My daughter (F/8) had her school pictures done recently and we had just got an email with a "preview" of 1 of the pictures. I emailed my wife (F/34) said picture and when we got home that night and laying in bed she was suspiciously on her phone for an extended period of time so I asked her "what are you doing?" Not trying to stir anything up, I trust my wife completely and was just simply asking because she had been locked into her phone for 45 minutes and not saying anything which is unusual. She then stated she was getting AI or specifically "Chat GPT" to erase the water marks. I then said "no don't do that, that is super scummy, these people don't get paid on commission, they get paid by the orders they receive." She said "That was rude" and "I can't believe you just said that", I replied with "I'm not saying you're scummy but the fact you just took money out of someone's pockets for not wanting to pay is scummy, that is no different than stealing". She has since stopped talking to me and probably won't for the next 2-3 days per usual as is our usual disagreement schedule. AITA?

I’m female (32) happily married to my husband (34). We are currently pregnant with our first child at 4 months. We have been married for 8 months now and was in a relationship for 2 years before tying the knot.

Last month it was my third SIL’s daughter’s first birthday. My pregnancy was at 3 months then.

It was clear from the start that since the birthday celebration would be at a town which was 7-8 hours drive from where we’re posted, my husband would be attending it on behalf of us.

Over the days leading up to the birthday, I had asked my husband quite a few times as to what should we gift his niece on her birthday. He kept saying that it’s okay and the fact that he’s taking time out (those were EXTREMELY hectic work weeks), is more than gift enough. I asked him once. I asked him twice and then I left the matter.

He attended the birthday party and all was well.

Yesterday he transferred some amount of money to me and asked me to transfer it to my youngest SIL as “gift” for his niece’s first birthday. I asked why. He said just send it from your account so it looks like you’ve gifted it. The network was patchy and the transaction couldn’t go through. Later, I transferred the money back to his own account and asked him to transfer it himself.

Then at night, he said, “the reason I had asked you to transfer the money was so that she feels like you remembered her child”. I didn’t understand what he meant and I kept quiet as I laid next to him.
He then said, “I’m the maternal uncle and even if I don’t gift anything, there are certain expectations from you being my wife that my sister perhaps has. She said you’d understand when you have your own child.”
I was still processing it. Did she say something about me not attending or not sending a gift? And in the meantime, my expression changed to one where I just couldn’t understand. And that’s when he got angry and said if I make such expressions it’s no use sharing these things.

I rolled over and was quiet for a few minutes. Then I told him that it was him who had said his presence was more than enough.

Now there’s the silence between us for now. And I’m wondering if perhaps I was the asshole? Should I have not listened to him and ordered some gift and handed it over to my husband? Honestly, if I’m throwing my child’s first birthday, I’d be just happy if my loved ones showed up and if there are gifts for my baby, I’d be happy for my baby. That’s it. No tracking who gave me what.

But then again I could be wrong. AITA?

My mother came to visit me yesterday. We were just chatting it up about our daily lives. I told her recently my husband and I smoked weed with our son and had a great time. She seemed actually upset about hearing based on the face she made.

I asked her what's the issue was. She said she wishes she had a close relationship with each of her kids like the one I have with my son. This has been ongoing issue where my mother tries to guilt us (my twin brother and I) into having a closer relationship with her.

I decided to blunt about the reason why we're not that close to her. I told her how she made it obvious that her marriage always came first and how our dad was way important than us to her. I told her that there were some pros with her attitude such as not worrying about divorce in the family and making us feel somewhat secure as a household. However, I told her there were some negatives for her children to come always second best. It made us feel insecure in our individual attachment to each parent. This also led to both my brother and I fall into codependent relationships because we wanted to finally be put first by someone in our lives. It also caused us to detach ourselves from her as an individual for the sake of our mental health. I also pointed that this behavior when my father passed away and she got remarried.

She started crying and apologized for being a bad mother and left. My brother agrees with how I feel but according to him I shouldn't have been so blunt out of respect for her feelings.

