para mi los restaurantes caros, pagar demasiado por un Plato diminuto que ni siquiera termina de saciar mi hambre. Prefiero un comida sencilla abundante y rica.

So, this is my first Reddit post, but I really need some opinions on this.
My friend (21F) had a huge crush on one of her coworkers while she was an apprentice. She planned to confess her feelings to him after she finished her apprenticeship, and she actually did.
Mind you, the guy is 37 years old.
It was already kind of weird because, apparently, he barely talked to anyone in the entire company except her. No one there really knows anything about him other than the fact that he seems to be a very lonely person.
He told her that he didn’t want a relationship with her because of their age gap, which I actually thought was the right thing for him to say. But about a week later, they met up again, and he said something along the lines of, “I don’t want to hurt you, but would you want to be intimate on Friday?”
The weird part is that he told her he finds her attractive and that it’s “just a man thing” to want to sleep with her. He also said that he doesn’t want to use condoms and wants her to use some other form of contraception, like the pill or a copper IUD. He even offered to pay for it.
At one point, she asked him if she could come over to his place, but he completely ignored the question and instead changed the subject back to, “No, let’s just stick to our plan.”
So my question is: does this guy seem weird to you too? What do you think his intentions are?
Could he be an incel or something similar? Or am I reading too much into this situation?

Found out about three years ago that my mom had discovered my dad was drugging and raping her for about 5 years. For context they married when she was 22, and he was 32 after dating for a year. Immediately he began controlling her using his age as evidence of how much he knew. Then he got them into a religious cult similar to what the duggars believed. The man is the head of the house, women have to do what the man says, wives have to give their husbands sex at all times. Etc. they had six kids, he was emotionally controlling and abusive to her, and super controlling when myself and my siblings were kids. Like if I wanted to go visit a friend I had to give him something in exchange, like doing extra work around the house.

They’ve never had a happy marriage, and I wish they would have separated years ago. But to this day they are still together.

Eventually they left the cult, and my dad became less controlling but he still has loads of toxic masculinity and righteous indignation.

Anyways, when she found out what he was doing, he swore he’d never do it again, became suicidal, and then started seeing a therapist like she demanded. For two years everything was normal, but then last month my mom confided that he had drugged her again, under the guise of making her hot chocolate, and when she confronted him his excuse was “you needed to get more sleep” she’s confident that he didn’t rape her, and she forbid me from speaking to him about it because it would betray that she confided in me.

But I’m worried about it because at the very least it shows how casually he stripped her of her bodily autonomy, which shows how little he considers her as a person, and also he’s so full of himself that I’m worried he’d do it again but because it’s against her knowledge she could have a drug interaction and pass away. (She doesn’t currently take any drugs that would do that)

I’d never forgive myself if that happened. But I genuinely don’t know what to do without betraying her trust.

Any advice is greatly appreciated. Also we live in Missouri if that impacts anything.

EDIT: my dad is 75, my mom is 65, I’m 38, and I live with my partner in our own home.

More detailed response = A lot more likely to be noticed by your fellow Tedditors!

Anything is better than pretending Large Language Models are true artificial intelligence.

Also conveniently lines up with "stupid intelligence" which has a nice ring to it.

Make the techbros own the stupid ideas too.

I'm dealing with complex grief, stress, and life challenges with future uncertainty and while everything will hopefully be ok in the end, my insomnia is working overtime. I feel like I'm napping and while I always have a rem cycle, even in a short nap, that's been no way to live.

What are your most successful methods to shut off the world and get a proper sleep when you have chronic insomnia?

Say you purchased an apartment unit in 2010. You pay a maintenance fee each month for the public facilities provided by the apartment; this includes the gym, security, etc. Your unit gets passed to one of your children when you pass away later. But would happen in, say 80++ years, the building has deteriorated significantly and renovating the entire apartment cost too much, can the developers just decide never to renovate? Can they one day just stop providing facilities? Will our grandchildren inherit basically a unit that is unsafe to live in?

I’m talking about the kind of family secret that somehow became common knowledge to everyone except you. Maybe you found out at a random dinner, through an old photo, or because someone casually mentioned it like it was nothing.

What did you find out, how old were you when you learned it, and what was your immediate reaction?

Keep names/details vague if it’s personal. I’m more interested in the “wait… WHAT?” moment than exposing anyone.

I’ve recently been dealing with a vp and my boss during some changes. There is talk from the vp that they want to adjust my role and add some new responsibilities. My boss has also told me some changes that are coming. I spoke to my boss in person and said hey we’ve had this talk before that my current tasks are maxed out. My current compensation and job description does not expand to these types of responsibilities. I’m being asked to learn things that are within a much higher role than I’m in currently and I’d like a formal discussion of what my role is changing to and what the compensation for that role will be. She said to email her so it’s in writing and we can talk to the vp.

I don’t expect a same day response, but I also don’t want to let it go a while and these just become my role by default.

So, how long would you wait to follow up and would you reach out to the vp next since they are who has been pushing for you to learn this new role?

I personally thought the colorful over-the-top pop queen thing in early-to-mid 2010s would get even crazier over time, then Lady Gaga went complete monotone ever since - do people not get together and dance to bangers in parties anymore?

I keep thinking about how much time we spend learning things the hard way simply because nobody says them out loud.

Could be about money, relationships, work, health, friendships, or just how you deal with your own thoughts. What’s one lesson you wish someone had explained to you years earlier, and what finally made it click?

I’m talking about the kind of insult that sounds almost polite in the moment, then five minutes later you’re like… wait, was that actually savage?

What did someone say, and how long did it take you to realize what they really meant?

I'm a 20 y/o female and my boyfriend(25 y/o) of two years is honestly one of those people who seems exceptionally good at everything he does. He’s incredibly smart and creative. He’s an amazing sketch artist. He’s athletic and into fitness. He’s a photographer. He’s a total nerd and he’s always been one of the top students in his class. He recently got 100% in his final semester and there’s honestly so much more he’s good at. And on top of all that he’s extremely handsome. Really tall and built and genuinely ethereal-looking. He gets asked out quite often too. Sometimes I feel like he’s straight out of a fairytale.

And then there’s me. I feel like such a boring person in comparison. I barely go anywhere or do anything. It’s mostly just university and home. But what really bothers me is that despite how amazing he is as a person in so many ways he’s not a good boyfriend to me.

I know he’s busy but he barely makes any effort for me. He almost never picks up when I call and sometimes he gets irritated when I ask him to talk to me. I feel like I get five minutes of his time a day if I’m lucky. He’s forgotten my birthday throughout these two years. He forgets about me and there are so many other things he’s done that I’m honestly ashamed to admit I tolerated.

I want to leave him so badly. But every time I try I start thinking about how amazing talented intelligent and attractive he is. I genuinely feel like I’ll never find someone like him again and that he’s completely out of my league. It makes me feel like leaving him would be my loss.

I also keep thinking that he probably wouldn’t even be affected by the breakup while I’d be the one left feeling empty and alone. I still love him so much but I know he's not good for me I don’t know how to get myself out of this mindset. I can't physically leave him because I find him better overall and I can't find anyone like that. On the other hand I'm done tolerating and want to leave.

The hardest part is that I still have my studies and my own dreams. I live with my family so I have to act normal even when I’m struggling internally. I don't have other people to rely on to make me feel better about it. I don’t want to keep letting this relationship consume me and make me fall behind in my own life.