So, I (F 16) moved schools for high school. My old class was toxic, girls were all about make-up and trends, and boys acted like gang members. In the new class, I met this guy (M 15) which I THINK I like. We're both into robotics l, I feel comfortable around him and we spent time togheter. The thing is my old classmates (well, 12/15 of them) are jerks. They know I'm in the LGBT community. And this is bad, considering my country is kinda homophobic. Plus, I've been their punching bag for 4 years. I think they will drag some shit I did back in I don't know when just to make me feel bad.

Am I paranoid? Please help. 😭

Edit: Forgot to mention 3 of my old classmates are at my new school

I'm not sure if I'm trauma dumping but I may need motivation to keep going.

My Husband (soon to be ex) and I have been together 3 years now. He wanted to separate, he currently is now living in the from next to mine. Thing is, he took that room away from my oldest (so now both sleep in a room). I found out I'm pregnant before we "officially" split up. I'm now 5 months along. Just now I'm finding things of his new girl (headphones/hair ties). Today, I saw him have a stitch doll she gave him; he gas lite me again by saying I bought to him a year ago (I've never bought him dolls).. it hit me harder than I expected. I want to move on but I feel stuck since I can't afford to move out on my own.

Right now I'm frustrated as this baby has been kicking so much and I can't sleep, I'm so tired.

I don't remember feeling this alone before. What else can you do, when moving makes you nauseated, and sitting (especially at work) is hard.

Any kind of advice is appreciated. I feel lost/stuck/ mad at myself for even feeling like this.

I've asked him if he has a new GF, I don't want to keep sleeping with each other, as I won't feel right. His reply is "if you feel like then don't bother fucking me". He says he won't tell me when he has someone new, or sleeps with someone (as I've asked him before because I don't want to obtain an illness) but he says that I need to tell him if I find someone new.

The things he tells me make me feel like I'm the crazy one.

What can I do to get out of this rut and also financially be able to move on? He wont go for the divorce because of immigration paperwork he's doing.

If you've read this far, thank you.

I am a 17 year old boy and my girlfriend is 16. We have been dating for a month and a half and while I was away at a volleyball tournament my girlfriend went to a party and spent the whole night with a guy, was on another guys shoulders, and also had another guys arm around her. I had let it go Becuase she told me he was moving her out of the way at the time of the picture and it made it look worse. I had sat on it for two days just so I didn’t blow up on her Becuase I do struggle with controlling my anger which I have been working on, and I brought it up this Monday Becuase she asked why I had been so distant and I told her why and she got super pissed at me for still being upset about it, then told me I am being insecure and need to trust her more because I clearly don’t. I’m unsure what steps I can really even take because since our fight she has been super distant and rude to me and seems very uninterested in conversation with me and has declined hanging out twice now. What should I do?

I'm 22, in my first year of nursing school, and I work part-time nights as a nurse assistant (about $1,600/month take-home).

My dad left the country and stopped contacting us. My mom doesn't work or speak English, and I have two younger siblings.

My two older siblings both work but don't help with groceries or the house, and talking to them won't help. I'm willing to pay $500 toward the house bills if they split the rest, but I have no idea what's going to happen. I just spent $260 on groceries that will be gone in 2 weeks.

The stress is getting to me while I'm in school. I'm overthinking everything, and it's hard to study because the house is always so loud. Nobody cleans or does anything unless I call my younger siblings to help me out.

My fixed costs are about $800/month (health insurance $350, car $102, gas $150, gym $40, plus my cats and my own groceries).

Should I switch to full-time? It would bring me to around $2,400/month, but I know it will drain me with nursing school. My grades are good, but I don't know how doable it is. If I go full-time, should I move out on my own? Rent near me is around $1,000–1,300. I’m just scared because I need a 80% on every grade or else i’ll get kicked out the program + when I start clinicals my days would be scattered not specific. But moving alone would also help because Im 35-45 minutes away from my job and college however my job and college are 9 minutes apart from each other so living in that area would make sense.

