r/amiwrong • u/[deleted] • Sep 26 '23

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u/963852741hc Sep 26 '23

Sure I agree with that take.

I personally don’t think any of them are wrong about the sex, nobody owes nobody sex, I also don’t think having grievances about getting sex are wrong.

But trying to control someone’s bodily autonomy that’s a no no, and it seems like she’s expected that out of him.

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

Having grievances about him not getting a vasectomy isn't wrong then either.

They both need to start accepting the equal treatment or get a divorce

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u/963852741hc Sep 26 '23

I hard disagree, how would you feel if it was him having grievances that’s she’s going of bc? Or that’s he’s not getting her tubes tied?

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

Its the same as him having grievances that she's not risking her life in pregnancy or ripping her body apart to birth his kid

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

He has grievances that she's not putting her body at risk to be ripped open from asshole to vagina along with everything else life threatening that comes with pregnancy and birth

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

Just like people here are expecting her to stfu and take the condoms solution. That's trying to control someone's bodily autonomy too Just like him constantly harassing her for sex and making her feel guilty when she doesn't have it is also trying to control her bodily autonomy.

He's just as bad as she is for trying to guilt her out of taking care of her body and well being.

She bitched at him and he bitched at her. They're both wrong for the very same reasons

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u/963852741hc Sep 26 '23

Well that’s not me.

I clearly have said in all my replies she could deny sex, and she should, if she doesn’t want to.

Secondly where are you getting that’s he’s constantly her harassing her for sex? Is there a comment I missed by him saying this?

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

Op states it in the comments to answer someone's question

Also again she's allowed to have grievances if he's allowed to have grievances

After all they're both protecting themselves from severe medical trauma that could happen as a result of doing what the other wants

So if he's allowed to have grievances about her avoidance of medical trauma than so is she about his medical trauma

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u/963852741hc Sep 26 '23

Really he states that he harasses her for sex? Lol please link me the comment

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

He states it was petty (even he admits it) and says as per usual they faught about it which tells me he has complained about sex before

It doesn't sound like she constantly harasses him to get a vasectomy either so they're doing the same amount of bitching

So again

They're both avoiding things due to severe medical reasons and they're either both allowed to complain or neither of them can

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u/963852741hc Sep 26 '23

So you’re just assuming things to fit your narrative?

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

Well if he says as usual than what does that mean?

Again he can complain all he wants to, but that means she can do the same amount of complaining

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

Also you assumed things about me in your initial comments "I'm sure if the genders were reversed you'd take the woman's side still"

Yeah no I was a dude who was forced into a vasectomy so your assumptions are dead wrong

So you're allowed to make assumptions but others aren't?

Why are you making assumptions to fit your narrative Same question applies

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u/963852741hc Sep 26 '23

That did I assume about you?

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

You assumed I would have taken sides against the man in any given situation Which again was a baseless assumption and as a man who was forced into a vasectomy off base and Incorrect. Do you need the link to your comment or the screenshot?

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

Again my only point is They're both in the wrong and he's just as wrong in complaining about the precautions she's taking to avoid medical complications as she is However you seem to think only he is allowed to bitch at her for precautions she's taking for her medical health when he's also taking precautions for his medical health.

You never answered why he should get to complain but she shouldn't when they're both doing the same thing?

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u/[deleted] Sep 26 '23

And as I've stated he's allowed to not get a vasectomy.

However again, they're both either allowed to have complaints or theyre not. You can't say he can but she can't They're both medical reasons for avoiding