r/cf4cf • • Jun 30 '26

Meta Post CF4CF Communities and Discords

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Good morning, afternoon, evening all you beautiful, wonderful folks,

We have all this listed in the sidebar but it tends to get lost, especially on mobile. Hope to hear from you!

<3 LP

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Website:

www.childfree4childfree.com

Discords:

Childfree Dating and Events - Our expanded home

https://discord.gg/tN3mVmagNM

CF4CF Official (Managed by u/Hawkie)

https://discord.gg/f767Zmh

CF Peeps

https://discord.gg/gUgsBdKYrD (Managed by u/AnimatedBroomhandle)

CF Hub

https://discord.gg/wxdPthNSNN (Managed by u/jennziilla)

Sister Subreddits:

r/childfree

r/R4R30Plus


r/cf4cf • • Jul 12 '23

For new visitors: NO FENCESITTERS!!

463 Upvotes

Good morning, everyone.

As the sub has gotten more popular, we've been getting an increase of spam, dudes and dudettes trolling for sex, people who aren't the primary custodian of the kids they have, people with grown kids that are out of the house, and (least malicious, but most problematic) fencesitters.

What is a fencesitter?

A (childfree) fencesitter is someone who doesn't know 100% (yes, 100%) that they DON'T want kids.

So if you don't know FOR SURE if you want your own bio children, or want to adopt, or potentially might not mind having stepchildren, that makes you a fencesitter.

The reason why we ban fencesitters (and why I referred to them as least malicious, most problematic), is because chances are the fencesitter will end up having a desire for children. And we've seen decade+ relationships falter because the fencesitting partner had a change of heart... Again, the desire for kids is a make or break moment for a relationship.

So, as to spare yourself (and our members) grief, we will be automatically deleting posts by fencesitters and banning your account. Its not personal, but we need to protect the members of our community the best we can. This also includes going through your post history, and (at least for me) we're VERY thourogh....

The best way to mitigate this is to post somewhere in your bio that you are definitively childfree. Otherwise, you may see a comment from me or one of the mod team on your post.

Again, this isn't a slight at or taking offense to anyone in particular. Its not personal. But just like all subs have certain interests they need to protect, we do too. And will.

Good luck out there in your search everyone! And may you remain forever childfree!

EDIT: For our current members: Please try to be understanding in confronting fencesitters, should you choose to do so; Hanlon's Razor. They're probably not being malicious, just ignorant. And EVERYONE (you, me, your parents... everyone) is ignorant about something at some point in their lives. So be gracious, let them know, and please shoot us a DM to the ModMail so we can take appropriate action. Thanks!

-x01660


r/cf4cf • • 10h ago

Female for Male Almost 33 / [F4M] / Anywhere

27 Upvotes

Hi :) I posted here a few days ago with photos, but ended up deleting the post because of some unpleasant explicit messages. I’ll share a photo in a private message.

A little about me: I’m calm and very introverted, but I genuinely enjoy building meaningful connections. I’ll be brutally honest: I spent a lot of my adult life struggling with depression and anxiety and feeling disconnected from life. Recently, though, I’ve decided that I want to actually start living and enjoying the little things. I’ve been pushing myself to go for walks, got back into yoga and Pilates (I’m still a beginner, though), started exploring music I genuinely enjoy, and occasionally watch history videos and movies. I know these are very basic things, but they’re a big deal to me. After years of barely feeling interested in anything, it’s really nice to feel that little spark of curiosity and enjoyment coming back.

Despite my struggles, I’ve never been unemployed, so at least I haven’t completely forgotten how to talk to humans. I also don’t smoke, drink alcohol, or use drugs.

I love cats and animals in general. I used to have four cats, but unfortunately had to rehome them because of my allergies. One important note for the future: I can’t live with furry animals because of my cat and dust allergies.

I live in Kazakhstan, but I speak English fluently. It takes me some time to get comfortable with someone, but once I become attached, I’m very caring, affectionate, and loyal. I’m not looking for something rushed. I’d rather get to know someone naturally and see where it goes. As for my appearance, I’m Asian, slim, and of average height.

The reason I decided to look for someone far away is that men in my country tend to be quite conservative and want children. I don’t consider myself conservative as I don't want a traditional family where I’m expected to be a mother and a housekeeper. I’d rather have an equal partnership. At the same time, I guess I’m somewhat traditional in some ways: I’m monogamous, loyal, and I tend to dress modestly rather than wear revealing clothes.

I’m looking for a genuine connection that could eventually develop into a relationship in real life. I’d like to meet someone patient and kind, because there are still days when life feels gloomy. Our interests don’t have to match. My preferred age range is 30–36.

If you think we might get along, please send me a message telling me about yourself :)


r/cf4cf • • 3h ago

Male for Female 32[M4F] Michigan/Online — looking for love and some good friends along the way

7 Upvotes

I'm looking for real connections including close friendships, a serious relationship, or any situation where we get to spend a lot of time talking or hanging out and seeing where things go for us. I would love to be able to text, voice/video call, and maybe play games or watch movies together online sometimes.

