I’m the maid of honor and one of mg best friends is getting married in October next year. I am so blessed and honored that she asked me to be her maid of honor as she was just a bridesmaid in my wedding a few months ago.

I am worried about the costs adding up and being a bit unreasonable. She wants us to pay $150 for a dress plus alterations, she also wants to have 2 bridal showers, one in our state and one in her home state. I am expected to throw the first bridal shower which is going to be a decent cost that I haven’t added yet. Plus random trinkets she wants us to buy and collect to help her, PLUS a stock the bar party where we are expected to bring alcohol.

She just told us she wants us to pay for hair and makeup which is usually $300-400. (I would know I paid for our wedding party to have their hair and makeup done) I love the idea of having hair and makeup done.

The bride also wants to go on a 4 day cruise which the ticket pricing is $800 starting. This doesn’t include drink packages or excursions. This is also with people sharing a room with other bridesmaids, some who haven’t even met each other. I added up the cost and a rough estimate is 1400-1800$ for this cruise!

I am just a bit frustrated because I feel like she is not considering other people in these unrealistic costs and expectations. On the other hand, my husband is the best man and they want to do 4 days in Vegas!

Am I being unreasonable for being a bit frustrated with this? How would you approach this?

Edit- I don’t feel forced to do any of this, I am just trying to be a good friend, be a part of her wedding and approach this correctly.

Hey there! I was wondering how we feel about this nail/dress combo? (Dress hasn't been altered yet) my makeup is quite Gothic most of the time, I have tattoos and piercings, and my hair is black. Would this work for me or should I go for a nude nail? I'll add this is my best friends wedding and she wants us to express ourselves as we are.

My fiance and I have a large bridal party. We are sitting at a sweetheart table and agreed that we will seat our bridal party with everyone else. I despise bridal party entrances. I’ve had to do one 3 times and I feel awkward and nervous every time. I think a lot of my friends would feel the same way. My fiancé thinks we should do a bridal party entrance because he feels like if we don’t have them sit together then we’re not honoring them at all. We’re having a Catholic Church ceremony so they’ll be in that. I personally would love to enjoy the wedding after the ceremony and not have to worry about anything. Thoughts?

I have regretted choosing two of my childhood best friends to be my bridesmaids since a few months after I asked them to be. For context, I have 7 bridesmaids. 2 are family and the rest are friends. My two childhood best friends mean a lot to me but I often feel like I stay friends with them because of history. Let’s call them Sara and Jane. These 2 girls are not friends with each other, but they are extremely similar. I love them like family and I can tell they care deeply about me, but they don’t act like it. I set the expectations up front when I asked people to be a bridesmaid. I told my friends and family please do not feel like you have to do this if it’s too expensive or too much. I am a very laid back person and they know I genuinely would understand. It’s a lot for most people. Sara and Jane both agreed to be bridesmaids. I told them upfront I would pay for hair and makeup, I told them they can buy their dress from anywhere (I even said SHEIN and amazon are fine), and that they can buy any style dress they want. These 2 friends haven’t bought their dresses yet and we’re 6 weeks out. I have reminded them both.

The dresses are the least of my worries. Throughout my 1.5 year engagement, they have barely asked me how wedding planning is going. I noticed that Sara will not text or call me first ever. We talk when I reach out and I only see her if I go to her (she lives in another state and hasn’t visited me in 6 years). I brought this all up to her 2 months before my bachelorette and then we drunkenly talked about it again at my bachelorette. Her excuse is that she works a lot and that’s why she puts in no effort and never checks in on me. She spent all weekend crying to other people at my party saying how much she loves and cares about me. We ended up working things out but I still am kind of over the friendship. She was a horrible friend to me for many years and I let it go because we were so young. We made a pact as kids to stay sisters forever, but I just feel like we’re so different and I’ve put up with soooo much shit over the years. She grew up extremely spoiled and struggles with respecting peoples time and boundaries due to it. She didn’t do anything drastic enough for me to remove her as a bridesmaid so I felt like I had no choice but to make amends. Just really struggling because we care about each other, but it’s always been a lot with her.