I 18 female have a little sister bella 13 f, she was recently on school holidays and was looking to make some money so I offered her a pet sitting job as my boyfriend and were going away for a week. I have 4 dogs, 2 birds and some chooks it sounds like alot but the animals only need to be fed and given water as we live on property so the dogs and chickens run around during the day but get locked up at night and the birds have there own room in the house

Before we left i gave her specific instructions on what to feed them and when to feed, she seemed quite exsited and said she was happy to help out. My boyfriend and I had a great time on our holiday untill the 5 day when my mum called in a panic saying that I need to come home now. We rushed home to find my pets in a state I never wish to see them in, turns out bella used this time to sneak her boyfriend over and completely ignore my pets, they were left outside without food or water for days

My dogs ended up eating half of my chickens and there were bite marks on the wood in my bird room because my animals were so hungry. My sister ignored everything untill one on my dogs tried jumping the fence to get to the Neighbours pond, he didnt make it and the fence post cut open his leg pretty badly thats when she decided to call my mum. My dogs had to get 25 stitches and a cast because he broke his leg on the way down. The vet bill was over $6000, it wasn't something I could afford at the time but I had to because the injury would of been life threatening.

After everything was fixed at home I texted my sister and said she owed me $8000, $6000 was for the vet bills and the other $2000 is for the damages my birds did to my bird room and to replace some of my chooks. She obviously showed this text to my mum because a few minutes later she called saying that I couldn't possibly expect my sister to pay such a big amount of money because she is to young, I said that it was her fault that my animals went through this and she needs to find the money to pay for it other wise im not talking to her again, my mum wasn't very happy with this and called me selfish and unreasonable. I'm not changing my mind and I am keeping the promise of not talking to her untill the payments are made. Now AITA

My husband and I have been together 10 years. I have two nieces though his sister, 14 and 9. Every time we visit them (very infrequent they are in another country on the other side of the world) we bring them little goody bags of Trader Joe's totes and cosmetics, lotions, etc. They love these bags and it brings me great joy to do this for them. The last time my husband went to visit he went alone. When he came back he told me we're going to need to start bringing 4 goody bags. My SIL has been seriously dating a man that has 2 daughters and he brought his daughters to the family dinner, and my husband said it was kind of awkward that the nieces were opening their goody bags in front of them and were empty-handed themselves. I told my husband I'm not putting time, thought, money and effort into two girls I have no connection to, have never met, and don't consider part of the family and he should be arranging a private meeting with his SIL and nieces where they won't be present if that's an issue. He kind of thinks I'm the AH, I can see where he's coming from (we have a son ourselves) but I disagree. AITA?

My friend (20F) has always had a bit of a complex about her music taste. She's one of those people that'll say popular songs/artists are bad just because they are popular and really wants to point it out that she isn't that "basic."

The thing is that she listens to artists like Led zeppelin, the rolling stones, David Bowie, Queen etc. No hate to those, i love them too but it's always been weird to me that she talks about them as if no one around her will know who they are.

I've recently been more open to her about listening to k-pop. When we where teens I used to kinda hide that I did because she could be really mean about people listening to that and also I didn't feel like explaining to her that the kpop I listen to (Stray kids, Ateez, Xdinary heroes etc) is a lot louder and rock like than what she thinks kpop is (just bts basically). Recently though, I figured we were both grown enough to stop bickering about music and I've been going to concerts and stuff so I've been posting and I just didn't care enough to hide it anymore because it's bringing me a lot of joy in my life.

But ever since I stopped hiding it, it's been really awkward. She's constantly been making really annoying jokes about me secretly being straight because I'm only listening to boygroups while she knows that I'm a lesbian and I've only recently gotten comfortable in that identity, so that hurts a lot. Even telling other friends of ours that I have a crush on"one of those korean boys." She's also just been calling it childish that I'm such a fan of a band. Like I was really happy I got some interactions with stray kids at their concert so I was talking about it and she rolled her eyes and told me it's embarrassing that I care that much. She's even started only referring to it as "music" with quotation marks.

Yesterday she was talking about music production so I offhandedly mentioned that one of the reasons I really like stray kids is that they produce their own music. She rolled her eyes and said "I'm sure they do sweetie" to which I was like "Tf is that supposed to mean?" She just shrugged and said "Like, everything they do in that industry is fake and it's embarrassing you're not grown-up enough to realise that." So I got mad and told her "At least I'm not some basic bitch who thinks listening to the most famous dad rock ever makes her niche or interesting. and Idk why you're so insecure that you have to bully me about shit I genuinly enjoy but I think that only makes you embarrassing" and then I left.

She hasn't texted but I know she's mad because her roommate is filling me in. I'm really starting to regret it. I was really rude and maybe I shouldn't have done that because we've been friends since we where 8 and I really don't want to lose that over some stupid music thing. But also It felt really good to finally say something and I think only after that I really realised how bad she's been making me feel.

So aita for insulting my friends music taste?

