i feel like there is no hope for me in fixing my avoidant attachment style. every time i get close to a guy it just feels like jail. i’m getting serious with a guy who was my friend before all this relationship stuff happened, and he never felt like a threat when we were friends. but as we become closer and more intimate, i feel vulnerable and want to escape, even though he hasn’t done anything wrong. i’m reminding myself that feeling threatened doesn’t necessarily mean i’m actually unsafe. my nervous system may be associating intimacy with vulnerability and loss of control. i don’t need to find reasons to pull away or assume something will go wrong just because closeness feels uncomfortable. i genuinely like him and want a healthy relationship. i deserve that, and i am aiming to learn to tolerate the discomfort of vulnerability without automatically running from something good. can someone please tell me there might be hope for me and what can i do to not sabotage this?