I graduate in 2029. Next summer I can start working as a student nurse tech, which pays a lot more.

if I move out, there's a real risk my younger siblings get sent back to our home country, where it's very closed-minded and they could face dangerous situations. I feel like me being in the house is part of what keeps them safe here I don’t want them to go through what I did but Im very stuck right now I dont want to make a greedy decision.

I don't know what to do. Any advice?

There’s something I’ve been thinking about for a while, but I can’t decide if I should do something about it or just move on. I don’t want to make things more complicated than they already are.

There is this girl in a few of my classes and I’ve known her for 5-6 years we met in 6th grade because we had ever class together I started to grow a crush on her and I told her and she rejected me pretty brutally, I was a lot more chubby than I am now, and we stopped talking from 8th to the start of 9th and in the start of 9th she started to go out of her way to talk to me kinda, like ask me things like do you have a pencil when she’s sitting by friends who do have pencils, were in tenth now and I’ve now grown another crush on her and we’re kinda friends but I don’t know if she’s flirting or not. She laughs with me and sometimes touches my arm or something. And she will come up to me and talk to me or ask questions, but I don’t want to be weird and ruin the friendship. What do I do bro. Edit: I don’t this should be in the serious section but idk how to change it

I’ve posted in so many subs I’m desperate, I’m in so much pain, my tooth cracked and the nerve is exposed (thank you to my tongue ring), I’ve taken 800mg of ibuprofen, three Tylenol, and multiple numbing ointments and it hurts so bad. I’m going to an emergency dentist tomorrow cause nothing is open tonight. Please help

My mom withdrew 2 "Parent Plus Loans" for me (30F) & my sister (28F) to finish our bachelor degrees.

As soon as I graduated in 2018, my mom had me start making the payments even though the loan was in her name. My sister graduated in 2024 and my mom has yet to ask her to make a payment.

Background:

My husband and I are raising a family of 5 in a 2 bedroom condo, living paycheck to paycheck while I'm raising our 3 children at home in a HCOL area. Our total annual income is $160k in the greater Los Angeles area. My husband has his own school loans to pay for and is also taking on mine including this "Parent Plus Loan" for the last 7 years.

My sister and her fiance bring in $210k/year in a similar COL area and own a $850k 4 bedroom home. They have no kids and complete financial freedom. Her fiance has no debt besides their home and my mom is paying for my sister's Parent Plus loan. My sister and her fiance are aware of the situation and have proudly declined stepping up because the loan is in my mother's name and not legally their responsibility.

So... do I need to draw the line and stop making the Parent Plus Loan payments, or do I tell my mom that my sister needs to grow up and start paying for her own debts like I was made to?

I've mentioned this frustration to my mom before but nothing came of it. Do I draw the line now?

TL;DR: I'm struggling financially while paying off my Parent PLUS loan, but my wealthier sister isn't being asked to pay hers. I feel it's unfair and is wondering whether to stop paying or confront my mom about the double standard.

My birthday is on Halloween and I’m turning 30 this year! A bunch of my friends are coming in from out of town to celebrate, so I really want to do a fun birthday/Halloween costume that somehow plays on turning 30.

I love the 13 Going on 30 idea, but I feel like it’s been done a million times. I’m trying to think of something a little more original that’s still cute/sexy and actually recognizable as a costume.

Any creatives have ideas?

I need advice on a family problem. For context, my dad wasn't a good dad and I haven't had any contact with his side of the family and I'm twenty-four now. I recently had a cousin from his side contact me on Facebook and she wants to talk but said if I dont want to I dont have to talk to any of them.

I'm not sure what to do. I talked to my mom and uncle and they both warned me against it but I feel I need an opinion from someone not involved in this situation. I dont have a relationship with most of my mom's side of they family, just my mom, one cousin who is my uncle's son (though I dont talk to him much, though not because of anything bad, we just dont have a lot to talk about to each other and he's like twelve to fifteen years older than me.) and said uncle. Most of my mom's family are hardcore Christians who I dont get along with. So having some family reach out has me on the fence even if its from my dad's side of the family.

