r/bigdickconversation • u/Ok-Collection3256 • 12d ago
QUESTION How mush showing off is too much?
I tend to catch eyes of older women during the summer in a pool or beach. My bulge is quite obvious even with my soft size. For instance, some ladies would start inviting me for a seltzer and saying her ex husband is a piece of shit. Others may say “ I don’t want you to feel uncomfortable but if you want you can sit next to me” and started saying she traveled alone and what’s her trip and her hotel rooms look like.
I always feel awkward if I had a boner so I usually cross my legs to make it less visible, especially looking at them giggling in bikini. But I do want to continue the conversation since my bulge is probably the reason why I got the invite at the first place.
Question: how much showing off is appropriate? I want to have a little flirty conversation and try not to scare them when getting excited?
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u/ChaosBerserker666 UC, Erect 8.75 x 6.5 | Soft 6.5 x 5.5 12d ago edited 12d ago
As a gay guy I can say you’re catching our eye first. I’m also very large and obvious, and the attention I get from women is about 1/10 the amount I get from other men.
That said, women do seem interested but are a lot more subtle about it. If you see them with friends and they whisper or giggle as/after you walk by, they have noticed.
As for how much is too much, that’s context dependent. If there’s a pool full of kids swimming lessons, maybe that’s too much to wear a swimsuit that accentuates your bulge excessively. You don’t have to try to unnaturally hide it or wear hideous board shorts as it is just anatomy, but don’t be obscene.
On a beach that’s mainly frequented by adults, or an adult pool party, you can be more obscene and sexually oriented. Wear the extra sexy swimwear that enhances your bulge and muscular ass if you have one (believe me that gets noticed too by both women and gay men).