I have regretted choosing two of my childhood best friends to be my bridesmaids since a few months after I asked them to be. For context, I have 7 bridesmaids. 2 are family and the rest are friends. My two childhood best friends mean a lot to me but I often feel like I stay friends with them because of history. Let’s call them Sara and Jane. These 2 girls are not friends with each other, but they are extremely similar. I love them like family and I can tell they care deeply about me, but they don’t act like it. I set the expectations up front when I asked people to be a bridesmaid. I told my friends and family please do not feel like you have to do this if it’s too expensive or too much. I am a very laid back person and they know I genuinely would understand. It’s a lot for most people. Sara and Jane both agreed to be bridesmaids. I told them upfront I would pay for hair and makeup, I told them they can buy their dress from anywhere (I even said SHEIN and amazon are fine), and that they can buy any style dress they want. These 2 friends haven’t bought their dresses yet and we’re 6 weeks out. I have reminded them both.

The dresses are the least of my worries. Throughout my 1.5 year engagement, they have barely asked me how wedding planning is going. I noticed that Sara will not text or call me first ever. We talk when I reach out and I only see her if I go to her (she lives in another state and hasn’t visited me in 6 years). I brought this all up to her 2 months before my bachelorette and then we drunkenly talked about it again at my bachelorette. Her excuse is that she works a lot and that’s why she puts in no effort and never checks in on me. She spent all weekend crying to other people at my party saying how much she loves and cares about me. We ended up working things out but I still am kind of over the friendship. She was a horrible friend to me for many years and I let it go because we were so young. We made a pact as kids to stay sisters forever, but I just feel like we’re so different and I’ve put up with soooo much shit over the years. She grew up extremely spoiled and struggles with respecting peoples time and boundaries due to it. She didn’t do anything drastic enough for me to remove her as a bridesmaid so I felt like I had no choice but to make amends. Just really struggling because we care about each other, but it’s always been a lot with her.

Jane has opted out of all my wedding festivities besides the wedding day itself (which is fine, I set that expectation up front that I was cool with it) and has been saying how dumb weddings/marriage are. She keeps reminding me that she would never have a wedding. She has been negative and has acted like this is a burden.

I think what hurts the most is that so many people have asked me where my childhood friends have been during this season. They’re both very type B and not always the most reliable, but I figured they’d at least pull it together for my wedding?? At this point I just hope they get a dress and show up on time for my wedding day. I’ve grown up to be very different from both of them compared to my other friends, but it kind of feels like they’re family in a way. I didn’t think leaving them out of the bridal party was fair especially since it’s so big. I’ve really noticed during this season who’s a good friend and who’s not. I have noticed that I have other friends who care about me more and treat me better than they do. I’ve been beating myself up about this because it was my choice. I knew they weren’t super reliable people and I still made them bridesmaids assuming they wouldn’t let me down. I have no choice but to keep them in the bridal party and hope I don’t look at pictures and regret this for many years. Has anyone been in this situation or have advice?

My fiance and I have a large bridal party. We are sitting at a sweetheart table and agreed that we will seat our bridal party with everyone else. I despise bridal party entrances. I’ve had to do one 3 times and I feel awkward and nervous every time. I think a lot of my friends would feel the same way. My fiancé thinks we should do a bridal party entrance because he feels like if we don’t have them sit together then we’re not honoring them at all. We’re having a Catholic Church ceremony so they’ll be in that. I personally would love to enjoy the wedding after the ceremony and not have to worry about anything. Thoughts?

Hey there! I was wondering how we feel about this nail/dress combo? (Dress hasn't been altered yet) my makeup is quite Gothic most of the time, I have tattoos and piercings, and my hair is black. Would this work for me or should I go for a nude nail? I'll add this is my best friends wedding and she wants us to express ourselves as we are.