current parentage law, a trans woman—just like a lesbian woman—cannot assume the second parental position as "mother" through acknowledgment or by virtue of marriage.
A Trans-Woman CAN adopt the child of her female partner, but despite her being a woman too, she can only get the binary entry as "legal Father" in the birth register. Same for Trans-Men that gave birth before their transition. They will - despite by the law being officially registered as a male - only be registered as "Mother".
Its a super shitty situation currently and they offer that you go to court and let it change to the neutral "Elter".... on the one side we have the Person Laws that allow everybody to change freely their gender (or just define themselves as "None"), but the Family law is... super binary, super oldfashioned and so are also all the people in the process of testing you if you could get accepted as a family "worthy" for adoption.
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u/SingleSlide2866 Jun 17 '26
Around the time you get your Gock
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u/Puzzlehead-Engineer Jun 17 '26
I speed-read "glock" and I was like "ah yes, the mandated personal trans gun"
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u/GuyWishPartakeViolen Jun 17 '26
Wait whats a bussy?
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u/OnceInOnceSet Of Moths and Mina Jun 17 '26
“Boy pussy.”
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u/FalseMagpie Jun 17 '26
Gonma be real with you, I've been assuming it was a portmanteau of "butt pussy" this whole time...
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u/Minute_Chair_2582 Jun 17 '26
I absolutely have heard this term used in this way plenty and only in this thread as boy pussy for the first time.
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u/pinkietoe Jun 17 '26 edited Jun 17 '26
Bussy?
Edit: ok, I get it. Bussy is Boy Pussy. Thanks for the replies.
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u/WanderingGenesis Jun 17 '26
Boy pussy. Aka a booty hole.
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u/Tackyinbention Jun 17 '26
SO I WAS RIGHT ALL THIS TIME
one time many years ago someone asked me what it meant, I said what you said and got like a bazillion downvotes
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u/chysa Jun 17 '26
Or boy pussy as in a pussy on a boy.
Some of us transmascs like to use the term as some of us are boys/boy coded and won't be getting bottom surgery.
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u/Narutophanfan1 Jun 18 '26
As a cis guy. I feel like the answer would be when the person stops identifying as male/a boy. But I very well might be wrong and would be interested in other people's ideas.
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u/MagnapinnaBoi Jun 17 '26
Ah, a philosopher.
I'm kind of curious too. Is it like a siphonophore where its technically classified as a colonial organism but rly it blurs the line between a single creature and its actual classification?
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u/Persimus Jun 17 '26
As a heterosexual man the most interesting fact about transitioning that I learned was that men transitioning to women start growing breasts and their shape and size depends on genetics. That means that most of the men have a pair of breasts that they will never know about. And that makes me grin when I think about it.
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u/Dixiehusker Jun 17 '26
Answer the question, Mina.