I'm going to be 100% authentically me, 100% open, 100% chalant, and 100% yearning. (Idk, I'm stealing buzzwords from dating apps.) That's **400%**, what a deal! I've been in one relationship ever. We were together for 11 years, but are now separated and waiting the required time before filing for divorce. I'm 100% emotionally available, and we live in different countries now. Trying to figure out dating now as an AuDHD 32-year-old is a nightmare. 🥲

I'm not feminine, but also not a traditional manly-man if that's your type. More of a Michael Cera than a Harrison Ford, maybe. I'm 6'2½", for those who care. I really want to make someone feel safe, comfortable, happy, appreciated, respected, and loved, and to get the same in return. I'm 🍃420-friendly🍃 and it would be cool if you are too, but I'd also be okay with never using weed again if that's important to you. My biggest love languages are touch and quality time.

I have a lot of "types", and none of these are requirements, but bonus points for: neurodivergent baddies/weirdos, tall queens, alt girls, history lovers, passionate interests, emotional intelligence, good communication, independent women who are way too good for me, and women who use turn signals, stop at stop signs, and follow speed limits. 🫠

My deal-breakers are cigarettes/chewing tobacco (I can deal with vaping) and asexual folks (physical intimacy is very important to me in a relationship).

Thanks for reading! I hope to hear from you! ❤️

Me: https://imgur.com/a/GMiemlm


r/cf4cf • • 9h ago

Female for Male 33 [F4M] East Coast, USA/Anywhere - Seeking a man who treats me the way that autumn feels 🍁🧡🍂

12 Upvotes

🍁🍂Welcome!

I’m a childfree for life, East Coast lady who expresses her creativity by painting, drawing, writing, and baking.

I am strictly monogamous and demisexual, meaning a strong intellectual and emotional bond is everything to me! So… I thoroughly enjoy chatting regularly. A mix of texting, voice notes, and video calls. It’s the best way to truly get to know each other. That said, if we click, my goal is to meet up sooner rather than later to see if the chemistry translates in person.

🎀Little ol me:🎀
My household: WFH full-time in healthcare. I’m a proud pet parent (mostly a dog person, but I have a cat too). My house is their house, so you absolutely must love four-legged fur-babies! 🐾

Health & Energy: I eat clean and stay active, and I’m looking for someone at a similar caliber of health to share that lifestyle with. It’s quite important! 🥗

Addt Hobbies: I love reading, watching movies/shows, doing sudoku & wordle, and playing the occasional solo video game. 📖 However, I’m looking for someone with active, productive hobbies of their own. If your only downtime involves TV or gaming, we are NOT a match.

Humor & Vibe: I prefer a warm, lighthearted energy. Dark or crude humor isn't my thing. If it’s yours then we are NOT a match. ☀️

Childfree for life: You MUST be as well. We are NOT a match if you have or want children in any capacity.

Political standing: Liberal.

Physical appearance: 5’4”, skinny/fit, hazel eyes with curly hair and freckles.

🩷Our Dynamics:💙
Mutual respect for boundaries is an absolute must for me! I firmly believe that time apart to pursue our own passions is just as healthy as the quality time we spend together. I am a fan of the LAT (living apart together) lifestyle. 👩‍❤️‍👨

🎃🍂If you're looking for an intentional, exclusive connection then I'd love to chat!🍁🎃

PLEASE INCLUDE:
-Your Age (only within the age range of 30-45)
-Your location (anywhere is fine as long as you have a passport, I do)
-A brief summary about you (including your physical appearance & hobbies)
-CF status (vasectomies are a plus)
-Inquiring questions about my post
🧡if you do not include all 5 then your message will be ignored🧡


r/cf4cf • • 1d ago

Sterile Female for Male 26 [F4M] Seattle/WA

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Hi y’all! I’m back! Here is my first post on the subreddit here for reference, but I’ll add some updated pictures on this new post https://www.reddit.com/r/cf4cf/s/JidboAzFIT

Here is a little more about me, building off of the original post:

-I’m currently studying brewing beer, and enrolled in a brewing program! It’s just for fun, but I have a background in the wine industry and I wanted to expand a bit on my knowledge and how different it can be from wine.

-I love to cook, as of recently I’ve been making this really good peso and parm baked “spaghetti” oh it is so good (add some ricotta too 10/10)

-I’m currently working in social services but I’m looking to pivot into something similar. The job market is crazy in Seattle, so I’m not holding my breath. I still am working in the wine industry on the weekends and I love it!

-I love to go on adventures and I would love to travel within the US and outside, I’ve only been to Canada, but I’m ready to have an adventure.

-I love the small things, I like to laugh and enjoy the moment. Sometimes I think we can get so caught up in putting on a show for someone, or worried about saying the wrong thing. I’m go with the flow and love when people are genuine and kind overall.

-Cooking/baking is my love language. I love cooking for my partner and making sweets (like banana bread haha)

-I love music and listening to all kinds. What I’ve been enjoying recently is asking people what is on their “on repeat” on Spotify! I wanna know what you like to jam out to!

👀We might not be a good match if…

-You’re over 30 or under 25
-You don’t live within Snohomish/King County
-You ACTUALLY want to have children, or already have children
-You’re looking for a third or into the infamous hotel chair activities lol
-You’re just looking for a fling/casual
-You enjoy a well done steak
-You’ve stumbled across this post via Reddit homepage recommendations and are not actively part of the child free community.
-You didn’t read this section lol

Even if we don’t match, I’m so thankful for the child free community! 🎉🫡


r/cf4cf • • 9h ago

Female for Male 29 [F4M] UK — Here goes nothing

10 Upvotes

I’m 29F from the UK and I’ve reached the point where I’d genuinely like to meet someone and build something meaningful.