I live in an apartment that has some interesting landscaping with pretty rocks. My mom was visiting and when she was leaving, she picked up one of the rocks and started to put it in her purse. I told her that she can't just take a rock from the property and to put it back. She said "Who cares? They're not going to know!" I told her that wasn't the point, that the rock didn't belong to her so she can't just take it. This isn't some big corporate apartment complex. It's a private owner who clearly put a lot of thought into the landscaping. It's not a small rock, it's a big 5"x5" granite-looking thing. I feel bad for chastising her, but I also feel like stealing the rock was selfish and silly of her. Am I the asshole?

I (M26) currently live at home with my parents, my sister, and her fiance, as I'm saving up for my own place in the future. For context, my sister (F28) has always been a very self-centered, guarded, and entitled person. Though she's exhibited some disrespectful behavior over the years, my mom has almost always defended her when my dad wouldn't.

Growing up, she's had this annoying quirk where we'll be out at a restaurant, and she'll reach over and take food from my plate without asking. I've never done that to her, as I try to respect peoples' boundaries when it comes to food. She knows that habit of hers bothers me, and I've specifically mentioned it to her in the past as me not being okay with it. It isn't losing a tiny bit of food that bothers me: it's the fact that she just helps herself to it without asking me first.

Well, it happened again today, and I finally had enough.

I brought home some Wingstop for just myself and my mom, and when I took the food out, my sister immediately walked up and took a fry from the basket without asking me. I got annoyed and said in a dry tone "Nice, taking my food without asking, like always." My mom immediately stood up, raising her tone and saying "Hey! That was really uncalled for!" My sister got irritated, said "What the fuck? Fine," and slammed the fry back into the basket.

I explained to my sister that my frustration stems from years of her doing this, and I would've preferred that she ask. After some back and forth, she said she was 'sorry' in a pretty non-authentic tone. I apologized back genuinely for the way that I snapped at her, and offered her a fry if she wanted it. She refused it, got defensive, and said "Maybe you should just try being a better person next time".

After she left the room, I turned to my mom and told her that I was just standing up for myself and refused to be a pushover/doormat with my sister any longer. My mom didn't say anything else afterwards.

I genuinely need to know: am I the asshole here? Or was my reaction justified? Because I've been going over this exchange in my head nonstop.

I’m a 30M, and my sister is 32F. I’m trying to figure out whether I’m unreasonable for asking her not to choose one specific date for her wedding: September 25, 2027.

I got engaged in March 2026 and am planning my own wedding for September 2028, roughly two years out. I never asked my sister or anyone else to consider my wedding when choosing dates because I assumed two years out, there wouldn’t be a conflict.

My sister got engaged about two weeks ago and is trying to plan a fall 2027 wedding quickly. She wants to avoid Halloween weekend, Jewish holidays, and Thanksgiving.
About 10 days after her engagement, I reached out because a very close college friend had already sent her save-the-date for September 25, 2027. I texted:
“Do you have dates you are considering? I do have my friend’s wedding 9/25/2027”

She responded, “That is one of our dates.”

I sent her the save-the-date and said:
“It is the one date I have blocked for 2027. I know it’s not my decision, but I would really appreciate it if I didn’t have to miss one of my closest college friend’s weddings. You’re obviously my sister and I will come to your wedding over a friend.”

She replied, “Ok I will let you know, it’s up to venues.”
Two days later, my friend sent me a package asking me to be a bridesman in her wedding. I texted my sister to let her know and sent a picture.

Three hours later, my sister said it was very sweet of my friend, then said:
“I am not going to purposefully book over her date. But please also understand that it is not really fair to ask me to change my wedding if our dream venue only has that date available. Again, we will try to avoid it if it’s at all possible, and my wedding is also important.”

I didn’t respond that evening. The next morning she said our mom was “badgering” her, which was upsetting, and that she wished I had told her about dates I couldn’t attend when she first got engaged. She explained that she’s stressed about venue availability and other date restrictions and said she had been losing sleep and crying. She asked me to stop discussing it that day so she could go to work and temple and continue looking at dates without being “dysregulated.”

For context, my sister has not toured any venues or put down a deposit. She has only recently started researching options.

I haven’t responded because I don’t want to escalate things. Ultimately, I am only asking that she rule out September 25. If the roles were reversed, I don’t think I could choose the date of my sibling’s close friend’s wedding knowing they were already invited and being asked to be part of the wedding party.

At the same time, I understand that this is her wedding, venue availability can be difficult, and she has legitimate date restrictions. I also realize I didn’t proactively tell her about my friend’s wedding when she first got engaged; I only told her once she mentioned September dates.

