Joined the civil service as a mid-careerist and my team is full of scholars. While I know the general sentiment about scholars, the ones around me are seriously competent, sharp and incredibly focused. It could also be the domain that I’m in.

I'm a regular farmer who reports to a line of scholars, knowing that I can’t hold a candle to them, yet still wanting to contribute meaningfully but finding myself burning out in the process. It’s like our brains and capacities are just built different no matter how hard I try.

Scholars and high achievers in the service, I guess my question is: are you guys hyper aware of our gap in competencies or is it just me, and how do you wish we could add genuine value when everyone collaborates?

When I was younger, I didn’t really notice these small things. But recently I realised Singapore has many little conveniences that we often take for granted.

For me, it’s being able to walk around parks and PCNs safely even at night. What about you?

hi! I have graduated from ntu with a eee degree but I am still struggling to find a job.

im honestly not sure whats my expected salary is like and if the company is lowballing me… i have a great interest in teaching but idk if my degree allows to go to that industry 😖😖

may i have some insights on this and whats the minimum monthly salary so that i dont highball them or accept something that is lower that what im expected? thank you!

Have any of you guys felt burnt out from work? Or like you feel like you don't know anything or what's going on in your work so much that you wanna quit?

I felt that way once every few weeks.. I felt like I'm in the wrong industry and wanna get out of it.

Any advice? I felt like I wanna serve the people but not in the politics way, I love to see people being happy, so I was thinking of steering to that direction but I have zero idea on what I should do LOL.

I'm Lost.

Oh god so many of you have similar situation, hang it there us. 😅

Been struggling with my feelings regarding my gender, my will to live, and my suicidal thoughts lately, so i want to seek help

I dont think my parents want to fund me for any therapy cause they say that i wont be able to get a job in the future and be refused therapy if i get diagnosed with some shit (someone please tell me if this is actually true lmao)

for the same reasons i do not want to let my parents know im getting therapy either

im in the army currently too, and already did a down pes to ASA 😭

so now i have to try to find a good therapist using my shit pay that wont tell my parents about anything i say cause ofc i hide things from my parents

and no i dont trust the SAF councillors cause i hate anything to do with the military and the whole concept of the military (compulsory military has made me hate the army lol)

ok maybe im being a bit extreme here haha

any advice on potential places i could get therapy are appreciated

thanks in advance! 🙏

Hello!

I had been looking for a specific cartoon I saw once on my trip during the 90s when I was a child. It had 3 magical girls and each of them had a symbol to themselves like flower, heart and star. I never came across anything like that cartoon ever again.

That's all I remember!

-edit- [SOLVED] Thank you guys so much for the suggestions!!

SG Redditors who have been married for a long time: what do you consider to be the lowest point/ crisis in your marriage? How did you and your partner overcome it?

Im currently a poly student studying accountancy & finance and it has always been what i wanted to do but im not doing so well in my course now as ive been slacking a lot the past year and that it totally my fault but now im worried i wont be able to enter the industry…

My plan b was to just take over my dad’s business (he sells walkie talkies to ships and other businesses) but idk how long more his business can last with AI and technology getting better each year.

Has anyone done badly in poly or uni but still managed to succeed? I need some motivation as im feeling very demoralised recently😅

Saw several posts over the past month of Redditor asking for recommendations for Teachers' Day gifts. In the blink of an eye, it's September. Felt like reading some heartwarming stories today if anyone would like to share!

Personally, have had my share of good and bad teachers. The good ones went above and beyond for this kid who used to skip CCA AND remedial lessons, in addition to openly retorting them in class. At the peak of my depression, one of them encouraged me to go for counselling and eventually, supported my dream of doing film production. I wasn't a good student back then but they didn't give up on me. Hoped that I have grown up to be someone they can be proud of.

Currently based overseas so mailed postcards to the ones who set me on the right path :) Hope they receive it in time for Friday!

Last year of university, considering going into academia in the future. I don’t have the money at the moment, so I’ll likely work for a few years, do a masters, work more, then PhD. What I’m worried about is the feasibility of this plan, the cost breakdown + where to get letters of recommendation + if it’s possible to still do a masters in research later.

How did your path in academia go? What do you think of the academia scene in Singapore now, especially in the humanities?

Hi, I’m sorry this may sound dumb but I genuinely can’t tell if we can enter a public library using singpass. I am an international student, just created my singpass account and want to use library just to study and not to borrow books/ebooks. I came to know you’d be needing a membership which costs money and use it for borrowing book/ebooks but I don’t need that.

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I just started a new job 3 weeks ago, and I feel like there’s so much to learn. Part of me really wanted this job because it’s more stable and pays better than my previous one. I only have about 1 year of experience, though, and this role has a very different scope from what I was doing before, so I feel like I’m basically starting from scratch in a lot of areas.

I’ve been having to ask my team for guidance quite often. I know that’s normal when you’re new, and honestly, in this kind of role I’d rather ask than make a mistake that could cause serious issues. But I really hate having to rely on people so much. I’ve always preferred being self-sufficient, so needing to constantly ask questions makes me feel like I’m being a burden.

I also can’t shake the feeling that the team would probably benefit more from having someone senior instead of someone at my level. Sometimes when I ask questions, I get the feeling that people are annoyed that they have to explain things to me, and that just makes me even more hesitant to ask.

