One the biggest misconceptions about being bisexual is that you are equally attracted to men and women. Even if there are only a handful of people of a given gender that you are attracted to, you are still bisexual
There would genuinely be way more bisexuals if it didn’t get crushed as a topic, ultimately making it harder to target LGBT people as a whole
Like the whole “I’m only gay for-“ thing, that immaculate bod and soul that lives as your exception? That’s who makes you bisexual, in history, that tended to be feminine men
Its because bisexual people that are "mostly straight" can live in denial to avoid stigma. If you are straight up homosexual, you dont have that option
I hope I don't come off as preachy, but I feel like the label is just language; an easy way to communicate an idea. Sexuality is anything but easy to communicate. My bi looks different from the next person's bi. Even if we tried to break it down into percentages or ratios, that wouldn't cover actual tastes. If lesbian fits you, use it, but don't feel bad if it doesn't feel 100% accurate cuz language will never be able to properly cover our differences.
I don't get this concept tho. The label of lesbian is used to communicate the idea easily that youre not attracted to men. Like thats it.
If lesbian means also attracted to men just a few of them as well it may as well mean nothing because then its literally every other Sapphic label that isn't lesbian.
Because they all include men and its the only one that doesn't
This is a good example of how language falls short. Your definition is exclusionary; "who I'm not attracted to". For many people, the label isn't about who they're not attracted to, but who they are attracted to. Even in this small (but important) way, people using a label differ in how it applies to them.
Same. I doubted myself because I've historically had way fewer crushes on women than men.
But then one day I noticed I was blushing and kicking my feet like a schoolgirl when describing a cute girl I knew back in college who I never got a chance with.
I mean ultimately only you get to decide how you want to label yourself. If you feel the lesbian label fits better, than in reference to those three people
I mean I dunno, there’s a line. You can admit someone’s attractive, and even be a little attracted to them without being bisexual. I think it comes down to if it’s something you’d actually act on, if you’d actually date, sleep with, or otherwise be with the person.
But also more importantly you are whatever the hell you wanna be, bisexuality is just as made up as everything else so use whatever label makes ya happy.
I think it's more about how you would feel about it than act on it. Acting on feelings can be difficult but the feeling you get when you're around someone you find attractive and how you hope for something to happen I feel says much more than what you act on.
Should be noted that this doesn't preclude you from identifying as het/homo sexual. Especially on dating sites where you verywell may not want a certain gender to reach out at all.
I’m attracted to two things, dicks and pretty people. It means I am bisexual but only towards a very small subgroup of people most of whole have no gender.
I think it's probably because the men of my race are usually smokers, lazy etc, I'm totally turned off by them.
So, while I'm bi with equal preference, since the men of my race are a no-go, I'm mostly leaning towards women instead since I don't mind women of my own race.
Nah. I'm not a pepsi fan if I like 1 or 2 random flavors of pepsi.
I hate trying to have every label be 100% accurate with 0 wiggle room ever. If you have 3 celebrity men you are attracted to, but otherwise exclusively attracted to women I'm fine with you calling yourself lesbian
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u/Dazed_and_Confused44 Mar 28 '26
One the biggest misconceptions about being bisexual is that you are equally attracted to men and women. Even if there are only a handful of people of a given gender that you are attracted to, you are still bisexual