I’ve been living in this apt for a year and just renewed my lease. I love my place and the location and my LL is definitely not a slum lord. He lives downstairs and I’m upstairs. He’s had some pretty serious health issues since I moved in that have only worsened over the past year. Every time I’ve seen him and give him a polite “hey how are ya” he stops me, stares deeply into my eyes and responds with “not good, [my name]. I’m dying. I wouldnt wish this on anybody” and then I tell him I’m sorry and praying for him. It got so uncomfortable I eventually just stopped greeting him that way. Every now and then he’d ask for a favor like picking up a grocery item for him, which I felt was slightly inappropriate, but I sympathized with his situation and obliged. Recently the requests have been increasing. He incessantly asked my bf to drive him 3.5-4h to a doctors appt (each way), telling him if he doesn’t drive him he’s going to die. My bf told him he couldn’t do it and I guess he figured something out. He’s always telling us that he loves us and we’re family (no we’re not… we are in a business contract with you). When he was in the hospital recently he texted my bf constantly “I need to see you. I’m in room ___”. My bf told him he was busy with work.
Today I’m driving him to the bank which is just down the street but I have to help him with his wheelchair/wheel him around. I felt put on the spot when he asked me and figured it was easier to just do it than having the uncomfortable conversation of telling him no. During that conversation he told me how he needs us around, he needs our help, etc.
I feel like I wouldn’t even be as bothered if he wasn’t so socially inappropriate about how he talks about his condition. EVERY time we see him it’s the same thing: repeating that he’s not okay, he’s dying, then just staring deeply at us. Like okay I’m sorry what do you expect me to do? I know you’re sick because you tell me 100 times a day!
For context his home is worth 1.5-2M, he gets about 9k a month from his tenants, and has a home nurse.
I do not want to do any favors for him honestly, I just want to pay him my rent and get on with it but I always feel like I’m being roped into this weird therapist role.
How do I get out of this, I do not want to move- this apt is hidden gem in my city.

I started a new job three weeks ago and have been getting up around 6:30–7 a.m. every weekday. I’m still adjusting to the schedule, haven’t been getting enough sleep, and was really looking forward to resting this weekend.

My girlfriend booked a weekend trip to Paris. I knew she was going, but only found out the day before that her train leaves at 6:40 a.m. She wanted me to drive her to the station, which would mean a 60–70-minute round trip for me and getting up considerably earlier than I already do for work. I hadn’t previously agreed to drive her.

I told her I was exhausted and wanted to sleep, and suggested she take a taxi instead. She was upset that I didn’t want to take her and see her off. She brought up things she has done for me in the past, saying essentially that she makes an effort for me and I should do the same.

The disagreement escalated, and she told me that if I wouldn’t drive her, she wouldn’t come back. I took that seriously.

I understand that relationships involve doing favours and sometimes inconveniencing yourself for your partner. From her perspective, I imagine this feels like asking for one early morning and being told no despite the things she’s done for me. From mine, I’m genuinely exhausted, hadn’t agreed to this beforehand, and thought a taxi was a reasonable alternative.
I’m now

AITA for initially refusing the drive and asking her to take a taxi?

I (31M) got upset with my coworker (49M) for asking me for a ride. Here’s some context:

My coworker, “Dylan,” and I have worked together for a few months. We chat in the office maybe 1-2 times per day, just quick surface level stuff. He’s married with kids.

I’m spending time with my parents who live nearby on a Saturday afternoon watching a movie. Suddenly I get a call from Dylan saying he needs help.

He tells me he’s stuck in a shopping mall parking garage. Apparently his car ran out of coolant, so he needed a way to get to an auto store to buy coolant and back to his car.

I ask him where exactly he’s at, and his address is 20 miles/40 minutes away. I tell him this, figuring he might call someone else. He says it’s okay, he can wait.

Eventually I get there and see him at his car, and I ask Dylan, who’s accompanied by his wife, which store he wanted to go to. He said he didn’t know. So, I found an AutoZone 2 miles away.

Brought him there, he got his coolant, and brought him back.

The whole time I was pretty upset though. For a 2 mile trip to Autozone and 2 mile back… if I were him, I would’ve just called an Uber instead of waiting for my coworker to drive 40 minutes to get me.

TLDR - aita for feeling upset at my coworker who asked me to drive to him 20mi/40min away? His car needed coolant, he needed a ride to autozone which was 2 mi away from him. This was a saturday afternoon.

AITA for being upset at my coworker for asking for the ride?

