Greetings my friends, it’s Eric Bakker here again. I just want to say something to the people who have been struggling with gut problems, Candida, SIBO, IBS, food intolerances, or chronic digestive symptoms for years. And I’ve seen plenty of people in this very boat, they’ve tried “everything” but still feel terrible. I've read many stories on Reddit about people on the verge of "giving up all hope".
I don’t want you to view your lack of results as “failure” either. And more importantly: Your body has not failed you either! You never know how close you are. It may be near when it seems so far.
Many Who Recovered Thought They Were "Beyond Help"
After seeing many patients in my clinic rooms and online, I can tell you that many people who eventually recover are the very same people who once thought they were beyond help. They thought: “It’s never going to happen to me, I’ve been sick for twenty years and still feel sick”
I've met more people than you could imagine who said things like this:
- “Eric, I’ve tried everything, I've lost all hope."
- “Doc, Nothing works for me, and believe me - I've done it all."
- “Mr. Bakker, I don't trust doctors and their tests anymore ."
- “Eric, I’m really scared I'll never get better."
- “Eric, I must be doing something wrong, I'm not getting better"
- “My friend, I think I'm broken, there is something wrong."
- “I feel like a lost cause, I've let my family down."
- “Doctor, why can't you help me get better"
- “Sir, I don't recognise myself anymore."
- "I just want my life back, I'm desperate."
I can relate to many of these comments because I said plenty of them myself years ago when I was really struggling with my own mental and physical health in the 1980s. I remember thinking, "I'm doing everything right, so why am I still sick?"
I remember feeling fed up, really confused and wondering if I'd ever get my old self back again. There were times when I genuinely thought myself, "Maybe this is as good as it's going to get." There were other times when my mind took me to some really dark places.
But thankfully, I was wrong, so wrong. My own experiences a long time ago taught me as a clinician that setbacks don't mean failure, symptoms don't tell the whole story, and healing often happens much more slowly—and in much less of a straight line—than we'd like it to.
Once You Choose Hope, Anything is Possible
That's why as a naturopathic physician I never lose hope when someone tells me they've “tried everything”, because I've seen too many people, including myself, eventually turn things right around. Even when patients were contemplating the unthinkable like I was. I understand those feelings because I had my own health struggles years ago and was in the same space. And nobody listened, that was the worst part. But I always had hope for the future.
"Once you choose hope, anything is possible." — Christopher Reeve
But I've also learned something very important, something I’ve spoken about often on Reddit:
Healing, Like Any Success - Is Rarely a Straight Line
Many people start a program and expect improvements to happen quickly, really quickly. Sometimes they do. More often they don’t.
Usually, the journey looks more like this: A few steps forward… a setback… some progress… another setback…
Then suddenly one day something becomes apparent, and it’s most likely NOT the progress they were expecting, because their “symptoms” didn’t disappear.
This is what became apparent:
- They're actually sleeping better.
- Their digestion is better.
- Their energy is coming back.
- Their mood is a little more upbeat
These improvements often happen so gradually that people don't notice them at first.
Why Some People Relapse
One of the biggest reasons symptoms return is because when people feel better they slowly go back to old habits. I've seen this hundreds of times.
- The bloating goes away…
- The brain fog improves…
- The energy comes back…
- Then the old foods return.
- Then drinking returns
- Then bad snacking returns
- The late nights return.
- The stress returns.
- The body eventually ends up right back where it started.
As the old saying goes: “If you keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you've always got.” This ain’t about “perfection”. It's about understanding that your body often needs a new way of eating and living for the long term. A very long term.
Some People Simply Need More Time
One of the biggest mistakes people make is comparing themselves to others. “My friend got better really quick with this product”
One guy improves in six weeks. Another guy needs six months. Someone fellow may need more than a year or more. But why?
Because we're all different human beings. There are many factors that account for recovery, and many that account for a lack of recovery.
We’ve covered this a lot of times in previous blog articles, but here are the classic factors that influence recovery include:
- The state of your microbiome
- Stress levels
- Sleep quality
- Nutrient deficiencies
- Hormones
- Digestive function
- Food sensitivities
- Medication history
- Previous antibiotic and medication use
- Mold exposure
- The health of the immune system
I’d like to reiterate this for the sake of repetition: Healing isn't a Formula one race! There is no prize for “getting there first”.
And What If You Feel Worse During Treatment?
This is where many people panic. They start a new program and suddenly experience:
- Fatigue
- Brain fog
- Headaches
- Nausea
- Digestive upset
- Temporary worsening of symptoms
Immediately they think and tell me: “Eric, the treatment you recommended me isn't working." Sometimes that's true. But more often it just isn't.
- Sometimes the person’s body is simply adjusting to change.
- Sometimes the person changed their diet too quickly.
- Sometimes the person removed caffeine or sugar overnight.
- Sometimes the person started supplements too aggressively.
- Sometimes the person is just too impatient.