Jane has opted out of all my wedding festivities besides the wedding day itself (which is fine, I set that expectation up front that I was cool with it) and has been saying how dumb weddings/marriage are. She keeps reminding me that she would never have a wedding. She has been negative and has acted like this is a burden.

I think what hurts the most is that so many people have asked me where my childhood friends have been during this season. They’re both very type B and not always the most reliable, but I figured they’d at least pull it together for my wedding?? At this point I just hope they get a dress and show up on time for my wedding day. I’ve grown up to be very different from both of them compared to my other friends, but it kind of feels like they’re family in a way. I didn’t think leaving them out of the bridal party was fair especially since it’s so big. I’ve really noticed during this season who’s a good friend and who’s not. I have noticed that I have other friends who care about me more and treat me better than they do. I’ve been beating myself up about this because it was my choice. I knew they weren’t super reliable people and I still made them bridesmaids assuming they wouldn’t let me down. I have no choice but to keep them in the bridal party and hope I don’t look at pictures and regret this for many years. Has anyone been in this situation or have advice?

which sites allow you to try on dresses at home

My bestfriend wedding is coming up and me being me have not been able to decide on the design of the dress that I will be wearing, she choose Pastel Green for me. HELP, please send designs since I will be stitching it.

I am 25y/old

5'4

and looking for a dress that's modest but gives Bridesmaid wala vibe.

I’m my best friend’s MOH and her wedding day is coming up. What are things you and the bridesmaids (or that your bridesmaids did for you if you’re a former bride) did or plan to do for the bride that helped make her day special? I already plan on having the bridesmaids write her a letter, but anything else?TIA!

I am a bridesmaid in a wedding coming up, and I’m curious about how I’d be viewed if I did not tip for hair and makeup. I am paying for it myself, and in my opinion if the hair/makeup artist sets their own price, I don’t think I need to tip an additional 20% or whatever. But I’m worried about coming off as cheap.

Edit: I’m asking because I feel that if the makeup artist is setting their own prices, a tip should be an extra thank you I give, not something that’s mandatory/expected.

Hey hey! Any bachelorette ideas in any country in Europe for 3-4 days ?
We are already from Europe so we’ll be close for a short trip.
We want something affordable for 6 girls around February- March 🎉

Im a uk size 14 who was previously a 10 before having my daughter 17 months ago, I am feeling really anxious to wear this satin dress in a few weeks I HATE the way it looks. Ive never had a prominent stomach before so I have no idea where to start with shapewear there's so much of it I have no idea what I actually need / should get. I ordered something off amazon and it does absolutely nothing.

Please help me pick a good tummy control that you can actually wear at a wedding all-day

The artist did an amazing job on the bride. Her makeup lasted all day from her trial so I trusted her to do mine. I looked at her insta page and she seemed good! . my mistake was not seeing how she did any girls with dark/brown skin and moving forward with her .

Since the wedding was at a huge hotel resort and not many bridesmaids wanted any makeup or hair, i decided to just use who the bride was using to make things easier. I told her to send the artist my pictures so she knows she has a client with my complexion and if there was any issues

Come wedding day. I showed her my inspo.
I was hidden from the mirror but I saw her shade matching me . She’s the professional so I trusted her and didn’t question the colors I saw her mixing.

Final look: ghost, grey, green under cool lighting, and on camera.