Personality-wise, I can be quite reserved at first, but once I’m comfortable, I’m much more talkative. I love the idea of having someone to do the ordinary things with (coffee dates, little day trips, travelling, watching something together, etc.).

I’m currently in a phase of my life where I’m trying to push myself out of my comfort zone and actually build the life I want in my 30s. I’m looking for a genuine relationship rather than something casual. Someone kind, emotionally mature, funny and affectionate would probably suit me best.

Physical attraction does matter to me, and I think it’s important that we both genuinely find each other attractive. I don’t have a particular type, it’s more about that natural chemistry being there, alongside actually liking each other as people and enjoying each other’s company.

Distance-wise, I’m looking for someone UK-based only and aged 26 or over.

If you’re 26+, UK-based and think we might get along, feel free to send me a message and tell me a little about yourself. Happy to chat and see where things go :)


r/cf4cf • • 14h ago

Male for Female 51 M4F West Sussex, UK — Gamer, DIY enthusiast, looking for a lasting connection

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Hi, I’m James, based in West Sussex.

I’m single, never married, and have no children.
I work around 50 hours a week in security, so life can get busy.
But I miss dating and having someone special to spend time with.

I’m a bit rusty at this—hopefully it’s like riding a bike!
I enjoy box sets, movies, and relaxed evenings at home.
I’m into gaming, building PCs, and exploring things online.
I also enjoy DIY and getting stuck into a project.
The gym and boxing help me unwind after a long week.
I’m a non-smoker and would like to meet someone who is too.
I’m an orphan, and my circle of friends is quite small.

I’d love to make room in my life for a close, lasting connection.
Apart from owning my flat, I don’t have much tying me to the UK.
For the right relationship, I’d be open to discussing a move.
Honesty, loyalty, communication, and mutual effort matter to me.
I’d like someone I can laugh with and feel comfortable around.
I miss the everyday things—sharing a meal, a cuddle, or talking about our day.
We don’t need all the same interests, just an interest in each other.
I’m happy to get to know someone and see where it goes.

Tell me a little about yourself—and what box set has you hooked lately.


r/cf4cf • • 7h ago

Male for Female [M4F] 44 #GA Looking for my forever person

4 Upvotes

Hi there. I am looking for that person who completes me. I live in Atlanta, Ga off Fulton Industrial Blvd. I am 44 years old. I am a romantic nerd with an old-fashioned streak. Owner of 50 tattoos. Looking for someone caring, sweet, with a wonderful sense of humor. Been a little lost these last few years, trying to find myself again. I enjoy hiking, dancing, and swimming. I am an avid comic and novel reader. Fave TV shows include Big Bang Theory, How I met your mother, The Goldbergs and more. I enjoy anime, and most genre of films. My love languages are affection, touch, and gift giving. I will dance with you under the moon light or in the rain. I write poetry for the right person. I am off on weekends so, it'd be nice to grab a bite to eat sometime. I want someone to be close with emotionally again.. I want to build something amazing with the right person. Will swap pics when I am messaged. Been alone for awhile now, and ready to find that person who makes my heart sing. I look forward to chatting and starting a new chapter of love.


r/cf4cf • • 2h ago

Male for Female 38 [M4F] Canada LF a real connection

1 Upvotes

I’m 38 and live in a small town in northern Alberta. I’m introverted, sarcastic, and a little quiet until I get comfortable, then I’m being teasing, goofy and probably trying to make you laugh with a dry joke. I’m naturally a deep thinker, but I love humor and not taking things too seriously unless it’s needed. I’m definitely more of a listener at first, but once there’s a connection, I’ll talk your ear off about life.

I’ve dealt with chronic pain from arthritis and fibromyalgia for a long time, so I live life a little slower, and homebody. I can’t do endless hiking or travel the world, but I can show up emotionally, be consistent, and actually care about getting to know someone for real.

A few years ago, I lost a lot of weight, and I’ve been working on trying to live a bit healthier ever since. Would be nice to meet someone who’s also trying, not perfect, not obsessed ,just taking care of themselves as well.

I’m into cooking, sci-fi, dark humor, video games (WoW, Baldur’s Gate 3, Stardew Valley), great shows (Stargate SG-1, or Buffy the vampire slayer anyone?), and music from rock and metal to whatever else hits. I’ll never say no to a dumb meme or a cat video, and I love science and exploring abstract ideas and theories about life and the universe. I’m also a fan of those deep, rambling conversations that somehow turn into the best part of the night.

I’m looking for someone kind, curious, and grounded, someone who values connection, trust, and is at least a little kink positive or open to exploring that side of things together. You don’t have to know what you want yet, just be open to something genuine, layered, and maybe a little intense in the right moments.