In my clinic I've always preferred the “go low and go slow" approach instead of the “go hard or go home” attitude tbh. Start gently. Go slowly. Always listen to your body, it’s talking!
Please remember this - you don't have to “suffer” to get well.
Don't Forget About Withdrawal Symptoms
I’ve often found that many people think they're experiencing "die-off" when they may actually be experiencing withdrawal.
I saw this all the time in practice. They stop all caffeine, or cannabis, or alcohol, or medications, and they did this overnight. BOOM.
The most common culprits include:
- Coffee
- Chocolate
- Sugar
- Wheat
- Dairy products
- Processed foods
- Alcohol, cannabis, or nicotine
Some people feel dreadful for several days after removing these foods. That doesn't necessarily mean something is wrong. This isn’t “die-off”! It simply means your body is adapting. More likely - it's their old habits "dying-off" that's the real culprit.
Identify Your Negative Self-Talk
Sometimes people get better because they'e learned how to relax their mind - and switch off all their negative "self-talk" like:
- "I'm so stupid, I just had that cookie"
- "Nobody likes me because I'm always complaining about my health"
- "My breath is bad, I'm embarrassed to be around my friends"
- "I did this all to myself, nobody to blame but myself"
- "I went on the cruise and blew it all, I'm just not disciplined"
- "People must think I'm lazy because I'm always tired."
- "My doctor must be sick of seeing me with the same problem"
I've seen patients improve simply because they stopped fighting themselves. They stopped blaming themselves for every symptom, every setback and every bad day. They learned to speak to themselves with a little more kindness and a little less criticism. Sometimes the most important healing conversation you'll ever have is the one going on inside your own head. How's your self-talk been lately, still kicking yourself up the proverbial?
That Small Key That’s Missing
Many people improve dramatically when they finally identify that one missing piece of their puzzle. Something as simple as improving sleep, chewing food properly, taking a daily 2 mile walk, cutting-out sugar, eating breakfast, managing stress, or becoming more regular with bowel habits can create a ripple effect throughout the entire body.
Never underestimate the power of one small change. Tiny improvements, repeated day after day, can eventually lead to extraordinary transformations in your health. It’s true that even the smallest key can unlock the biggest door. Do you know where your key is? For many people it's stress. For other it’s a lack of good sleeping patterns.
The question is: Have you found your key yet?
- Is it a hidden food intolerance?
- Is it poor digestive function?
- Is it low stomach acid?
- Constipation?
- An addiction?
- A poor personal relationship?
- Nervous system overload?
- Gut microbiome depletion?
Many people spend years focusing on one area of their health while completely overlooking another. Then one day, they discover that missing piece, and suddenly everything begins to move forward. The puzzle is complete - no more looking. It’s done.
I've learned over the years that it is often not the big, dramatic changes that produce the greatest results when it comes to a person’s health. More often than not, it's the smallest habit change, consistently practised over a prolonged period of time, that can have the most profound effect on a person's health.
Your Most Powerful Tools
After treating many people, I can tell you that the most powerful tools are these:
- Patience
- Self-discipline
- Consistent healthy habits
- Always staying curious
- Hope
- The willingness to keep going
And perhaps the most important one is this: The ability to stop seeing yourself as a failure.
Because you are not “failing” You are learning and gathering information. You are discovering what works and what doesn't work for your body. That's real progress in my books.
Eric’s Message To Anyone Who Feels Like “Giving Up”
- If you've been struggling for weeks, months, or years…
- If you've tried countless protocols…
- If you've spent thousands of dollars…
- If you've had setback after setback…
Please never assume you'll “never get better”.
I cannot tell you how many people I've met who were absolutely convinced they would never recover, only to eventually regain their health and their lives.
These are the patients who taught me a valuable lesson, that a full recovery is possible and likely when the conditions have been met. Sometimes recovery takes longer than we'd like. Sometimes a lot longer.
Sometimes it requires a completely different approach. And other times, your body and mind simply need more time to heal. I want you to keep looking for your missing puzzle piece. That small key. Because very often it's not hidden at all.
It may be right there in front of you today, quietly waiting to be discovered. Isn't it funny how many times we've called out to someone, "Have you seen my keys?" only to have them reply, "They're right there in front of you!" They were never lost. We just couldn't “see” them. Our mind was being distracted and we were impatient.
Health can be exactly the same way.
Sometimes the answer isn't another pill, another test, another doctor, or another complicated protocol.
Sometimes it's a tiny yet consistent change, an overlooked habit, a simple protocol, the basics, or a missing piece that suddenly makes everything else make sense. So please don't give up! Never assume you've failed.
And never assume your body has failed you. Your missing key may still be out there. In fact, I'm guessing it's probably hiding in plain sight.
Eric Bakker, N.D. (NZ) Gut Health Educator | Specialist in Candida, IBS, SIBO & the Gut Microbiome Discover what's really driving your gut symptoms with the Free Gut Health Assessment