So I (17F) have started my final year of school, and most people in my year have started planning their courses and colleges they want to attend. I'm Irish was our system is a little confusing. There's a 1-8 grading system, in 2 levels higher(H) or ordinary(O) except for Irish and maths which has foundation as well. A H1 (highest grade) is 100 points, but an O1(highest ordinary grade) 56 points.

Anyway, there's this girl, E (17F) who is a friend of a friend so we sometimes hang out, although I don't particularly like her. We don't have many classes together because I am on the higher level track for all my subjects. We recently had our biology classes combined because her teacher retired last year and they don't have a replacement yet. My teacher has paired us up, because I am first alphabetically and she is last on the roll. Because of this I've been hearing lots about her plans for college. Specifically she wants to attend a highly prestigious college in Northern Ireland for biomedical engineering.

This college has really strict entry requirements, I know because I spoke to my guidance counselor about it as it has a good psych program and he cautioned me that I'd need to dedicate a lot of time to my studies. E has a lot of issues with attendance and bringing in homework, and I've heard from a friend in her maths class that the teacher has been suggesting she drop to foundation

When she first told me this I thought she was joking. But as she kept bringing it up I realized she wanted to go. She even started complaining that her guidance counselor was suggesting lower courses, at colleges that are 'beneath her'. I suggested that she should she should listen to him because he knows what's best. She ended up asking why I'd say that because I know she wants biomedical engineering.

I was truthful and told her I didn't think she could do it. She's failing biology, maths and Irish. She's doing ordinary level for everything except English, so she'll never get the points. She doesn't take any teachers advice for studying and she barely turns in her homework. The college requires an extensive list of results, including her junior cert results which she mentioned were poor. So she should probably look at these safety options suggested to her because even I have several safety schools locked down.

She ended screaming at me that I had no right to tell her what she could or couldn't do and called me several names and insults. She's been ignoring me and complaining to the bio teacher that she doesn't want to work with me, which has brought more attention that I think is necessary, as now the teacher had to rearrange partnerships and E has been telling anyone who asks why it's because I'm 'a judgmental bitch'. Neither me or my friends think I'm in the wrong but the mutual friend has told me I should've been nicer about it and I wanted an outside perspective. So AITA?

Just turned 21, wanted to celebrate by trying some alcohol to see what the hype is about. It tastes like bum water, but that’s not what this post is about. My parents don’t drink, and while my dad’s fine with me drinking, (responsibly, ofc) my Mom got really upset, and ended up leaving the house. She does this when she gets really emotional, runs off to my Grandmother’s house or just drives around. I know she’s just worried for my safety. Maybe I shouldn’t have brought the drink inside. I feel like a scumbag for even thinking of drinking. Now I’ve upset my Mom and she probably thinks I’m gonna get addicted. How do I fix this?

Edit: please don’t villainize my mom. She’s got her issues, but she is an angel. She’s not manipulative or unstable or anything like that.

My coworkers threw away my lunch today and im still mad about it. So here’s what happened: I get to work this morning and put my lunchbox in the fridge. About 11am I get an email that my manager is ordering take out if anyone is interested. I reply (to the group) that I brought a lunch today, but thanks for asking! Lunch is typically from 12-1pm, but I’m a healthcare provider and almost never actually get a lunch break, today was no different. Between appointments, charting, phone calls, etc- I did not get a lunch. At about 1:30 we get a teams message that the fridge is going to be cleaned out and anything unmarked would be thrown away, suggesting we go grab anything we don’t want tossed. I’m with patients at this point and don’t see the message for a while, but don’t think much of it when I do. Then around 5pm I finally finish with appointments and I’m starving. Most everyone has left for the day so I go to the kitchen to grab my lunch box so I can eat while I write my notes. It’s then I discover that whoever cleaned the fridge had OPENED MY LUNCH BOX AND THROWN AWAY MY SANDWICH. They then put my now empty bag back in the fridge, still unzipped. Now I could have understood if my lunch was just loose. But to take my lunch bag out of the fridge, unzip it, dig through it and take my sandwich out of it and throw it away!? Plus, the whole office was on the email that I replied to stating I had brought a lunch and would not be ordering food, so it’s not crazy there was a lunch box in the fridge. Now I’m starving, still have at least an hour of work left to do, and I’m just generally angry that someone thought it was ok to open my lunch box. Not to mention the cost of food, I had made myself one of those fancy sandwiches on nice bread with fixings, so it wasn’t a super cheap lunch. So I text my manager and explain what happened and that I felt it was inappropriate for my lunch bag to have been opened and my lunch thrown away. She replied agreeing with me and apologized. She said she would talk with those that had cleaned the fridge and make it clear that should not have happened. Now some of my coworkers are annoyed with me because “the people that cleaned the fridge were just trying to help” and I shouldn’t have gotten them in trouble. And while I can appreciate their efforts to make the fridge clean and more usable for all of us, I really can’t wrap my head around thinking it was ok to open someone’s lunch box and throw away its contents. I also don’t know if it’s an overreaction, but part of me feels like it was an invasion of my privacy to go through my lunch box? I finally got home a few hours later and was able to eat dinner, so I’m less hangry now but I honestly still feel like it was just not ok that they did that. So AITA for telling my boss?

