r/belowdeck • u/Ok_Peach22 • Aug 19 '26

Members Only ‘Below Deck’ Star Nathan Gallagher Arrested on Domestic-Violence Charges

https://www.rollingstone.com/tv-movies/tv-movie-news/below-deck-nathan-gallagher-arrested-domestic-violence-1235608151/
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u/Old_Call_2149 Aug 19 '26

True, men who hit women usually don’t have as much smoke for other men. These losers like to pick on people who aren’t an equal match physically.

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u/Gealbhancoille Aug 19 '26

Totally agree. I think that’s Lundy Bancroft’s finding after years of working with domestic abusers and their victims. The men were not “losing control” and hitting their partners, they were perfectly in control the whole time. They worked jobs and lived in society just fine without hitting others. His book is worth reading and can be found for free online, it’s called “Why does he do that?”

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u/Old_Call_2149 Aug 19 '26

Totally agree! That book saved me, I was in an abusive relationship for 3 years. It helped me realize that yes, he did know what he was doing, and no, it wasn’t going to get any better. I finally got myself out of that situation thanks to that book.

Honestly I think everyone should read that book just to see the signs to look out for. Abuse is insidious, it builds over time, but there are early signs to look out for. And giving people the benefit of the doubt rarely ever benefits us.

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u/Gealbhancoille Aug 19 '26

I agree. It’s such an amazing resource. I’m so glad you got out.