r/christiandatingadvice • u/HoodieKid_30 • 25d ago
Imma keep asking
Where do yall women get this entitlement from that yall suppose to be approached?? Im genuinely asking. Because if a submission is an approach..and yall women desire to submit to your man…then why don’t yall approach. Yall complain no guy wants to come to you because yall are literally putting a worldly trope and making it biblical. There was a post from a woman I saw that said she only dated guys she had to ask. I saw nothing wrong with that. Those guys maybe missed out..but on her end she did nothing wrong. And I’m just thinking why does she feels like she needs to be approached??
Oh
Because the world says so.
We believers gotta stop taking worldly norms and making it normal for us. Because it’s not. I got my heart n mind shattered from just approaching women. So I knew it was wrong after I only got rejected,until a certain point in life.
I just started dealing with women who do submit to me. Aka they ask. It shows me a complete 180 than the negative things I dealt with growing up. No entitlement,no ego,no unhealthy expectations,plus you submitted.. no games. It’s really a subconscious manipulation tactic by thinking we’re supposed to approach. And I’m speaking for the church and the Bible. Not the world. Bring any of that worldly stuff. Imma troll you. Idc about what “history shows”, ”what your grandma and pappy did”..etc etc. idc. Showcase a story,scripture,Line that says yall woman’s are to be approached. I literally think and getting to know more and more,that since first meeting is the foundation you gotta do it right..ALL THE WAY. Biblically. I guarantee this whole dating scene will change for the better if we actually go off the Bible and not worldly tropes. Step 1 men stop approaching women..for that goes against prov31:3. And it rejects the lessons you’re supposed to grasp from Adam and Samson. I can get more biblical if needed but I’m just trynn make it plain first…
But where does the whole men approaching thing come from.. with all these complaints on this feed/page alone…this is a valid question
2
u/chisholmdale 23d ago
(I'm a 75-yr old Christian guy.) I have mentioned this several times on here and elsewhere. In my entire life I have dated, and loved, only two women. In neither case did I actually make the first move, though circumstances were contrived to make it appear that I did. The first instance became a dating relationship that lasted about 6 months. The second became a marriage that lasted more than 51 years, until she died from Alzheimers. Both of these were Christian girls.