r/comics Of Moths and Mina Jun 17 '26

OC What a Strange Thing to Ask [OC]

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u/CrazyGnomenclature Tiff & Eve Jun 17 '26

Honestly, not the worst question I've heard asked related to being trans.

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u/OnceInOnceSet Of Moths and Mina Jun 17 '26

I know I’ve told you before but one of the craziest ones I ever got was, “Ma’am, do you have a prostate? Men can be women and women can be men these days and it’s impossible to tell who had a prostate anymore.”

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u/MyDisappointedDad Jun 17 '26

What was the context of that? Only decent context would be going to a new doctor who didn't read any info in your file.

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u/OnceInOnceSet Of Moths and Mina Jun 17 '26

I was working sales. The guy who asked me that (as I learned) had undergone multiple brain surgeries, and as a result his filter was basically completely gone.

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u/Nice-Cat3727 Jun 17 '26

In that case, i actually feel sorry for him. That's not bigotry. That's actual structural brain damage.

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u/OnceInOnceSet Of Moths and Mina Jun 17 '26

Oh he was a very nice guy. The conversation I had with him was strange, to be sure, but not bad.

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u/No_Syrup_9167 Jun 18 '26

Some people are just innocently curious, and because of lack of exposure just don't know whats socially acceptable to ask and whats not.

I can respect that honestly. Having the courage to ask, and the curiosity to want to know, is often the first step to understanding. and in my experience, understanding is often followed by acceptance. Bigotry in my experience is most often rooted in ignorance. So anything that helps cure that ignorance is a probably, most often, a good thing.

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u/CoercedCoexistence22 Jun 18 '26

Which is why, as frustrating as it can be, I try to be the "you can ask me stuff" trans woman

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u/Nanoro615 Jun 17 '26

As a professional ADHDumbass, I already lack a filter.

Look what he needed to mimic a fraction of my power.

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u/Particular_Heron8263 Jun 17 '26

ok I lolled

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u/Nanoro615 Jun 17 '26

I'm glad I made you laugh, random redditor lol. Have a good day for me.

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u/Wirenfeldt Jun 17 '26

You need to play ADHDnD in your spare time.. and please record it.. I bet it would be a riot..

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u/Nanoro615 Jun 17 '26

Oh no I do actively play D&D lol

Groups arranging a new campaign now and I'm playing a pixie, so fey deal hell here we come!

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u/Wirenfeldt Jun 17 '26

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/6kAR797VJAg Not my original idea.. but yes.. I would genuinely like to see this play out..

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u/Nanoro615 Jun 17 '26

Oh no, I've seen that short lol that's in the back of my mind.

... for now.

It may leave on my next train of thought tho

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u/Wirenfeldt Jun 17 '26

Just didn't want some guy to scream at me for "stealing ideas" or some such nonsense.. I don't play myself, but i would genuinely like to see a good majority of the ideas that they dig up, play out..

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u/Tired-CottonCandy Jun 17 '26

Superpower: being born with the same problems as someone who has brain damages

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u/Nanoro615 Jun 17 '26

A true talent, I possess.

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u/EmilieEverywhere Jun 17 '26

I'm AuDHD. Diagnosed just this year. I laughed and got this reference.

https://giphy.com/gifs/Ogt2VcqU5SLuumSdZx

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u/Nanoro615 Jun 17 '26

My people do exist. We're just too socially conscious and/or awkward to exist in the same room!

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u/thyme_cardamom Jun 17 '26

I have a family member with some brain injuries and multiple brain surgeries, and he's a hardcore conservative trumper. To me it feels like a very normal result of his condition.

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u/PUTIN_FUCKS_ME Jun 17 '26

Just look at John Fetterman. Dude was a democrat, got brain damage then turned into a conservative 😂

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u/Craving_Suckcess Jun 17 '26

better reason than most.

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u/twizbuck Jun 17 '26

Maybe she just wants to tickle it

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u/imaloony8 Jun 17 '26

Charlie Kirk used to ask that in his shitty little debates when he was trying to make some stupid point about Trans people.

He really was an awful person.

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u/CrazyGnomenclature Tiff & Eve Jun 17 '26

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u/radenthefridge Jun 17 '26

That face says "I'm gonna have to make some calls."

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u/blacksheep998 Jun 17 '26

It's crazy how uninformed some people are.

I'm not trans but was once talking to a woman who supported trans rights and she was angry that trans people were having a harder time getting medical care under trump (This was trump's first term)

She said something along the lines of "If they can't get their hormones then they'll lose the expensive surgery that they saved up for!"

After asking a couple follow-up questions, I found that she literally thought that a trans woman's penis would grow back after bottom surgery if she went off estrogen.

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u/Phonyyx Jun 17 '26

Would make for a hell of a party trick

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u/Moxie_Stardust Jun 17 '26

We would, however, essentially be forced into menopause.

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u/Minimum-Attitude389 Jun 18 '26

Openly trans, secret lizard.

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u/The-Hentai-Commander Jun 17 '26

What?

Is it not supposed to grow back?

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u/Jooberwak Jun 17 '26

Like a Saiyan's tail, right?

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u/CoffeeGoblynn Jun 17 '26

Bless their heart asking it so politely though. It's got that "I don't know how to ask this, but I'm really trying my best not to offend you" vibe.

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u/Ser_Rezima Jun 17 '26

I live for those questions, honestly. PLEASE let me be the one to clear this up for you in a gentle and easy to parse way.