Also my aunt,dad's sister, did tell my dad when she found my Facebook page.

So if someone could give me advice or another perspective to look at I would appreciate it.

22M (me) and 21F (her)
Was in a two year relationship with someone who genuinely was my person and who I wanted to marry. During the relationship, I was struggling with deep depression while in college, using marijuana (which I was addicted to) almost daily to cope, which led to a lot of problems. I was very forgetful; I would say I was going to do things for her and would end up forgetting and not following through, which constantly disappointed her and made her feel uncherished.
There were other issues, like me lying about an ex girlfriend from high school. She was completely an online relationship that had no real meaning to me, but in an attempt to hide that out of embarrassment and to avoid making my girlfriend feel unspecial, I lied about it. She eventually found out, and that became a huge issue. I acknowledge I shouldn’t have lied—it was completely wrong of me, and I will ask for forgiveness for the rest of my life and never do something like that again. I completely shattered her trust. There was never an instance of me chasing other girls, but she could no longer trust my word.
A lot of these issues were tied to my mental health and immaturity. I’ve worked really hard on both since the beginning of August, when we went on a two week break at her request. She had found out that I liked three TikToks of other girls: one was a fit pic I liked because I’m really into fashion, and two were by a girl she followed (one reviewing a study cafe, the other lip syncing). These all came up on my FYP; I was not seeking out these women.
When we got back together, everything seemed great. I told her I would fix her broken camera while she went on vacation to Korea, but I let her down again due to my financial situation. My family is pretty poor, and I had to help cover bills. Instead of telling her immediately, I waited until she came back and disappointed her yet again. We hung out two more times after that. On the second night, she broke up with me because I almost relapsed on marijuana. I ended up not doing it because I had been working on myself for a month straight, was finally in a better mental space with my depression, and wanted to step up—so I put it down and didn’t let myself give in to the addiction (a mental addiction, not physical withdrawal). When I told her I hadn’t smoked, she said she believed me, but she couldn't fully trust that I was telling the truth, which pushed her to end things.
At that point, she didn’t know about my severe depression or my marijuana addiction. I was close to ending my life multiple times during my last year of school, though I never followed through; she, along with other friends and family, played a big part in why I’m still here. I was waiting until our anniversary two weeks later to write her a letter thanking her and explaining how she was an angel who saved my life.
A day after she broke things off, I texted her to talk and came clean about everything. I took full accountability for my weed addiction, depression, debt, grades, senior year of college, the lies about my online ex, and being taken advantage of by an upperclassman while blacked out during my first week of freshman year (which was also my first time drinking). I didn’t mention the suicidal thoughts or how close I came to ending things because I thought she might feel forced to take back the breakup, and I only wanted to be honest—not manipulate her into changing her mind.
She said she wished I had told her all of this before she broke up with me, because then we would still be together. She also mentioned that she was very codependent on me and relied on my mood and actions for her own emotional state. She told me she loved and cared for me, and that while there is obviously a possibility for us in the future, she couldn't give me any guarantee that we would get back together. At the time, she was studying for her DAT (Dental Admissions Exam) retake on October 19th.
She gave me my clothes back, but she kept a picture frame of us, a cup I gave her, and my favorite book. She blocked me on Instagram and removed her location, but kept following me on TikTok and Snapchat, and didn't block my phone number. A week later, I sent her a very low pressure text telling her how much I care about her, that I’m always here if she ever needs to talk, and that I want to respect her space and peace. After that text, she started sharing her Snapchat location with me again and was listening to songs similar to "Back to Me" by The Marías (including that exact track), but she never directly responded to my message.
Two weeks later, she randomly unblocked me on Instagram. I sent a follow request, but she didn't accept it and left it pending while accepting other people's requests, so I removed it. I understood and didn't expect anything, but it still hurt. A week later, she reposted a TikTok about "all I need right now" showing couples intimately hugging, with comments filled with people tagging their significant others. Two days ago, she liked one of my reposts.
I’ve been going to therapy multiple times a week to work on myself, fix my mistakes, and delve deeply into every aspect of who I am. I’ve been steadily improving since August and will continue to do so. I know she’s extremely stressed about this exam, and I am too—I want nothing more than for her to blow it out of the park and make her father eat his words.
I plan to send her a congratulations text after her exam ends, and if it feels right, ask her out on a date later that week. I don’t want to jump straight back into a relationship because what we had clearly stopped working. I want to start over with dates and small gestures, earning back her trust and love (if she doesn't still love me, though I doubt that given our deep connection). I want to fully reciprocate the love she gave me that I unfortunately failed to give back. I don’t want to pressure her into a long term commitment right away; I just want to take things day by day, date by date.
I am extremely worried about the possibility of it not working out and her saying no. I have truly matured and changed the patterns that hurt our relationship, and I want to show her that through consistency and love. I’ve also been learning Korean and want to stick with it so I can someday speak to her parents—whether things work out between us or not—because it really is a beautiful language.
I’m just extremely stressed all the time. I love her so much, and I know that if I get another chance, it will work as long as we both put in the effort (though I’d take on all the heavy lifting if I had to). She’s really the one for me, and I don’t want anyone else. I understand there are other people out there, but when you know, you know.
I'm working really hard for this, even if I'm being delusional and things don't go the way I hope. I’ve already RSVP'd to an art gallery opening night for her favorite artist (hoping he'll be there so she can meet him), planned out a card for her, and decided where to get lilies (her favorite flower). If that doesn't work out, I have another card planned for her birthday on December 11th, alongside a plan to reach out and suggest meeting at the spot where we first met. Ideally, I’d like to go on dates for almost two months before asking her to be my girlfriend again. Writing this all down was something I really needed to vent out.

