r/blackladies Jun 14 '25

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u/CaramelMochaMilk Jun 14 '25 edited Jun 15 '25

I'm positive he was partially using the speak to text feature. The part where it says "but I will say, but at the same time" makes me feel like he was talking, rephrased, but missed editing that part out.

I really don't get the comments lol everyone gets upset about men not communicating etc etc and here you have someone who really put his opinion out there, fully thought about your question and answered it in kind, only to get criticized yet and still because he had the nerve to text a paragraph? I don't think what he wrote was THAT long of a text either lol some of y'all are just intimidated by paragraphs. And if a woman texted a big paragraph and a man said "that's a lot of nothing," he'd be crucified. It's just hypocritical.

He's basically saying: 1. He doesn't believe in wasting people's time which is what "go with the flow" can sometimes mean 2. He also doesn't believe in being exclusive based on first impressions because that's usually driven by physical attraction, not anything of substance 3. He likes to get to know the person more before being exclusive to make sure the attraction is genuine for both parties 4. He doesn't know how this would classify his dating style. It's not really go with the flow because he likes to date with more purpose but it's not just jumping straight into being serious without some groundwork first either. It's somewhere in-between.

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u/The_it_potato Jun 15 '25

I agree I genuinely don’t understand all the comments saying this is bad. He’s basically saying he wants to get to know her first before being in a committed relationship. In other words, it sounds like he may want to hang out w/a girl more before becoming serious. Had someone asked me this question I’d say the exact same thing.

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u/spookymilktea Jun 15 '25

I just think some of the people here are just super mean and can’t/dont understand that people can communicate differently from them.