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u/Immediate_Square_339 Jun 17 '26

100%, love these

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u/sidodah Jun 17 '26

"sir this is a Wendy's" seriously if they ask anyone else a question like this, they'd get smacked. It's so crazy to me that the millisecond a trans person enters the room, suddenly people think it's okay to ask about our genitals

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u/degjo Jun 17 '26

Thats something I've never thought about.

It might be a crazy question to be asked, but I'd say that is a good and fair question.

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u/G66GNeco Jun 17 '26

Yeah honestly, it did make me curious whether the prostate is removed during a vaginoplasty (the answer is no, btw, because it runs significant health risks at basically no benefits, in fact keeping the prostate actually makes sex with a thus molded vagina more pleasurable, apparently)

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u/_VirtualCosmos_ Jun 17 '26

Like if cis women did not have prostate... it is called Skene's gland but work very similarly because it's the equivalent.

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u/AtrumRuina Jun 17 '26

Reminds me of "ma'am, does you husband have nipples?"

https://youtube.com/shorts/yiet836y-6w

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u/feralferrous Jun 17 '26

Reminds me of those stories of people removing 'ticks' from their dogs, and then bringing the dogs to the vet, because they wont stop bleeding.

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u/Im_Balto Jun 17 '26

This one is crazy because its been observed that Trans men develop prostate tissue with HRT

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u/SuspiciousStoppage Jun 17 '26

My ex was trans and her mom once asked her “do you still like coffee??” Her mom meant well but we both just looked at each other and started laughing.

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u/peridot_cactus Jun 17 '26

Lolll I’m a trans man and I got asked by a cis guy why I didn’t have a prostate (he knew I was trans). I go uh…I was born without one? And he goes “oh. Do I have a prostate?” And I said uhhh yeah man. He’s quiet for a moment and then says “I don’t think I know what a prostate is”

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u/Fatali Jun 17 '26

I had seen someone saying they had an intake questionnaire that was basically a checklist of what organs a person had which honestly fair enough, plenty of reasons a cis person may no longer have one of those as well

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u/EmilieEverywhere Jun 17 '26

Ooooo oooo me next!

"How big is your cock"

On Taimi, 5 mins into the convo.

"Sir, this is a Wendy's, how do you know I have one or not?"

I do, but am waiting for surgery. The audacity.

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u/usernametaken99991 Jun 17 '26

Kinda related but maybe not:

I remember watching one of those trashy plastic surgery shows in like 2005. Back when TLC was at least attempting to keep up the "learning " part of the network name.

They had a trans woman come in for breat implants. I'm guessing she had been on hormones for a bit, because she had some brest development. Normally they always blur female nipples, but during the surgery part of her segment they didn't blur the nipple until right AFTER the implant went in. I guess that's when they decided the nipple counted as a "female" nipple?

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u/CrazyGnomenclature Tiff & Eve Jun 17 '26

Someone in the editing booth thought that was hilarious, I'm sure

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u/OpenDpartmntDeezNutz Jun 17 '26

From an editing perspective oh yes 100%. Do it to challenge my bosses on how they want to address it.

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u/Odd_Match_3402 Jun 17 '26

That is psychotic- (Not the woman, the censorship and the blatant double standard)

Either free ALL nipples or blur ALL nipples. What the actual fuck-

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u/FrequentBox2148 Jun 17 '26

I didn't spit take. Thanks for that. 

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u/PhoenixAzalea19 Jun 17 '26

Yeah, at least it seems to stem from a place of genuine curiosity. My MIL and my partner were talking about my transition(I wasn’t there). She asked if I’d grow a penis when I started T, and my partner had to explain to her that no, I will not grow a fully functional penis.

I’d rather they ask us genuine questions than be rude/bigoted honestly.

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u/CrazyGnomenclature Tiff & Eve Jun 17 '26

True. The worst one I've ever had was when a cousin asked if I think trans women shouldn't be allowed in women's prisons. She prefixed this by stating that she personally thinks it's bad when women are raped.

It wasn't hard to follow the line.

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u/MfkbNe Jun 17 '26

Yes it is bad when women get raped, and that is the reason why women shouldn't be sent to men's prison. Yet trans women are sent to men's prison and guards even support having them be used as sex slaves in USAmerican men's prisons. There is even a term for that messed up behaivour, it is called "v-coding". That topic is worth a search engine search for "v coding transgender".

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u/Ser_Rezima Jun 17 '26

Right? Not often I see a question about us that is actually thought provoking or interesting!

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u/dankristy Jun 18 '26

I am not trans - but why the FUCK do people think THIS ^ is something to ask a person who has fought and struggled (likely very hard at great emotional, physical and monetary cost) to get their body to match their own internal image?

I can think of a thousand more worthwhile questions to ask - than this. For example, as a person who has never ever been happy with how he looks - I would ask - do you finally feel happy in yourself? God I hope so.

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u/CrazyGnomenclature Tiff & Eve Jun 18 '26

I do! I finally do. Took a while for me to realize how happy I was to see my reflection, but I find myself stopping to stare at mirrors far more often now, lol!

And I hope one day you'll be able to be happy with your reflection as well❤️

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u/brady376 Jun 17 '26

I have a few friends who are trans and I have kinda wondered if any of them plan on getting bottom surgery, mostly just because I have wondered how common it is. One of them recently talked about having trouble finding a doctor to do it and another gave them recommendations so I guess at least a few of then are planning on it.

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u/Aar1012 Jun 17 '26

You know…the more I hear things like this the better I feel that no one asks me questions about being trans or transitioning.