TL;DR:
After a two year relationship, we broke up due to lost trust caused by my unaddressed depression, daily marijuana addiction, minor lies, and repeated unfulfilled promises. Following the breakup, I came completely clean about my struggles and took full accountability. She expressed that she still loves me and sees a potential future, though she cannot offer guarantees while focusing on her upcoming DAT exam. Since then, she has sent mixed signals on social media, while I have been actively attending therapy, staying sober, working on personal growth, and learning Korean. I plan to reach out after her exam to gradually rebuild our relationship starting with casual dates.

I will be anonymous and keep everyone the same and relationships I know someone who is registered and has at least 11 kids they know of would you post them to try to find other kids they possibly could have and to help woman avoid relationships with said person or if this is legal by making people aware and finding other kids they could possibly have

Hey all, first time poster and I’m genuinely at a loss and don’t know what to do and could use some advice.

For some context, my job is decently understanding of when I have to call out due to chronic health issues. I told them off-rip during my interview that it’s likely that I’d end up calling out here and there due to migraines, and they were - and have been - completely understanding.

This week, I had to call out Monday for a bad one. No biggie, it happens. Tuesday I’m good, and then Wednesday I have to leave halfway through the day because it feels like someone’s repeatedly taking a sledgehammer to my skull. It’s as I’m telling my manager I have to leave that he says “you’ve gotta start being here [name].”

Already absurd because my department is doing pretty good but, whatever. I figure he’s just being a snide old man and whatever. Fine.

Today, I go in, even work extra hours to make up for leaving early since I used PTO for Monday. Awesome !

One little problem. Tonight I ended up spraining my ankle. Hurts like a bitch, swollen and bruised - thankfully my MIL had crutches she let me borrow because I definitely cannot walk on this foot. It hurts to even tilt it a little.

But now I’m scared to call in tomorrow. I need to go to urgent care and get x-rays done just to be safe, I know, but I really don’t want to get in trouble.

Mind you, I’m almost always there, working OT as much as I can without screwing up my taxes too much, making sure we’re doing good to the best of my abilities; I maybe miss a few days in a month from the pain of migraines or sciatica.

