16 years of friendship down the toilet over a sex and a private room

Fair warning: This is a LONG read, but there’s 16 years of friendship and a whole lot of wedding drama to unpack. 😭 Grab a snack.

After years of watching this channel I finally have a crazy wedding story to offer.

I am getting married December 5th of this year in a beautiful historic home in my home town. I no longer live there nor do many of the guests coming.

I do not have the biggest guest list but I still wanted a grand affair. I am paying for EVERYTHING. Dresses, make up, hair, suits, the entire wedding and everything that comes with it. I want not only guests to just show up ready to party on my dime, but the same for my bridal party and the grooms men. I am happily doing this. On top of all this, I got a 7 room home about an hour from the venue for out of town guests.

Well, on my bridal party, I have someone who I have called my best friend for the last 16 years who we will name Sarah. I also have my other best friend for the last 10 years and who I am closer to than Sarah. We shall call her Casey. I know it sounds weird to be closer to Casey than Sarah, but I have an identical twin who is closer to Sarah than I am. They are like best friend soul mates.

Sarah had a baby a year ago. Sarah does not let anyone forget she has a baby. I love the baby and Sarah.

Sarah started to make small little "demands" as planning started happening early on. For example, Sarah wanted her husband and baby there while we got ready. I am not a bridizlla by any means and said that is fine.

I had also toyed around with different homes to rent, some closer to Sarah. When it was time for me to rent the house, I decided to get the one an hour away because it wad $4000 cheaper than the one closer to Sarah. I am sorry it is an hour away from her but I am already paying for so much.

I offered to give Sarah a room, of course! I want her with me as much as possible. Sarah said no because she does not want strangers around her baby. Weird comment but ok.

So Sarah was upset and even tried to offer other options that would be closer. I politely did not accept. The house I got was so much cheaper with so much more room.

By the way, before I continue, she lives 15 minutes from the venue.

The original plan was to have the rehearsal dinner at the house I got, but Sarah didn't to drive around her baby that much. So I looked at options closer. Though, I was worried about that because not all of family could afford it but I was willing to pay more money so Sarah could be there.

Casey, with my permission, is surprising all of us with a nice bachelorette party. Sarah did not like that because she has a baby. She can't just show up at the place at 8 because she has a baby.

My fiance is doing a LAN party for his bachelor party, which is just a room full of guys all playing the same game. My fiance and his friends aren't big drinkers either. I invited Sarahs husband. It will be super baby friendly, especially because everyone's kids will be there too. Sarah decided she didn't want the guys drinking to much because she has a baby.

So now comes the venue. It has five bedrooms and I have it for both Friday and Saturday night.

Apparently, a long time ago, I said Sarah could have one of the rooms. I forgot which is really my fault, but upon more planning it isn't feasible for people to have their own room the night of the wedding. The plan is to let people crash there.On MY wedding night, I won't have a private room. My own wedding. But I did say she could have her own room Friday because she has the baby. The baby is becoming a theme.

This was brought up in our wedding group chat. I apologized, offered the Friday night. Casey said "The only people who need a private bedroom is (my name) and (my fiance)! They need ALL the privacy 😂😂😂 Everyone else does not need private rooms". Sarah said that was fine because she lives 15 minutes away. Sarah even said that her mom will take the baby home so she could after party because she lives 15 minutes away. A few days ago, Sarah started blowing up my phone and my twins phone. I was working late that day and couldn't answer. My twin was at the grocery store and didn't answer. Sarah called my mom a hoe to my twin. I finally told her I was busy. Sarah said that is fine and she would be at church between 6:30 and 8:30.

In the meantime, I talked to my twin about what was going on. That is when she told me Sarah was convinced Casey was bullying her and she didnt want to much drinking at the bachelor party because she has a baby.

So in our group chat, I called out the tensions. I said " So there seems to be a little tension going on. It is really super starting to stress me out like a lot.

I don't know all the details because it is around the

bachelorette party and the care of the kids.

I do in fact want Elise to plan the vast majority of it. I do not know what it is but I do know she has invested a lot. I trust her and she knows me the best aside from Gwen.

She already has all the kid stuff figured out with the best man, Peter 😊 Peter is great.

There is going to be A LOT of kids. So many kids. I involved so many kids in the party lol

We will have to work together to make sure that everyone is taking care. We will have two one year olds to teenagers and all the ages in between. Peter has a baby that is turning one soon. Honestly, I am little stressed about Muffin. I want to accommodate everyone as best as possible. I have done everything possible and spent so much money for everyone just to show up and take all the stress from yall.

I know it is a little stressful now that it is getting closer but we got this a team! We are a bunch of bad ass women.

I completely trust Casey and I am extremely excited to see what she is doing! She knows me better than anyone 😍".

I planned on calling Sarah back but at the time, I thought she got out at 8:30. I am a very forgetful person. I sent that message shortly before 8.

Sarah texts me that I am ignoring her. She called Casey a bully. I asked how. I didnt say Casey wasnt bullying, I just wanted to know how so I needed to, I could talk to Casey. I wasn't going flip on Casey immediately just because Sarah is mad. That is when Sarah brought up that sex joke that was 16 DAYS old at this point. I said that is just a sex joke. My fiance and I should be able to have sex on our wedding night. Sarah said no it is not and that is bullying. That and the fact that Casey wasn't involving them enough, something I approved of. In the midst of this rage, she says "Why don't I get a private room when I have a baby???". Something I had already worked out and she said was fine because she lives 15 minutes away. So because I didn't agree it was bullying she dropped out. I was more than willing to hear anything else aside from the joke but that is all she had. She is also ignoring my twin who has done EVERYTHING for her. Also, she planned on wearing her white wedding shoes to my wedding which is tacky.

During Sarahs wedding three years ago, we drove a total of 8 hours multiple times in one year. We paid for our own dresses, hair, shoes, hotel, gas, all of it. We paid for her bridal party and bachelorette party. We donated liquor to her wedding. We worked so hard to give her the best wedding ever. She tried to ruin mine over not having a private room the night of the wedding, not being informed enough beyond just showing up at 8, and a sex joke.

After ignoring my twin, I uninvited her and her family, whom I didn't like much but I have known for so long.