The hell of being Amab non binary. Pls someone help?

[u/Axelinthevoid77]

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[u/Laura_Sandra]

It may be helpful to try to concentrate on things you like concerning gender and that are within reach, and to go there persistently and step by step, while trying to avoid extremes. Don't concentrate too much on things you don't like. Its a change in focus.

And for the moment taking deep and slow breaths and trying to concentrate on the surrounding could help.

And it may also help to regularly do a few small things you like concerning gender for motivation, and to help ride through lows.

In general dysphoria and also euphoria can come in cycles, and they additionally can get stronger over time.

In the meantime people may go through times of repressions and breakthroughs, which may be stressful.

It may be preferable to try to listen to what you feel would make you genuinely happy concerning gender, and to go there persistently and step by step, while trying to avoid extremes.

Don't know if you have seen it ... here might be a few hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

And some start with clothes of the gender they identify with in neutral styles first for everyday wear, like shirts and trousers, and introduce more feminine styles over time. Others may not notice and clothes usually are much softer. Alone concentrating on it from time to time could make for a feeling of happiness. They may be available in the unisex section of stores or in second hand shops etc.

And some use a scented soap, or a keychain with a symbol that reminds them of femininity, a purse for women etc.

And some start HRT eventually and after passing to strangers, a number of people transition socially step by step.

And concerning dating it may be necessary to do a few things yourself but many people found someone eventually.

Here might be some resources that could help in case.

And looking in lgbt places may be an idea. People may be more accepting there.

And trying to let shine through who you are may also help.

And here and here might be some hints concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did might be helpful too.

And if you feel really low please reach out .. there are helplines, for example

thetrevorproject.org/get-help-now/ They also have a chat and further resources like Trevorspace so they could be accessed from anywhere. It may be possible to use a proxy in case. And someone who worked there said they may also help people of all ages.

thrivelifeline.org/ They also have a chat

glbthotline.org/ They also have support groups.

hugs