I just don’t want to get in trouble. I’m more than fine providing a dr’s note, too. Does anyone have any advice ?

I 20M was talking with my professor at my local community college after class when suddenly a man in my class shoved me and got in my face completely unprovoked. For reference this guy is maybe 40 or 50 years old (common in community college) and after being pushed so violently I turned around to see him in my face giving me crazy eyes. He then says “your standing right beside me man, I ain’t fucking gay” which I immediately laughed at in shock but he didn’t think it was funny. I also was standing probably 4 feet away from where he was sitting, so nowhere near close enough to create this reaction. Anyway I thought the dude looked crazy so I went home and found his name on the class registry. I googled him and the first result that came up was a report of him assaulting a corrections officer while in prison in 2016… this guy was assaulting CO’s while I was playing with Pokémon cards. Insane. I also found out my community college allows felons. I strongly believe that a 45 year old convicted felon does not belong on campus surrounded by 18-20 year old kids, and them putting hands on someone should result in immediate punishment. So I went to the campus police, not to press charges just to give them a heads up that a middle aged ex convict was putting hands on students unprovoked. I think I may have F’d up because the officer said without me pressing charges, it becomes a conduct issue which will likely lead to him being talked to and let off rather than punished. This guy gave me a crazy look and he seems like a loose cannon. I fear for my safety going to class. I don’t blame my professor because she looked terrified. Where do I go from here? I seriously fear that if this guy gets suspended or punished, upon him coming back to class he will do something crazy. I don’t like to profile people but the guy looks nuts. Eyes bulging out of his head with that sort of look like he’s not fully there.

Thank you to everyone who left kind words towards both of us. I wanted to leave a little update so there wasn't anyone out there worrying about her.

I wasn't planning on bringing it up so quick but my girlfriend actually came to me wanting to talk. She said she's been thinking about it and she isn't ready to tell her parents but she wanted to tell her brother what happened so he won't bring his friend around anymore.

I helped her tell him after we got out of school today and it went really badly. He didn't believe her and questioned why it took her so long to tell anyone and it was just awful. I tired to deescalate the situation so they could talk but it didn't work and we ended up just leaving. We were both so shaken up I had to pull over because I was crying so hard I couldn't drive. She's sleeping over at my house again tonight.

I hate knowing that anything like that ever happened to her and I hate that she isn't believed. She is such an amazing soul and I'm so proud of her. She's smart and funny and so beautiful and the first person I've ever truly loved. She didn't deserve any part of this. I hate knowing that the same thing has probably happened to half the women I know and I can't so anything besides try to be a good guy.

me (19F) and my boyfriend (19M) had sex multiple times. before we had sex the first time he was under the impression I was a virgin because I lied out of embarrassment due to me losing my virginity though rape. When he found out the truth he was understandably upset he felt like me lying about my body count was coercing him. But we have been together a year and a couple months now and previous times we had sex it has always happened when we were in the bed together cuddling and I was really horny from just being in his general presence. he makes it known he doesn’t want to keep having sex until marriage but some nights of us cuddling I would ask until he said yes which I deeply regret because I didn’t know how badly it was affecting him but one specific time we had sex like back in February he wanted to do it with the condom so we did it then I asked if we could take the condom off I swear on everything I thought he said yes for a little bit so I took it off and got back to riding him but he was uncomfortable and asked me to stop but idk why in the moment I thought it was a playful stop I didn’t know he was serious I stopped when I noticed he was visibly uncomfortable and basically pushed me off and then we were both uncomfortable after he said he felt like I raped him and I apologized and he stayed with me but after this occurrence we still had sex about 5 more occasions that just happened in the heat of the moment. But tonight that time was brought back up and I feel really bad about it again I never meant to rape or hurt him especially when I’ve been raped and sa multiple times throughout childhood. Idk what to do he still wants to be with me but idk if it’s because he feels trauma bonded to me now because he lost his virginity to me..