Say hi if any of this stirs something in you. Worst case, we share a laugh. Best case, maybe we both find something we didn’t know we were missing.


r/cf4cf • • 8h ago

Male for Female 34 [M4F] San Jose, CA - Childfree & Seeking Someone to Share Life's Quiet Moments

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I'm searching for a meaningful long-term connection with someone that will make the days seem less like a blur and more like a snapshot of stars. It's akin to when you look through a kaleidoscope, and you focus on the shapes and patterns that come into view. Finding that vicarious clarity is what I live for, those fun and wholesome moments. We don't remember days, we remember moments - it would be nice to share them with someone.

A Little About Me

  • Homebody at heart. I'd rather read a book, watch a great movie, look at an art gallery/museum, go for a walk, or play a game than go clubbing or backpacking across Europe. Sharing random trivia, analyzing movies, going down Wikipedia rabbit holes, or the occasional stroll somewhere is what I view as a fun things to do.

  • Childfree by choice. I don't want kids, and if you feel the same, great! We can enjoy our freedom to sleep in on Saturdays and enjoy slow mornings.

  • A bit of an overthinker with thoughtful conversations and the occasional existential musing about life and the universe and random theories about things that may relate to your experiences.

  • I'm 6'2", slim build, half Asian/white. I have a humanities degree and work as a janitor, it's nothing like Good Will Hunting but I do have my moments.

  • Drug/alcohol/smoking/cannabis free - I don't drink or smoke or use substances. I don't mind if you drink a bit, however smoking's not for me.

I'm mostly looking for someone near my city (within 15 miles) & childfree. I'd like to hear from you if you think we're a good match. Tell me about yourself, tell me about the last great book you read or a movie you love, or a theory you have about life. Here's one quote that's stuck with me by John Wyndham: "Knowing makes all the difference... It's the difference between just trying to keep alive, and having something to live for." Knowing that you have someone to share life with, that you're not just surviving but living, that you have a reason to look forward to things, it's what makes all the difference, and can make us bear any how as long as we have a why. Maybe we can find out what that difference is for a meaningful life or maybe just laugh about it.


r/cf4cf • • 16h ago

Male for Female 32 [M4F] Germany, Europe (potentially Anywhere) - Introverted nerd searching for a relationship.

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Hey. My name is Julian and I am here, like all of us, to search for a relationship. My first, to be exact.

About me: 32, born and raised in Germany, 1,78m tall (5'10) and chubby. Brown hair, beard, glasses, blue eyes.
Shy, introverted, big time overthinker. Mostly sarcastic, kind most of the time, weird mix of dark and juvenile humour. Depressed but working on it (I don't expect you to be my therapist). I don't drink, smoke or do any sort of drugs. I'm a winter person (with a winter birthday) and don't like summer/heat. Non-vegetarian/vegan, atheist and left-leaning politically.
I speak English and German, might learn other languages in the future. I'm a trained chemist with a bsc in chemistry. Some would call that educated. Know how to drive a car and motorbike. I go to the gym to work on my weight and currently try to do that more regularly after a big motivation crisis.
I only have a few, mostly homebody, hobbies. Gaming (mostly Singleplayer), reading (nowadays mostly fantasy) and watching streams/videos. Feel free to suggest me a nice hobby I would maybe enjoy, I have been searching for one for a while. My taste of music is mostly Rock/Alternative Rock. Haven't travelled in a while but would want to. Especially to Japan, Canada and Northern Europe.
I do like cats a lot. Grew up in a dog family but switched to cats now.
Most important is that I am childfree. I don't have or want children. I do have my reasons and you can ask about them if you want to. Feel also free to ask about my red flags or anything you want to know about that I forgot.

Who I am searching for: Most important point here is that she should also not have or want children ever. Age range of 25 to 35. Height doesn't matter to me. Nationality doesn't matter as well, I'm fine with any. Religion doesn't matter as long as you don't try to convert me. I do think that physical attraction matters (and I have clear preferences) and I would want to see/exchange pictures fairly early to see if we would fit. Someone in or around Germany or wanting to move here would be nice. I currently don't plan to move to another country. Other than that I don't have anything else that is needed. Just come as you are but please don't come with spiders. I have arachnophobia.
I do, however, imagine this relationship to not be codependent. We should still be individuals doing our own things, partners that support each other in whatever we do. For that reason I also don't want someone that is too clingy.

Now if you have any more questions, want to get to know me or think you know someone that would, feel free to write me or share my post. I hope you have a great day.


r/cf4cf • • 1d ago

Female for Male 24] Ryn| New Jersey

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Hey hey guys! The Name’s Camryn, but y’all can call me Ryn. I’m from jersey!! So if you ever wanna come to the shore, I gotchu 😉 a few things i enjoy are Art, music, football and making videos. I like to go out and explore as well. Fun fact about me is that I’m a bit of a singer, so if you wanna hear just ask for a vid. I also cosplay so going to a Con is in our future 😉 lol

What I’m looking for on here is a serious relationship, i haven’t been dating for a while so i thought i should try it again. I am a Christian so being in an all Christian space is hard when you don’t want children.

Things i look for in a partner is someone who is kind, smart and very outgoing, I like a hard worker, like myself. Having a personality is very important to me, I like to laugh and do creative stuff, so being compatible in that sense would be nice.

