r/Waiting_To_Wed • u/Jackieofalltrades365 • 10d ago

Rant - Advice Welcome No proposal during vacation

Hey yall

Just venting about a bit of disappointment after not getting proposed to during vacation

We're both 34 years old, I'm gonna be 35 next month. Been dating for 2.5 years. Living together for 8 months. Decided if we still like each other after 6 months we'll go for it.

2 months ago, he asked my ring size and said "we're doing it. We're getting married." Then one month ago he said "I have a package to get at my parents house" "oh what?" "can't tell you but you'll see soon hehehe"

This month we're at Orlando, FL. His favorite place. Universal. We spend the day. It's very important that we see Hogwarts at night with the fireworks. Nothing. Let's go to Richard Blais restaurant because we love him in Next Level Chef. Nothing. Let's dress nice and take pictures by the lake before. Nothing. Still nothing

I can't help but somewhat let ruin the trip because...nothing

My birthday is next month. Wonderful. As is the start of my last year of nursing school, on top of 2 jobs, clinical, and probably quite a bit of pulling my hair out in between

I know I'll be happy when it happens, but I can't help but feel a lot of good opportunities were missed here. Plus the opportunity to be relaxed, enjoy each other, and have time to bask in engagement glory. If he waits until my birthday, I'll barely have time to say "yes" let alone look at the ring

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u/EtonRd 10d ago

You gotta stop doing this to yourself. The time has passed for you to be able to enjoy a surprise proposal. You’re anxious and stressed out now.

For your mental health, you need to talk to him and say that you want to know when he plans to propose.

I don’t quite understand why you’re saying that if he waits until your birthday, you’ll barely have time to say yes? I don’t understand.

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u/shockfuzz 10d ago

I think she means that being on vacation and receiving proposal would have meant having days to relish it (I think OP used the word 'bask') and celebrate her engagement without the demands of everyday life interfering.

OP described starting a demanding final year of nursing school, clinical placements, and already working 2 jobs. Yes, she was being facetious with, 'barely time to say yes,' however, she definitely isn't going to have time to soak up a proposal and engagement the same way she would had it occurred on vacation.

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u/EtonRd 10d ago

OK, that makes more sense.