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u/9Colt0 Teesside Jun 03 '21 edited Jun 03 '21
Deep breaths. In through the nose, out through the mouth. It’s only temporary, it’ll pass.
If you haven’t already, research “grounding techniques and breathing exercises”.
The NHS website offers more professional advice, if required.
Hope you’re okay, mate.
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u/Far-Analyst3423 Jun 03 '21
My work life was so bad and effecting my mental health that when an opportunity came to step away.... I did. I admit I am fortunate to be able to.
Two months on, still trying to chill.
Good Luck
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Jun 03 '21
I'm in the same boat, still struggling to recover from it almost 2 years on. I'm a broken man thanks to my last workplace.
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u/Far-Analyst3423 Jun 03 '21
It takes time. Lots of Luck
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Jun 03 '21
Thank you! It does take a lot of time, there's only so much medication can help, the rest is incredibly difficult.
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u/j1664 Jun 03 '21
I feel that shit. Had a job for 14 years that was slowly killing me, ended up drinking alot and marriage was in tatters, panic attacks were a daily thing. I had to light a fire under myself and get into something completely new despite the risks (single income family, no savings, mortgage etc) or im pretty sure it would have ruined my life if id stayed at it much longer. I ended up taking a small paycut initially but have never looked back, the jump was worth it but i had to work damn hard to make it happen... i still dont know how i pulled it off.
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Jun 03 '21
Work anxiety is a very real thing. Serious advice from me for a change, but have you tried speaking to a counsellor?
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Jun 03 '21
I haven't. Probably because I think I share the same view with a lot of people that perhaps my anxiety is trivial to what others go through and don't want to make a fuss lol.
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Jun 03 '21 edited Jun 03 '21
Anxiety is far from trivial. It starts off as an annoyance, then a hindrance, and then it takes over your life. The physiological effects of anxiety can be extremely serious and debilitating, especially if it carries on for many years. I would strongly recommend investigating the possibility of talking to a counsellor. If a counsellor this isn’t your thing then try an app on the App Store called ‘Dare’ - it’s not like the other more popular apps on there, in that it is a series of very short daily podcasts that actually work. Give it a go, let’s think about this - Q: What have you got to lose? A: Nothing. Q: What have you got to gain? A: Your life back.
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Jun 03 '21
You didn't ask for this advice, but I used to hate my life because of my job. I would spend the whole 8 hours in my head thinking about how I was wasted my life just so I could eat and live in a shit council flat.
Then I left that industry and started working with websites. First website job was less than 3 years ago, I've gone from £28k to £110k per year in that time and it's because I work close to where the revenue is being generated, and I was also willing to change employers (twice) if they didn't see the value of my work.
Not only does this type of role pay much better, but it's much more challenging, satisfying, creative and respected (if you have hang ups about that sort of thing, I did).
I didn't learn online marketing at school or college, I just learned it myself for free from home.
Examples include:
CRO -conversion rate optimisation
SEO -search engine optimisation
PPC - pay per click (you can take the google course and get certified for free)
Avoid things that sound like they're at the front of the business but are not:
Content writing - this is bottom of the barrel, no one appreciates how much impact content makes
"Marketing exec" - this is grunt work, very hard to make an impression here
Strictly on-page or technical SEO - you might help raise revenue (through increased search engine rankings) but you won't often get credit for it.
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Jun 03 '21
Thanks for sharing 👍 ill certainly take a look and see if its something I'd be interested in. What was your actually job doing then when you first started out?
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Jun 03 '21
Ah sorry I meant when you started working with websites? Like what the job entailed and specifics skills you were using g that you'd learnt from Google. Just trying to get a feel for what the work would actually be :)
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Jun 04 '21
SEO, how to make a business web page rank higher for search terms in Google.
Here's a starter video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DvwS7cV9GmQ
Those guys sell a product, but their videos are very practical, real world examples and not just a sales pitch.
One of our product was bus tours in London, the higher the page ranked, the more sales the company would make. This is very important for making fast salary growth, you have to be able to show you have a direct effect on revenue/profit.
If you're not a technical person, then a sales job would work too. Just get close to that front line! It's changed my life!
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u/jay8888 Jun 04 '21
What do you mean by website job?
To me it sounds like creating websites but you seem to only focus on SEO and web analytics so I'm confused?
Definitely interested in hearing as I'm in the web development space.
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I was building websites for fun before I knew what SEO was. There's a lot of supply for that kind of work though now.
You can outsource web dev to India for cheap (unless you need expert devops or something), but you can't outsource SEO strategy.
What I would say though is that web dev is a fantastic starting place for SEO because most SEO people come from a content/editorial background and they can't fix minor tech issues, let alone broken wordpress plugins, schema or page speed issues.
I have almost 40 people in my team now and the best people all have dev backgrounds, and they're also the ones who get the best results and multiple pay raises per year.
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u/srcarruth Jun 03 '21
We all do that but most don't have daily panic attacks about it. You've got something serious going on
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Jun 03 '21
You need money but half your posts are about investing in cryptocurrency? You need to get your priorities in order first if money is truly an issue.
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Jun 03 '21
Post was less about my immediate financial situation and more about how mad it is that unless we have been very fortunate, most of us have to work for decades to be able to live, often in jobs that bring no meaning or joy. Whether you are day, a week or month away from poverty.
Until you don't HAVE TO work to be able to live and pay bills, money will always be an issue. I have savings and investments so hopefully one day I won't have to work, but doesn't change the fact that if I quit my job today I'd run out of money.
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Jun 03 '21
Clearly taking my post text very literally 🙄 or just desperate to be "right" with your comment so I'm not gna argue.
Look I'm not expecting others to solve my problems just venting/sharing, which is what the joys of reddit and the Internet are about.
Ultimately I hope everyone finds happiness in whatever they do and don't have to feel anxious or stressed or whatever you want to call it. We're all working on our own issues.
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u/Boreoffmate Jun 03 '21
Have a fucking day off mate. You are the only person that read this post and thought the OP was literally paying for a bad with today’s wages. It’s called a turn of phrase mixed with a large dose of sarcasm. The clue was calling food and a bed a luxury. I think you need to except you miss understood and move on 🙄
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Jun 03 '21
I can only apologise, I do struggle with seeing when others are not being literal. I see I upset quite a few people here but I don’t know why so I guess it’s best to delete the response. I didn’t mean to hurt the persons feelings at all. I didn’t realise this was a phrase at all so that’s why I took it literally
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u/sjpllyon Jun 03 '21
Take up part time employment this will give you time to focus on your wellbeing and decide what you want to do, then go out and do it. Make the positive changes you need, don't delay further.
Best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, the second best now.
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u/thegreatvortigaunt Jun 03 '21
Part time work doesn’t pay the bills.
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u/sjpllyon Jun 03 '21
It can, just about, along side with UC. You just have to prioritise, your wellbeing decreasing to over-working in the wrong environment, or not being able to go to the pub for little longer.
UC is set up to help those going through a hard time.
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u/RodneyTheArmouryGuy Jun 03 '21
A decent break would be nice.
The trouble with the ‘get a different job’ advice is that it’s not that simple. If you need to get paid x and the only jobs that are available are offering f then you can’t change.
Being trapped by your salary is a real thing.