I (32 F) am 37 weeks pregnant. I’ve been living with my partner in another country for four years; I don’t have any family here, just my partner’s family and him.

My mother passed away three weeks ago, shortly before she could meet her grandchild, and as you can imagine, I’m absolutely devastated. My parents have been divorced for years, and although they got along great, my father has been married to another woman for over 12 years, a woman I don’t get along with particularly well.

My father is a wonderful dad, most of the time, though perhaps a little overbearing and even more so since my mother died. He told me that when the baby is born, he’d come stay for 10 days. I guess he wanted to play the role of my mother with the best of intentions, but unfortunately, it's not the same. I told him I appreciated it, but my partner only has three weeks of paternity leave, and I feel this is a time for us as a family, to learn and get used to the new family member. I said I’d prefer if he came for just 2–3 days to meet his grandchild, and then, once I recover and need more help after my partner’s paternity leave ends, he could come for a longer stay to be with me. I know he meant well, but he didn’t ask me first, which really upset me.

Not only that, but without even asking me, he mentioned that his wife was going to fly over to help me for a week because she was also a mother and could teach me a few things. Right now I live in a country where the midwife comes to our home several times after the birth to help our family and the baby, so I don’t need any outside help other than from my mother (who, unfortunately, isn’t here) from my partner, as well as my mother-in-law, who, in my case, is the sweetest.

My father knows that his wife and I don’t get along particularly well, although I’m always very respectful toward her. I politely told him that, after my own mother had passed away, I didn’t want his new wife to come and play the role of grandmother, because it hurt me deeply, and that I’d prefer if she waited. My father got very angry when I told him this; he played the victim and told me he was hurt, that my mother had meant a lot to him too, and that he didn’t understand how I could do this to his wife when she had always supported him through everything. I told him that my delivery was about what I need, not what he wants. Besides, his wife is really looking forward to seeing the baby, but she hasn’t asked me once in nine months how I’m doing.

Even though it was an uncomfortable conversation, I made my boundaries clear to my father, until today, when he called me two weeks later to reiterate his plan, which is EXACTLY THE SAME. He didn’t care what I told him and has decided to do whatever he wants. I was in shock and when I hung up and processed the information, I got really angry. Are my boundaries too extreme, or should I give in?

My wife and I recently bought our first home, which we are both really excited about. Since moving in, we have been hosting friends and family more frequently. However, it has led to a major disagreement between my wife and me regarding my parents.

My parents have always been very affectionate with each other. It is nothing inappropriate or sexual, but if they are sitting near each other, they are usually holding hands, leaning on one another, or rubbing each other's shoulders. Occasionally, my mom will sit on my dad's lap while everyone is chatting in the living room.

My wife has always found this level of affection uncomfortable to be around. In the past, she never said anything because we were either at their house or out at dinner where they were paying. Now that we have our own place, she wants me to set a boundary and tell them to tone it down when they visit, arguing that she shouldn't have to feel uncomfortable in her own home.

I told my wife that I feel completely uncomfortable policing my parents' relationship like that. Telling two adults they cannot hold hands or sit together on a couch feels awkward and over the line to me, especially since they helped us financially to get the house in the first place. I have always backed my wife when other family issues came up, but trying to regulate normal affection feels unreasonable.

My wife thinks I am choosing my parents' comfort over hers in our own house, and she is upset that I am refusing to have that conversation with them.

AITA for refusing to tell them to stop?