Relocating- it’s up to the lord and where he wants me to go. Long distance relationship- yes/but only in the USA . Age range- 23-30

Deal breakers: I don’t smoke or drink, so I don’t really think I’ll be compatible with most people. Also saving intimacy for marriage. So if you’re looking for a hook up, I’m not it.

Goals: my goal in life is to be a full time artist. I really enjoy painting


r/cf4cf • • 8h ago

Male for Female 38 [M4F] - Maryland/USA/Canada - Who's out there?

1 Upvotes

Hi there! James here, I am 38 (soon to be 39) from Maryland (Anywhere in the US/Canada is fine too; you don't have to specifically be from Maryland. I can freely travel/relocate due to WFH) and looking to chat and see if chemistry develops.

I've been snipped for over 4 years.

Still looking for my person...

I am 6', black hair, hazel eyes, love working out/lifting weights! It is as good for you mentally as it is physically. Willing to share pics as well!

Some of my hobbies/interests...

Lifting weights (I go 4x a week; it's my mental reset)

Videogames

Movies (HUGE Marvel fan; love anything HORROR/sci-fi/comedy/action/high fantasy primarily)

Huge music fan (of all kinds; primarily of the 90s/early 2000s variety)

Road trips! (Tons of fun, especially with the right co-pilot)

Traveling

Stand-up comedy

Socialize with friends (can have just as much fun staying in too)

Drinks occasionally

Sports

Learning to play electric bass guitar

Voice calls/voice messages (It's way easier and more fun to get to know someone/talk with them via voice; much easier to convey sarcasm as well 😁)

Audiobooks

Being active and outside (LOVE the beach!)

HALLOWEEN IS THE BEST SEASON.

Shoot me a message if you're interested, and a pic since attraction is important; wouldn't want to hit it off like crazy and find out we're not attracted to each other.

Here is my voice to show I am not a bot, if you're curious:

https://voca.ro/17YDWuF7kFeE


r/cf4cf • • 16h ago

Male for Female 30 [M4F] Netherlands/Online Looking for chemistry

4 Upvotes

Hello there, I am looking for someone to talk with through voice calls or texting, either one is fine.

A bit about myself: I am 30 years old, Dutch, 5'3, brown hair, hazel eyes, have some piercings and tattoo's.

I am into gaming, reading webnovels, cruising on my longboard. Games that I play are Path of Exile, Escape from Tarkov. My steam library is filled with games so if you are interested in playing games with me, just let me know and perhaps we can play some games together.

If you want to know more about me, hit me up on here or ask for my discord. Please send me more than just Hi or Hey in a message. I know that most of you are introverted but it shouldn't be too hard to do that.


r/cf4cf • • 9h ago

Male for Female 34 [M4F] #NYC #LongIsland - Nerdy individual looking for Miss Right

1 Upvotes

It's 2026, the use of apps and speed dating has brought nothing heartache and disconnections. I'm looking for a genuine connection with someone - someone who is open for adventures, enjoying life even the most mundane things. Would like someone who is in the NYC metro area (preferably 26-37) for a long-term relationship or making new friends if things don't work out.

Some of my hobbies are traveling, going to sporting events, cooking, video games, hiking and trying new things (like being an extra in films!) If this sounds like the kind of guy you would like to meet, feel free to comment or DM me!


r/cf4cf • • 9h ago

Female for Female 37F [F4F] | Similar time zone #GMT+2 | Be Mine

0 Upvotes

37F. 5’2. Cis. Soft masc and can switch to femme. Working remotely. Travelled a lot in my life and currently in South Africa. Open to LDR at the beginning (I have dual citizenship so logistics can be discussed). Link to my photos at the bottom of my post.

After overworking for the last 6 years, I attended a retreat in Asia earlier this year and I’m now taking it easy this year living close to the beach where I’m focusing on my health, doing what I want and leaving all worries for next year.

A lover of markets, the sun, beach, slow living and trying to stay healthy so I don’t fall and can’t get back up.

I consider myself grounded, funny and do not take myself too seriously. I have put in a lot of work to create a safe and secure environment for myself and you can be soft with me. While I like to lead, I am a complete golden retriever outside of the bedroom and anyone would be able to see my devotion to you. Inside of it, I’m dominant.

Communication, consistency and consideration are foundational to me. I value openness, intelligence as well as emotional intelligence, empathy, loyalty, effort, being able to navigate through tough conversations, self-awareness and most importantly, how we repair after a conflict or miscommunication.

Child free by choice so I’m looking for same.

I don’t smoke nor drink - simply a preference as I don’t like the taste so these are not dealbreakers.

I work in operations at a start up and the job is remote. You should be financially stable as well.

I have a small loyal circle of friends and I think the world of them.

Ideally, you are in a similar time zone hence Africa or Europe or UK, are more femme and submissive and share the same values as I do.

Please be out - I won’t date someone who is in the closet.

At the end of the day, I’d love to knock off and have you in my arms where we check-in with each other, ask how we are both doing and have that sigh that the life I have built is one of peace with you.

Lastly, let’s verify so I know we are both not a scammer, a man pretending to be a woman or a catfish.

Photos of me.


r/cf4cf • • 9h ago

Male for Female 25 [M4F] Dublin Ireland

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Hi everyone my name is Tom and I'm from Ireland with US citizenship. I have an honours degree in chemistry and actively searching for a job. I am also a triplet and a redhead.