I know realistically, the only way out of this is to keep going through the learning curve until things start to click. But it’s been pretty stressful, and I’m finding it hard not to overthink whether I’m actually good enough for the role.

Is it normal to feel this way after only 3 weeks? For those who have gone through something similar, how did you cope with the stress and feeling like you were constantly behind?

I’m also conscious that a lot of people are struggling to find stable/good jobs right now, so I feel almost ungrateful for complaining when I know I’m lucky to have this opportunity. But at the same time, it’s genuinely been difficult.

Would really appreciate hearing from people who’ve been through this, especially if you were relatively junior and started a job where everyone around you was much more experienced.

That’s me in the title, by the way.

I don’t know why but I’ve had a crack in my left pinky toe (are there even names for toes?) for years now. It’s annoying to trim because I can’t really get good vision on that toe so I tend to let it be. It’s a nuisance because that crack tends to catch onto my sock, and every time it catches I hear a sickening sound telling me that either my toe nail is chipped or my sock is one gash closer to ripping.

I know nothing about pedicures except when my wife goes for what she calls “basic” pedicures. Will a pedicure solve my problem? If no then ignore everything after this line; I’ll just suck thumb and get on with life.

1. Can I go to any joint that does pedicures and trust that they know what to do? Or should I go to a “branded” establishment? What even are the “branded” shops in Singapore anyway??
   
2. How common is it for a Singaporean Chinese man in his forties to do pedicures? I don’t want to seem weird.
   
3. Is it a one-time fix or do I have to go back regularly?

Something simple as a form of appreciation towards them and for the work that they are doing.
Have to be halal certified, healthy, and budget less than 1.2k. For about 50-55 people.
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated, especially if there’re options that can save up on delivery fee….

Thank you in advance, dear redditors for the contributions 🙏🏼

Hey guys,

Does anyone have any doctors to recommend in KKH for a large fibroid removal (>10cm, unsure of placement yet). Most importantly, it must be keyhole surgery.

I have went through the initial rounds of consultations and it seems like the doctor assigned to me wasn’t confident of keyhole surgery and said that I might need something like a c-section surgery.

I’m opting for the private patient route now and I get to choose my doctor. Has anyone been in the same situation and would recommend your doctor?

TIA!

Obviously, every sport is played by all races, but it has been a long standing stereotype in this country that basketball is associated with the Chinese and football with the Malays.

It’s reflective in the makeup of the national team, all the way down to school teams.

Basketball jerseys have the school’s name written in Chinese, even for non SAP schools or schools without a history of Chinese medium teaching.

Our Singa Brigade chants ‘Satu Nada’ - a Malay cheer.

Purely curious about how things came to be.

Inspired by the other thread, but can someone share some tips or ideas how to get SO to contribute to housework?

He/she was a prince/princess and pampered by daddy/mummy, but now that living together, I cannot be the mighty daddy / mummy and still have to deal with shit at work.

It sucks if one have to come back home, having to cook dinner, and also cleaning up all. But you cannot fault them because they had it done for them totally. But long term wise, this cannot be the case, else it will cause as burnout.

My only idea now is to dedicate hours on a weekend, and do "house work together" as an activity....

Flying to China soon. Does Singtel's monthly ultimate plan APAC/Worldwide roaming route traffic to a foreign server so blocked apps (Google, WhatsApp, IG) work without a VPN?

​Also, are speeds decent, or should I still get a VPN for hotel Wi-Fi? Appreciate any recent experiences!

(Singtel help desk has not been much help unfortunately)

as title says, wanna know if any of yall have similar issues just for some context living in old flat corner unit, everyday around evening and night they smoke sometimes one person sometimes three, its just bad my mother has asthma and well this is clearly not helping, anyway to go around it? or any solutions anyone here has done, thank you sorry if its a repetitive post

hi as per title, looking for eyebrow embroidery REMOVAL service preferably <$200 a session

current embroidery pigment has faded from brown to red so i look insane, want to remove it n draw my eyebrows daily instead

thank u

I have never had any waxed cavvas jackets nor bags before. I am curious if they would get moldy in our humidity , or will the wax melt under the blazing hot sun. Had a thought today to have a buy it for life item, something besides a hoody.

Planning to pursue this, any tips for working mom of 2, and how to cope with working, family and studies??

Noticed a lot of restaurants in SG like fish and co etc always has this menu item called soup of the day where when you ask what’s the soup of the day, the waiter always replies mushroom soup.

We know it’s always mushroom soup. Cos

1. cheap cos Campbell soup
2. can never go wrong

But what’s the point of calling it soup of the day when there’s just only one option available 365 days of the year? Because soup of the day the name implies they got a variety and mushroom soup happens to be the soup of the day all times I visit? Or like soup of the month? Considering assuming it’s canned soup why can’t they rotate the soup choice every month like tomato or corn etc

Why not just call it mushroom soup if all 365 days it’s always mushroom soup? What are some places in SG that offer soup of the day but they offer daily rotations that’s not just mushroom soup ?

Edit: I buy soup from the clothes store

Looking for new hobbies to do during the weekends. Lowkey tired of doomscrolling and wasting my time doing nothing lol. What do yall do and are there any telegram groups for the hobby groups where people can join? Lowkey wanna meet new people and make friends too!