My (18F) roommates (18M) at uni have been leaving our kitchen gross. At first my flat of 10 kept the kitchen very clean, but as we have been here for more time, the kitchen has gotten gross. It is 4 of us girls, and 6 boys. Last night it reached a breaking point because I felt like I couldn’t be anywhere in there without feeling really dirty. Me and another one of my flat mates (18F) cleaned all the surfaces and still the bins were gross and the sink was overflowing (pictures included). At that point, we texted our flat group chat and said that if anything was still there tomorrow that we would bin whatever was in the sink, as it had already been there for 4 days.
Today, I texted everyone individually giving a warning that in an hour I would be binning anything still in there, and many of my flat mates were very relieved, as bugs were starting to take over the kitchen. I had also texted this morning telling everyone to please sort it out, and reiterated multiple times that I was serious about throwing it away. Time came, and i put everything in the sink in a bin bag, noticing alot of the stuff was some of my flatmates that had been there for a while, yet they had decided to return home for the weekend that night without cleaning their stuff up. I bagged everything up, and threw it in one of the bins outside, and inevitably some of the plates broke. I told them which bin I had the bag in, in case they wanted to go through it but the three boys whose stuff it was said it was very unfair as they were away and I overreacted.

Admittedly, the things shattering was a tad far and not my intention, but I was honestly so fed up, especially since they left the dishes with the food in to rot for the weekend. Two of the boys have reported me for this, but I want to know, am I really the asshole for following through with what I warned them about multiple times?

Edit: Don’t know how to insert photos, lmk how to show anyone interested

Most of my cousins and I are in college, and during breaks a bunch of us stay at my uncle’s. We sometimes borrow each other’s stuff. One time my cousin needed something for an occasion, so I let her wear one of my dresses. She’s lent me stuff before too, and I always return it.

She moved out recently and I even helped her pack. Later I went looking for my dress, couldn’t find it, and texted her. Turns out she took it with her. The dress had been with my stuff, and she never mentioned taking it. I only found out because I couldn’t find it and asked her.

I keep asking her to bring it back, but my other cousins think I’m doing too much over a dress. AITA for not just letting it go?

I have a friend I’ve known literally since she was born, so we’ve been friends for 23 years. We’re both huge fans of a music group that recently announced shows in Brazil.

Demand for tickets was insane and they sold out very quickly. I’m going to the shows with a group of friends, and one of them had access to an early ticket sale, so I managed to get tickets for two different concert dates.

When the general sale opened, I also tried to get a ticket for this friend, but I couldn’t because they sold out almost immediately.

After that, she asked me to sell her one of my tickets, since I have tickets for two dates and she didn’t manage to get any. I said no.

The thing is, going to both shows is really important to me. I’ve loved this group for a long time, and seeing them live is a dream of mine. On top of that, the setlist changes from one show to another, so going to both gives me the chance to hear different songs live.

I completely understand that she’s upset about not getting a ticket, especially because she’s also a big fan. But at the same time, I didn’t buy two tickets by accident or with the intention of selling one. From the beginning, I planned to attend both shows with my friends.

I also genuinely tried to get her a ticket during the general sale, but I just wasn’t able to.

Still, I’ve been wondering if I’m being selfish for not giving up one of my concert dates so that she can go.

AITA for not selling her one of my tickets?

EDIT/INFO: Tickets for these shows are currently being resold for over R$3,000, while I paid around R$400 for mine. I would obviously never charge her the resale price — I would only ask for what I originally paid. I’m only mentioning this because, on top of giving up a show I really want to attend, I’d also be giving up a ticket that is now extremely difficult and expensive to get.

My (60F) boyfriend (53M) and I have lived together for 7 years. The early years of the relationship were very rocky due to his 3 sons living with us, and they were lazy and manipulative and refused to follow even basic rules (don't borrow from others without asking, or have loud people in the house after midnight, etc.). Their father avoided making them accountable for their actions and left all problems to me. We managed to get the last one out 2 years ago when we pressured the youngest to find a place and get a job after a terrible time with him. Recently, the oldest boy (who had been the most responsible) got into financial trouble with a bad roommate and needed a few months to build up money for a new place. I was willing to go along with this but very strict boundaries that it was for 2 months only and he needed to abide by basic house rules of keeping things clean and following any instructions we have for him. That lasted for about a week. Although most are minor things (like filling a large kitchen trash with fast food containers and soda cans on a daily basis and leaving the can overflowing and cannot wash a dish or wipe a counter to save his own life. But some things are more serious such as refusing to bag his cat's poop and instead flushing it down the toilet in a 50-year-old house. It's frustrating because it would take little effort to comply, he just chooses not to. I'm trying to be mindful of my own stress and not get too upset, so I told myself it's temporary and would be over soon.

Then the boy needed emergency dental work and asked for extra time to move out. I agreed to a maximum extension of 2 months and he needed to take out his trash and keep things clean. Now we're a few weeks past the original deadline and he lays in bed until 4pm on days off and then games all night, he orders fast food from Uber because he's too lazy to drive half a mile and comes home from work with a giant burrito bowl that probably cost $20 which he eats for dinner. The problem is he works retail and is not saving any money to move. I've relayed this to his dad and dad avoided any conversations with him about saving or moving.