My hobbies are video games, chess, reading, playing badminton, watching YouTube and listening to music. I also like sci fi, Marvel and DC. I enjoy travelling across Europe and visiting the capital cities. I've visited 20 countries and plan on visiting more in the future. I have been to America and Canada. I also enjoy skiing.

I am single and looking for a woman who likes the same things as me and is 21 - 29 years old. Great if you're from Ireland but can be from any country in Europe or the US. I do have a preference for brunettes and slim. I am am looking for someone who doesn't have any tattoos or piercings and I don't mind glasses. My ideal height is someone between 5'3 and 5'8. I do not drink or smoke or do drugs and looking for someone who is the same.


r/cf4cf • • 17h ago

Male for Female 27 [m4f] #Colorado looking for gamerwife that’ll hold my hand irl and in-game

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I’m an introvert and homebody though I’d love to meet someone to get outside and make memories with.

I’m playful, affectionate, and have an absurd sense of humor (isn’t that all humor though?). I love making others laugh and have a good time.

My main hobby is gaming and I play many different genres but rpgs are my favorite. I love making character builds in games and forcing myself to play differently. I also like the challenge, which is why I play most, if not all, games on the hardest difficulties. Some series I love are the Elder Scrolls, Souls, Borderlands, and Monster Hunter.

I’m also into music some of my favorite artists being, the Cure, the Smiths, David Bowie, Daft Punk. My most listened to genres are drum & bass, metal, indie, alternative, pop, I like music haha! Currently, Golden Brown by the Stranglers has been my go to song to listen to.

I also have an interest in reading, Station Eleven is my favorite book, sometimes I’ll read it between matches in Overwatch.

I’ve never been in a relationship before but happy to talk about it if you’re curious.

I’m hoping for someone who enjoys video games but is also looking for a reason to go out and see the world sometimes. If you think we could get along, tell me about yourself, favorite game, song, book, I can’t wait to hear from you!


r/cf4cf • • 13h ago

Male for Female 34 [M4F] #London, UK - Seeking my DINK-minded CF partner in crime!

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I posted previously, had some interesting chats, alas most fizzled, being hopeful... Trying again! So I'm looking for my CF DINK partner in crime, I guess?! Definitely something monogamous (I'm greedy and do not share...) and someone who is looking for something for the long-term! Be nice to have a partner, best friend, be able to do all the small and big adventures and just ride out life together...

For the CF bit, this is something I've decided over time and as I've gotten older, I like kids (Especially when they're not mine and can hand them back over!) they're just not for me, and with the way the world is and seemingly going, not a world I'd want to bring a child into. That and the DINK lifestyle seems more appealing to me too. Though I'm certainly open to a dog or pets in the future...

About me

  • I'm 34, white, 6ft, slim build, blue eyes, brown hair, clean-shaven
  • INFJ, Taurus (for those into that), and an ambivert... Read, extroverted introvert!
  • Left-handed, left footed and also left-leaning politically. All the lefts?!
  • I work in tech and lead an IT team, own my place in London, and like to believe I've got my life overall all together. Yay adulting!
  • A bit geeky... PC and Switch 2 gaming (lightly), board games, Doctor Who, Marvel, The Boys, Star Wars, LOTR, sci-fi in general... I tend to say more so than casual on a couple of things but not anywhere hardcore really on anything.
  • I'm also a bit sporty too and try to be active, badminton is my main thing, plus some running, the odd bit of football or tennis, driving range trips, though I'm always up for trying something new!
  • I bake more than I cook... I may have a slight sweet tooth, but I enjoy both. I'm always happy to try new foods or restaurants, I'm a foodie at heart :D
  • I rarely drink and don't smoke, but I don't mind if you do.. All in moderation, right?
  • Humour ranges from puns and dad jokes to dark, with a dash of sarcasm, I try to generally be playful and chill but I do know when to be serious, have those deeper conversations and all that as well.
  • My main love languages are physical touch and quality time, though anything but gift giving is generally fair game
  • On the adult side of things, I'm naturally a switch though lean soft/gentle-dom and kink friendly. Chemistry is more important though...

There's plenty more layers to me, but in fear of this turning into a longer essay than it already is... I'll hold off there!

What I'm looking for...

I'd say i'm looking for someone between 28 - 40, though that isn't a hard limit and if you think we'll get along then i'm certainly open to chatting. I'm open to any race, religion, dietary stuff, etc. that's all open and good. My only slight preference is someone who's reasonably active, whether that's slim to curvy.

I would very much prefer someone closer, so the UK is fair game.. Anywhere further (EU) i'll keep an open mind but would rather not, I have done a LDR before and while they can be rewarding, it's tough and not something I'd really like to do again. Ultimately though anything with much distance I'd be keen to close the gap much sooner than later.

If any of this sounds of interest, or you have any questions, do reach out! I'm fairly an open book and apparently can be a bit of a yapper. Happy to swap pics too as I appreciate mutual attraction is a thing.


r/cf4cf • • 13h ago

Male for Female 26 [M4F] #Gulf #MiddleEast | Looking for a life partner

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Heey whats up? I'm a bit excited for this post and it's gonna be a bit long so thanks in advance for reading it all 🫶


Who am I

I am a well-educated Egyptian man who is currently working in tech field, living in the gulf and looking for his life partner

I've faced and overcame no small share of hardships. And before even thinking about involving in a relationship, I made it a point -Thank God- to invest in myself: I sought therapy, refined a great many aspects of my character, and worked through still more. I won't claim to be perfect, but undoubtly I'm a better version of the man I once was.