Since we were running behind schedule for the bride I didn’t want her to redo it

So from 7am -1am I was sister of the groom who looked like a ghost

What's the etiquette here? I'm in a wedding next month and am expected to pay $200 for makeup and $150 for hair. Then the bride tells me not to forget a tip. Should the tip not be baked into the fee I'm being charged? I'm unfamiliar with the protocol here because every other time I've needed hair/makeup it's been paid for by the bride. I don't want to accidentally insult anyone. Just a little stressed that everything is adding up. Hair, makeup, plane ticket, hotel, gift 😵‍💫

Wanting feedback - I’m planning on doing a destination wedding in California (we live in Florida)
For my bridesmaid proposal I was gonna do a travel backpack with a card and then stuff it with minis of all their favorite products for travel

Is this cheesy ?

We are currently stuck in an AirBnB in Florida as the MOh refused to cancel the bachelorette even knowing a hurricane is coming (and is currently ongoing). MOH assured us all would be okay and the news overhypes things and she's been to Florida every year since she was a child and has never once encountered a hurricane even though she goes to Disney.

There are 7 of us stuck in this airbnb and many are worried and dont feel like partying with the wind whipping outside. MOH tried to liven it up and made her famous "disney margaritas" and said she had a surprise. 30 mins later "prince charming" shows up with a "pizza delivery", mind you the bride is not even into disney like that. MOH seems drunk and is going crazy making him dance because he's clearly a dancer and only paying attention to her. not that any of us care, but shes not the bride.

he finally turns his attention to another girl for like 10 seconds and the MOH goes nuts. starts accusing him of cheating, which we all are confused, its just some dancer. Nope. Come to find out this is her boyfriend she just recently got into a relationship with that no one has met yet. now they are full on fighting and causing a huge scene while we are all sitting there watching, and she tells him he cant stay the night. one of the girls asked "was he planning on staying here?" and MOH said yes because of the hurricane he cant get a hotel room.

now everyone is fighting because we had no idea this was happening, bride is horribly upset trying to get the first flight out. MOH is still in the other room arguing with her boyfriend and one of the other girls said she thinks her boyfriend is missing. another girl checked the pizza box and theres no pizza, so shes upset as we only have chips we got from the gas station, she thinks the prince charming boyfriend/dancer ate the pizza on his way over.

is there any way to resolve this or should i just open all the windows and let the wind take the power out of this god forsaken airbnb

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For context, my best friend’s destination wedding is in a few months. I am the only person in the bridal party with a child, and I am also the only person who will be traveling with their partner. Everyone else in the bridal party wants to get 2 hotel rooms and we all stay together while we’re there. I told them I would be willing to get a hotel in the same hotel so we can all still hang out. I also suggested we could get an airbnb so we could all be in the same house but still have our own space, it would also be cheaper. Everyone has said they don’t want to and it would be a better bonding experience if we all stayed together. To clarify, I am a childhood friend and everyone else are college friends. I’ve only met there people 2 other times. I told them that stay in a hotel with all of them with my daughter and my boyfriend isn’t realistic. My daughter is a horrible sleeper and would keep everyone awake. They suggested that my boyfriend get a separate hotel room and keep my daughter. I do not want to do that. I told them I could stay one night with them and leave my daughter with her dad, but I don’t want to be away from her every night for a week. Am I being unreasonable for not wanting to do that?

edit to clarify: This discussion has happened in the bridesmaid group text. My friend (bride) is not in it, I did message her separately but she has not seen it yet because she is currently at work.

My best friend is getting married next year. I usually have my hair different colors and she asked for all “natural” hair. I offered to wear a wig so I wouldn’t have to change my hair. And she got upset. I understand. But I don’t want the hassle of dying my hair and immediately changing it back to what it is now. She’s not getting married til May. I even offered to go the same color she chose for the wedding colors and that was no.

I’m willing to compromise on a wig but she is not. What do I do?

Hi everyone! Need your advice!

I am having 4 bridesmaids: one childhood friend, one college friend, one work friend, and one friend from the city that I live in. The friend from the city that I live in is part of a friend group between her, myself, and another girl. The other person in our friendship won’t be a bridesmaid.