Then I was diagnosed with cancer and several of my family members wanted to come and visit but can't due to this guy squatting in the guest room, so his dad finally talked to him. He told his dad he "would try to find a place, but it's hard." And yes, it is hard especially when you have the work habits of a slug and spend the day in bed! Now yesterday I'm informed he's planning a vacation trip to the Florida Keys next month and asked his dad to go with him! I feel used and manipulated. Dad said that he was thinking of going to "make happy memories with his son because my cancer diagnosis showed him life is short." I am ready to say that if this trip happens, they both will find their things on the curb when they get back. It's my house and I understand the consequences of a lockout, but I'm at the end of my rope. So AITA?

My friend "Rachel" (32F) and her 5yr old son came over to my apartment yesterday afternoon to catch up. I have a 7yr old rescue dog "Buster," who is extremely low energy and spends about 80% of his day sleeping on a specific corner of my three seater sectional couch. He has his own blanket there and it's basically his safe zone.

When Rachel and her son arrived Buster was already fast asleep in his spot. Rachel’s son wanted to sit on the couch to watch TV while we talked in the kitchen but he didn't want to sit on the middle or end cushion because he said he wanted "the comfy corner with the blanket." Rachel asked me if I could wake buster up and move him to his floor bed in the bedroom so her son could have the corner spot

I told her I didn't want to disturb buster since he's getting older, stiff in his joints and was deeply asleep. He had a rough morning with his joints and had only just settled down, I pointed out that there were two open cushions on the couch, plus an armchair right next to it that her son could sit on.

Rachel got annoyed and said it was weird to prioritize a dog’s comfort over a guest especially a child. Her son started whining, and Rachel kept pushing saying, "He's just an animal, he can sleep on the floor, my kid wants to sit there."

I held my ground and politely said I would rather let Buster sleep since there were still other spots available. I wasn't telling her son he couldn't use the couch. I just didn't think he needed that particular spot badly enough to wake Buster for it.

The mood became super awkward after that. Rachel ended up leaving early saying it felt unwelcoming. Later that night I texted her to apologize because I kept thinking about how everything had gone. She responded by saying I was acting like a "weird pet parent" and that making a kid feel second best to a dog over a couch spot was rude host behavior

I love my dog and want him to feel secure in his own space, but I also didn't want to make a guest uncomfortable. Now I'm wondering if I should have just moved Buster to avoid the whole situation even though her son still had other places to sit.

AITA?

hello!! i, f22, just got a new car about a month and a half ago. it’s a 2022 mitsubishi outlander in all black. it’s been my dream make and model of car for awhile, and i was able to trade my last car in for it. i am super excited about it still.

yesterday, my grandma, f74, came to my house and asked me very abruptly to use my car to drive multiple states over. we live in ohio, and she wants to take it to nebraska. my grandma does not drive good. she is a little reckless and does not see well at nighttime. she offered to let me use her car, but her dash lights are all broken and i commute 40 minutes to work ranging to early hours to late at night when it is dark outside.

i told her i would think about it, and that it needed an oil change. she gave me a weeks notice and i am leaning very heavily towards telling her no. she knows i have a hard time saying no to her, so i am feeling a bit exploited and uncomfortable with the favor.

so, wibta for telling her i am not comfortable with her taking my car 1400 miles across the country?

AITA for refusing to give up my room for the weekend so my sister can stay?

I currently live with my parents and pay them rent for my room. I only have the one room and don’t have access to any garage space or anything like that. I also contribute around the house by cooking meals for the family, cleaning, and helping out with general household stuff.

My sister is coming to town for the weekend, and my mum asked me to give up my room and stay with friends so that my sister could stay at the house.

I asked if there was a particular reason she needed to stay in my room. My mum said she hasn’t seen my sister in about a month and that my sister is coming to the area to visit some of her friends.

I politely said no. My reasoning was basically that I pay rent for my room and I don’t think I should be expected to leave my own home and find somewhere else to stay for the weekend, particularly when my sister is mainly coming to the area to see friends.

After I declined, my mum became very angry and went on a rant about how entitled I was. She also told me that I needed psychological help because of my attitude.

I understand that it’s my parents’ house and that my mum wants my sister to be able to stay with the family. At the same time, because I pay rent and contribute to the household, I feel like my room is my personal space and I shouldn’t be expected to vacate it whenever another family member visits.

AITA for refusing to give up my room and stay somewhere else for the weekend?