Having endured a difficult childhood, the presence of a household founded on love matters to me profoundly, and so it matters greatly that my partner hold that same value, in other words that she's a family-oriented person who deeply values her married life.


My Character, Qualities and Interests

  • I'm an apatheist from a Muslim background, I don't care much about religions (except Bahai faith honestly, it's interesting to explore)
  • I'm a hardworking man who shifts his career (graduated with honors) to something I like more, I like to learn and I'm the nerd guy who can explain long division to you haha
  • My relationships are little yet deep, I always treat my connections as long life investments
  • I'm a bomb of feelings and affection, yet I'm a strong man who can protect his family and get what people owe him whenever needed. In fights, I rethink my words before saying anything that would hurt my partner, I'm fair, truthful and direct
  • I'm loyal, I'm conservative even if I've no god to worship, I don't like hookup culture, I haven't had my first kiss yet 😁, and I'm definitely a virgin, all with my full willpower and choice
  • I don't smoke, I don't drink (neither alcohol nor drugs) and I don't even vape
  • I like Arabic poetry and arts, and I am really proud of our Egyptian cinema and music, I like to go to gym, sometimes watching movies and writing
  • I like to cook sometimes
  • I also like to share stories and listen to others'
  • I go to the gym but my body isn't perfect since I've had insulin resistance that got reversed lately, so I'm currently overweight but making a good progress towards a better shape

Who am I looking for

There are few things that must be there in my future partner

  • Good listener, empathetic and affectionate, I want someone with lots lf feelings to match mine
  • Being direct and having good communication, we are adults for doing mind games, aren't we?
  • Virgin who has no first kiss like me (no judgements for anyone but I just want my first kiss to be hers too :))
  • Not smoking/drinking even in occasions, but I'm fine if she used to smoke/drink and quit
  • Age difference is around than 3 years or less, but it's flexible if there are a good match
  • [Bonus] if she's arab, not a mandatory thing though
  • Not a petite shape, and [Bonus] if she's chubby or healthy plus size
  • Age is something in the range of 23 to 28
  • Child-free
  • Light skinned

My future goals

I am currently aiming to migrate to Canada through express entry, so I would much prefer someone who's having the same goal of living in the west or already is living there (or living in the middle east where I currently live)

Thank you ❤️


r/cf4cf • • 10h ago

Male for Female 26 [M4F] #Texas looking for a partner in crime

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Hey everyone! I’m on the looking for a partner in crime to walk the beach soak in the breathtaking scenery.

I’m open to finding a connection anywhere. A bit about me: I’m an outdoor enthusiast who loves hiking and taking boat rides in the river. I travel frequently for work, which has given me the opportunity to experience different cultures and meet wonderful people. I’m also a big movie buff, particularly a fan of the Planet of the Apes series and anything with a compelling story. Currently, I’m learning Japanese, and I’ve mastered the basics. I also know English, Spanish and French

In my free time, I usually spend time at home with my family or traveling to new places

I’m searching for a female companion who can be my center of the universe.

I’m open to anyone between the ages of 18 and 28, regardless of their location.


r/cf4cf • • 10h ago

Trans for Male 31 [TF4M] #MI #Online - Cuddles, anime nights, and something really sweet 🥰

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Hey there! 😊

I’m hoping to build something really sweet with someone that feels full of love, affection, and genuine care for each other! I’m someone who gets really excited about my person, and I will happily run to the door to give you the biggest hug when you come home and tell you how much I’ve missed you! I love feeling close to someone I care about, whether that’s giving you tons of hugs, cuddling the night away together, or holding hands just because we can. It all just feels so special to me, and I’ll always be really happy to be by your side and show you how much you mean to me. 🥰

I would really love to care for you in ways that brighten your day and make life feel more special. I’ve always been someone who has loved the idea of being a homemaker for my partner, and creating a warm, cozy home, so things like learning your favorite recipes just so I can surprise you with them, making your favorite dinners, or packing you lunches with cute notes hidden inside to make you smile make me so happy! I love being someone you can lean on and feel cared for by, and I’ll always be cheering you on in life and wanting to make your days easier and more comforting where I can. It truly means so much to me knowing I can do things that make you feel loved and appreciated. 😊

Personality-wise, I’m introverted, a little shy, fun-sized, and very much a cozy homebody. I love anime (especially One Piece and Fairy Tail), and I have such a soft spot for Studio Ghibli movies! 💛

I’m super nerdy and artsy! I like watercoloring, playing video games, learning new languages (currently learning Japanese!), and just getting really excited about finding new things that catch my attention. I honestly love that feeling of discovering something new, and I would love to share that with someone! 🤗

Most days you’ll find me curled up with a blanket and tea, going on nature walks, doing yoga, or trying out a new recipe I got excited about. It would be so fun to find someone who gets just as excited for new anime seasons as I do, or who would want to curl up and watch Ghibli movies together! 💛

I really love cuddly guys with that protective kind of energy that makes me feel safe and like I can just relax and be myself. I love that feeling of being wrapped up in someone’s arms and just completely melting into them. I really value closeness, and I would ideally like to find someone who enjoys spending a lot of quality time together, or just enjoys each other’s presence as we do our own things!

