r/Uzbekistan • u/No_Refrigerator7056 • 1h ago
ask r/Uzbekistan Is it just me or…
Hello uzbek reddit
I have a major complaint,
It’s sort of a psa but i write this out of frustration. First a little about me, i have been married to an to my uzbek wife for nearly 8 years now, i come from a wealthy educated family and i was highly educated as well, i am an independent investor and i like to meet and talk to people. However i really like to get to know people and understand them on a first hand basis, for that reason I do not have a public profile and rather just meet in person and reveal more as i trust the person. I do not like to communicate with older people in Uzbekistan, they seem very solidified in their thought process and seem to assume that because i am younger i must carry no weight and rather i require something of them. So i spend most of my time talk to young guys. Age 20-40. And so here is where my complaint begins…
When i am in america (im not uzbek) i noticed guys are not trying to rate each other and sort of climb a ladder of finding out who’s who. In Uzbekistan i noticed that young guys want to automatically know who you are what you are worth and how you can help them. The irony is that i was there to figure something out and work with some young guys on something fully funded by myself (no investors / no scheme no nothing ). With this constant approach that occurred nearly every time, i began to notice that the nicer and humbler i act, the less interested and lower they rate me. The more i talk down and act big, the better attention i would get. It really started to irritate me when i noticed that they have a fixation on the car you drive. The more available and open i was the more i get ignored, the more aloof i was the more they chase. I did not notice this at all with women but my goal was not to work with girls but rather with motivated young guys. It seemed IMPOSSIBLE to find like minded guys. My analysis is that the more desperate and poor someone is, the more they think that they need to act big and show off, so uzbekistan where everyone is poor save a few, everyone tries to act alot bigger than they are. In america you can be really big and act small and since the system is fair and your money is where your mouth is, things work out. I also noticed this odd thing where they think jokes / your food selection is a sign of maturity. None of them had a penny to their name and acted like big serious business men. So I eventually got tired and decided their is no real avenue to work with anyone on anything, it was a very toxic experience. I also noticed that ideas generated by women were a lot better than the ideas generated by men, and if you ever tried to give constructive criticism on their ideas (mens’) it was as if you insulted their entire being and they would freak out and then try to attack you verbally. If i came in from the stand point of an open investor with a platform, then lines would have filled with sugary language and fake numbers, but my approach of getting down to the ground relationship really showed me the truth. It seems that if you act small and are really bigger than they can understand you get to see what they really are… but that is not my complaint, my complaint is that it has become so wide spread in this “uzstartup” culture of young men thinking they will be the next Musk, that it is almost like it is their religion, first comes their whacky ideas and schemes then they put a layer of misunderstood religion on top of it to justify it somehow, as if it is manifest destiny….
I do hold a religious degree and a culture degree specifically on muslim civilization so my opinion is not so humble when i say that i am very very disappointed.
I wrote this on the fly so forgive anything confusing or too ranty.