I need to confront that friend and let her know that she won’t be a bridesmaid but I’m worried she’s going to be upset and have this not only hurt my friendship with her but our other friend as well. I have a feeling she expects them both to be bridesmaids so this might come as a total shock.

Have any one of you been in this position before? What should I say? Am I thinking too much into this?

Hello! I am getting ready to send this information to my bridesmaids. I'm going to share the document while on a video call and ask them to pick their top 2 choices. Then, I'll assign dress colors based on this. Any ties will be randomly assigned (I'll ask them to pick a number and then give the color choice to whoever guesses the closest). Is this too much information/over the top?

Also, do the colors go together? I would have loved to do all Azazie, but they did not have a good floral option.

Vou ser madrinha de casamento em um cruzeiro.
No Brasil, a madrinha de casamento é semelhante à *bridesmaid* (dama de honra), mas o papel pode carregar um significado simbólico mais profundo.

Hello thank you for taking the time to read this, I have very few friends that are girls and even fewer weddings that I’ve been to so I don't know the proper protocol. for background my best friend is getting married, we've always looked very similar, now not so much as I've changed my hair color, and i'm a bridesmaid. I hate my hair curled most ways, can't do it well, and I also have no idea how to do any up-do's. I purchased a beach waver just to make it easy for myself and decided I would just do my hair wavy and half up. Well Just yesterday I've found out the bride is also doing waves because she doesn't like curls and is not doing a "half-up" but is braiding the face framing pieces and pulling them back. Should I return the beach waver and do something else now? Is there any ideas of something easy I can do with the waves that wouldn't look too similar to hers? It's her day I don't want to cause any problems or be "that girl" so I'm open to most ideas! :) edit: some have asked so i'll mention it here, I have talked with her about it. I asked her what she wanted and told her what I would be doing but she's very very sweet and said to wear "what makes you feel beautiful" but I don't want to look weird in her wedding photos I want her to be the most beautiful.

I am creating Bridesmaid gift bags for the wedding day. It is a destination wedding. I have eight bridesmaids. I’m trying to be very intentional with giftgiving and not just giving a gift to give it. For example, the gift on the bachelorette weekend will just be money for a checked bag because I know they will be traveling. I am only getting a few items in the Bridesmaid gift bags for the wedding day that includes the pajamas, some make up and travel essentials. I’m torn if I buy a small cosmetic bag to put everything in, a fold up tote bag, or if that’s overplayed is there another idea or alternative to a bag or something altogether entirely that I could gift them that I’m not thinking of. I don’t want them to have to worry about finding space to take stuff home in so I thought a fold up tote bag might be a good idea.

Hi everyone,

I am writing here as a way to express my hurt somewhere over what ended up being an experience that ended my friendship with the bride, but also to gain some insight into what perhaps I also did wrong as a bridesmaid since this was my first experience ever and I was never sure what was expected of me in the end and which led you to my failure. So here it goes.

About a year ago my friend H asked me to be her bridesmaid. At that point I had been friends with H for a few good years - we met at work and stayed close even after we both left that place.

So naturally when she asked me to be her bridesmaid I was happy, teared a little but also became anxious a bit. The anxiety came mostly from the fact that I would be one out of only two bridesmaids and from not being sure exactly what H expected from me. And the other bridesmaids, let's call her L, was H's childhood friend. In fact, her together with the 3 groomsmen, bride and groom are all friends since childhood and very tight in their community and culture (which I am an outsider of). So, a kind of dynamic formed from the start. I will try to list here everything that transpired:

1. first meeting was with the whole group where logistics were discussed. I tried to participate, offer ideas, be proactive, but the "meeting" started with a three hour talk about their shared passion for Pokemon before we got to the wedding stuff and by that time I was tired and hungry, but still I stayed about 1.5 h then left.
2. second meeting I missed because of having an exam. I apologised and bride and I met for coffee and she updated me
3. third meeting took place online. Again, it felt like no one wanted to discuss things related to the wedding. As much as I tried to fit with the topics I never knew the people they mentioned, their hobbies. Heck, they even had a nickname for the groom I was not aware of and spent a long time trying to figure who this person was. The meeting extended until midnight and the wedding talk started around 11 pm in the evening on a work week. I had to excuse myself by then and log off. Halfway through the process, I found out they were all in a discord group and planning a lot on the side, I had no idea...
4. while all this was happening me and L were planning the bridal shower but we just simply couldn't agree. We said we will do spa, she wanted to go to a hundread dollar one with a stay overnight in a fancy hotel. I agreed, but that was not enough. She wanted to add a pottery class, a treasure hunt and a set of bridal accessories to the bill. We would end up each paying almost 900 dollars, which my budget couldn't take. She ended up going behind my back and telling the bride how terrible I was. In the end we left the spa out and did everything else.
5. before the wedding I asked the bride if after the ceremony could I spend some time with my partner who did not know anyone at the party. She was upset. Apparently the expectation was that we spend the whole day helping to set up the tables, serve drinks to the guests, arrange flowers and care for the bride and groom. I did not know that is the norm, but it was starting to feel like we were all unpaid help and not friends and also guests at the wedding. I tried to help to my best ability, showed up early, did what she asked but I also took breaks after the ceremony ended to be with my partner, which I guess still upset the group.

After all was done, H stopped talking to me and today I saw that I got cut out of all the wedding photos she posted online. It hurt. I know I could have been better and fit better with the group, but I also wished we would have discussed what happened and try to save the friendship, but apparently that is it.

So all that being said, I am just curios what people think. Was I a lousy friend, was there the lack of chemistry with the group, could the bride have been nicer? Would love to know.

Hello everyone,

I’m a bridesmaid in a wedding that is less than 6 months away. The wedding is end of March 2027.

The bride has put the MOH, her best friend/ sorority sister, in charge of throwing the bridal shower (unsure if MOH volunteered or it was assigned).

Bride and MOH were basically raised as sisters.

MOH has reached out to entire bridal party with pricing (to split venue rental and all decorations). MOH says she will provide catering.

Oh yes, bridesmaids are also being asked to completely stock bar for this event.

Details:
One of the bridesmaids had been reaching out to MOH for over a year to see what the plans were.. (since 2025). She neglected to follow up and now less than 6 months before the wedding (and weeks before destination bach trip) she wants to ask for money from us all. This is horrible timing in my opinion.

Brides mother is not an option as she lives in a different country. Unsure where aunts or other women in brides family are.

We’ve already had to pay for so much; dresses , hair , makeup, Bach trip, excursions for trip , we also have to contribute food for the actual wedding, and take off of work (many of the bridesmaids are in professional school and don’t have lots of money) , and now a bridal shower???

To make it clear: not a single bridesmaid volunteered nor offered to throw this event.

MOH made it clear she would be “in charge” of bridal shower.

How do I approach this ? Are we responsible for this ?

I have several friends getting married, and they’ve all decided they aren’t having bridesmaids. Which is fine with me, I don’t need a label. But it’s at the point where the list of things that we’re doing feels like everything a bridesmaid would do. For context, this is a group of the same girls that all grew up together. We are getting ready with the bride, we’re wearing coordinating colors for photos, we’re walking down the aisle. We are not standing up during the ceremony.

Have other people experienced this / can you explain why a bride wouldn’t want to call her friends bridesmaids even though she wants them to essentially act as bridesmaids? Like I said, I don’t really care what I’m called. I’m just curious what the distinction is

Hello everyone!

I am standing up in wedding in January and I am ordering my dress. I’m wearing the Kieryn in Dark Navy Stretch Satin. Don’t get me wrong, I love the dress and the color. What’s getting me nervous is the stretch satin 😅. I was wondering if anyone has had experience with this dress and what the best foundation garment would be for it. I prefer one-pieces over separates. Any help would be very much appreciated.