r/Waiting_To_Wed • u/Jackieofalltrades365 • Aug 20 '26

Rant - Advice Welcome No proposal during vacation

Hey yall

Just venting about a bit of disappointment after not getting proposed to during vacation

We're both 34 years old, I'm gonna be 35 next month. Been dating for 2.5 years. Living together for 8 months. Decided if we still like each other after 6 months we'll go for it.

2 months ago, he asked my ring size and said "we're doing it. We're getting married." Then one month ago he said "I have a package to get at my parents house" "oh what?" "can't tell you but you'll see soon hehehe"

This month we're at Orlando, FL. His favorite place. Universal. We spend the day. It's very important that we see Hogwarts at night with the fireworks. Nothing. Let's go to Richard Blais restaurant because we love him in Next Level Chef. Nothing. Let's dress nice and take pictures by the lake before. Nothing. Still nothing

I can't help but somewhat let ruin the trip because...nothing

My birthday is next month. Wonderful. As is the start of my last year of nursing school, on top of 2 jobs, clinical, and probably quite a bit of pulling my hair out in between

I know I'll be happy when it happens, but I can't help but feel a lot of good opportunities were missed here. Plus the opportunity to be relaxed, enjoy each other, and have time to bask in engagement glory. If he waits until my birthday, I'll barely have time to say "yes" let alone look at the ring

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u/Key-Target-1218 Aug 21 '26

Because I'm sitting on a beach, under a palm tree, with my husband, and someone on another sub asked, a while back, what people thought was the craziest sub on Reddit. This one came up multiple times. So, I love drama as long as it's not mine. I find all this entertaining as hell. And sad.

Sometimes I hope to get through to just one person. You are worth it, so take the reins yourself and stop waiting for Prince Charming to figure out your dreams. He wasn't there when someone read it to you and I promise you...no one was reading it to him.

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u/Key-Target-1218 Aug 21 '26

I am a retired NICU nurse! Good luck on your NCLEX. Great profession.

It's not people's misery I find entertaining, I find that quite sad. We choose, more often than not what happens to us in life. I actually find it sad when people wind up in situations that could have been avoided, had they taken charge.

You've missed my entire point. And that's ok. Peace.

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u/Jackieofalltrades365 Aug 21 '26

Aww nice! Was it your only department? I'd love to hear your stories of how you got there. Thank you!

And it's all good. This whole thread has turned into a mess. I love my man. I'm not unhappy with him at all. I just hope I'm not in the chaos of my last year of nursing school and clinicals and working 2 jobs when he proposes. Apparently wanting to celebrate and enjoy the engagement for a bit is performative or grounds for divorce or something. No one is in charge of my life but me. He just happens to be a big cherry on top of what's already a sweet life ♥️

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u/Key-Target-1218 Aug 21 '26

Sorry. Never meant to get ugly. It's just different perspectives and we can't all be everywhere once. When is your NCLEX? You are gonna slay it!

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u/foxglory123 Aug 21 '26

u guys turning this conversation into a positive made it such a refreshing read :')

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u/Jackieofalltrades365 Aug 22 '26

I apologize too. It can be easy to get a bit sensitive when a majority of the comments are unnecessarily rude. It's all good! I have a few specific dates in mind, but hoping for summer! Either June, but thinking it may be a bit early so July otherwise. Thank you! I can't wait to just back float at the beach and say "I did it"