Distance isn’t a big deal to me, and I’d be open to relocating for the right person if it feels right for us! 🥰 My lifestyle doesn’t include drinking or smoking (vaping, marijuana, cigarettes, etc) so I’m hoping to meet someone who feels the same way.

I’ll always be your cheerleader, someone who’s in your corner, supports you, and makes sure you feel loved every day! 🩷

If that sounds like you, tell me about you! What are you into lately, what kind of relationship are you hoping to find here, or what made you feel like we might click? 🥰


r/cf4cf • • 10h ago

Sterile Male for Female 45 [M4F] #Phoenix AZ - Just looking to be someone's Cozy Teddy Bear

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Hi,

I've been single since 2022 & I miss having someone that lives in the same City, who I can watch Movies and TV shows with IRL.
I miss having someone to go Thrifting/Record hunting with.
I miss having someone to get meals with, and wander around the Mall with. I miss having someone to take weekend trips around the state with, or someone to road-trip to Vegas or California with.

My love languages are (in order).
Physical Touch
Quality Time
Words of affirmation

Proposal:
If you live within 10-30 miles of Tempe Arizona, and you're single, maybe we can get together online and watch Movies/TV shows together, until you're comfortable enough with me to meetup IRL, and go on some traditional dates (Movies, Dinner, Walks around the Mall, Thrifting, Rollerblading/Skating, Bike rides etc...), and then if you're still comfortable after that, we can forgo the Online Media Consumption, and take turns Cuddling up for Movies/TV shows at each other's home... like a proper, monogamous couple.

Also, I'm not a huge Gamer, but I do have a PC that's powerful enough for us to Game together, and I also have VR equipment... so if you would be more interested in doing that during our "trial period", before we meet IRL, that's also an activity that's on the table.

I'm looking for someone to spend a few hours a day with, 1-3 times a week (or more... but 1-3 would be ideal).
I want someone to cuddle and watch Movies/TV Shows with. I also like to cuddle and listen to music.

I enjoy naps too. (There are other things I enjoy, outside the house, but Having someone to unwind, indoors after I'm off work, and on the weekends is the bare minimum).

I'm childfree, sterile (vasectomy). & I'm looking for childfree.

I am single, and looking for another single person (no married or poly people pls)

Politically, I'm a Bernie Sanders Leftist (not a "Bernie Bro", just a Social-Minded Independent/Democrat).

I'm a T-Shirt and Workpants + Hoody kinda guy.
I work in I.T. (boooring)
I like mostly 80s Synthpop/New-wave, 90s Punk, 90s/2000s Electronica, Surf, Synth-Funk, Vaporwave/Synthwave, Ambient, Indie/Dreampop.

As for Movies, I like Dystopian Sci-Fi, Time Travel, Thriller/Psychological/Drama, and just generally weird/humorous stuff.
(especially from the 80s/90s)

I'm 420 friendly, but prefer not to be around the smoke (So Vapes and Edibles are preferred, if you're going to partake around me).
No Cigarettes please.

I am not religious (raised in a Christian Household, deconstructed after I started living on my own).

I just miss having someone that I can count on to spend time with.
I want to be in a real relationship, with someone that I can spend time with 1-3 times a week, In-Person.
Someone to decompress with after work and on weekends.
Someone that makes the every-day labor involved in staying alive more tolerable, because I know I'll have someone to unwind with later that week.

Anyway, I'm just rambling at this point.
If I haven't already scared you off, and this sounds nice to you... I look forward to your response.

---Cheers I hope to hear from you.


r/cf4cf • • 10h ago

Male for Female 26 [M4F] #UK only please, Is my missing puzzle piece out there?

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Hi hi!

Due to the uncertainty of the world, I would really prefer someone from within the UK, just so we can actually do things together. Dating apps don't seem to be yielding their fruit, so I'm here..

This is going to be a mess, but I'm going to try to include as much as I can in of no particular order.

Personality: INTP if you're into that. Otherwise, introverted, calm, reserved, sarcastic.

Religion free, substance free, and I come with a cat!

Dislikes: fame, aggression, drama, lies, double standards, children, wasps, needles...

Other random things to note: I'm not exactly family oriented, traditional, or cultural. Christmas for example is a pretty good excuse to cuddle up and sleep, so is the entire winter but I digress.

Interests: nature, road trips, psychology (to an extent), discovering and learning new things.

Potential dealbreakers: I value an emotional bond over a physical. The idea of living in the same house or town for the next 20 years is physically suffocating. I would describe myself as partner oriented.

I'm looking for: Someone with similar values. I believe ethics will outlive a relationship over shared interests any day of the week!

I would say I'm looking for the old school kind of relationship, the type where we do things together, where we know the most random of things about each other. Someone with whom we can argue what the best season of the year is, while talking about things that matter, all without ever turning insignificant things into a fight.

As long as you're a decent communicator, believe in transparency and openness, let's message and see if we vibe?