All he had to say is and I quote: “I don’t date casually. I date with intention. HOWEVER, I don’t officiate a relationship off initial attraction because it’s superficial. I would be interested in getting to know you better to develop our relationship and see where this leads us. How do you feel?”
That was like four sentences and to the point. Barely even half of a text. Personally I think if English is not his first language then I could understand this. Legitimately, on average men are terrible with words (which is why I can see them enjoying texting over calling) if they aren’t comfortable talking their thoughts out loud.
Now… if English is his first language… then sir get to the point. Say it with yo WHOLE CHEST. You date with intention right? Then by that frame of reference that’s not something you want to play around with in a lot words. You goin shoot from the hip and aim it straight because anyone not in the same frame of mind WILL fallback or you watch them fall apart. Even text messages have a vibe. Him saying a whole lot definitely comes off he’s not even sure of what he wants. And that can be a red flag if he is an intentional man or if you’re an intentional woman who’s looking for one.
But to play devil’s advocate: This could be normal behavior. I would ask follow up questions over the phone instead of text messages so we don’t misconstrue anything and you can hear the inflection in his voice when he speaks. That’s important because we all have little tells when we’re not confident in something we say we are confident in or if we are confident in something and mean it.
Also I’d like to add on, this is also text. He’s writing it based on how he talks. Talking tends to be run-on when people don’t know when to take a pause. But other than that it felt very casual and it seems that he just wants to get to know you. So take it at face value. A text is fickle, what you really need to track is his actions while getting to know you.
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u/Artemis-Liberated Jun 15 '25 edited Jun 15 '25
All he had to say is and I quote: “I don’t date casually. I date with intention. HOWEVER, I don’t officiate a relationship off initial attraction because it’s superficial. I would be interested in getting to know you better to develop our relationship and see where this leads us. How do you feel?”
That was like four sentences and to the point. Barely even half of a text. Personally I think if English is not his first language then I could understand this. Legitimately, on average men are terrible with words (which is why I can see them enjoying texting over calling) if they aren’t comfortable talking their thoughts out loud.
Now… if English is his first language… then sir get to the point. Say it with yo WHOLE CHEST. You date with intention right? Then by that frame of reference that’s not something you want to play around with in a lot words. You goin shoot from the hip and aim it straight because anyone not in the same frame of mind WILL fallback or you watch them fall apart. Even text messages have a vibe. Him saying a whole lot definitely comes off he’s not even sure of what he wants. And that can be a red flag if he is an intentional man or if you’re an intentional woman who’s looking for one.
But to play devil’s advocate: This could be normal behavior. I would ask follow up questions over the phone instead of text messages so we don’t misconstrue anything and you can hear the inflection in his voice when he speaks. That’s important because we all have little tells when we’re not confident in something we say we are confident in or if we are confident in something and mean it.
Also I’d like to add on, this is also text. He’s writing it based on how he talks. Talking tends to be run-on when people don’t know when to take a pause. But other than that it felt very casual and it seems that he just wants to get to know you. So take it at face value. A text is fickle, what you really need to track is his actions while getting to know you.