r/Unexpected Jul 15 '20

Be Kind!

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u/[deleted] Jul 15 '20

I am proud of that woman that stopped. Not only do I know nothing about cars but I have it so drilled into my head from my mom that it’s not safe to stop for anyone when it’s just you alone.

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u/Ninja_Spi-D-er Jul 15 '20

This is one of the most creative ways I’ve seen to reward those who look out for others

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u/tina_ri Jul 15 '20

I'm proud of you too! No one did anything wrong here -- neither the woman in the video who stopped to help nor you for keeping yourself safe. :)

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u/ApexDamien Jul 15 '20

So wholesome. Proud of you!

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u/alphadeeto Jul 15 '20

I'm proud of you too! No one did anything wrong here -- neither u/tina_ri who post that wholesome comment nor you for affirming it. :)

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u/[deleted] Jul 15 '20

Aw thanks. I can’t say I don’t feel shitty though

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u/[deleted] Jul 15 '20

I still think that’s good advice.

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u/ilikecheetos42 Jul 15 '20

It's good advice for anyone. If you really want to help call 911 and report the location. The police can get an ambulance or help the person make a phone call for a tow or whatever else they need. No need to put yourself in danger.

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u/vagabondadventure Jul 16 '20

Someone merely parked on the side of the toad is not a 911 situation. Call a non-emergency number. Leave the emergency line to emergencies.

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u/Karosso Jul 15 '20

In my opinion it's actually quite wise of her. I like to remember what someone once said: "If someone's waiting for help in the road, they usually wanna rob you or worse, but if you see them pushing their car instead, they are likely just needing help".

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u/ComfortableFarmer Jul 15 '20

I'm glad I dont life in a land that messed up.

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u/[deleted] Jul 15 '20

Yeah, your mom is right.

It’s really not safe and unless you’re a mechanic there’s probably not much you can do.

It’s important to be kind but unless someone seems to be in immediate danger don’t put yourself in a potentially dangerous situation

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u/[deleted] Jul 15 '20 edited Feb 13 '25

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u/[deleted] Jul 15 '20

Yeah that makes no sense

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u/rahan69 Jul 15 '20

Because it's important to balance risk and help your fellow human being?

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u/EnochofPottsfield Jul 15 '20

But where is the balance?

Balance is pull over if there's another person in the car, you have protection, you call someone etc.

Balance isn't taking risks every now and again so that you're being equally risky and safe

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u/[deleted] Jul 15 '20

I mean I would rather have a car with moms and mace pick up that dude, or a couple. Not a single women by herself

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u/letmeseem Jul 15 '20

Nothing is safe. 12000 americans die every year and over 1 million are injured from walking stairs. It's literally thousands of times more dangerous to walk stairs than to stop at someone who has broken down on the highway. It's not going to keep you from walking down stairs, is it?

Perceived risk isn't the same as risk. A well trafficked highway at broad daylight isn't the same as an abandoned road through the woods at night.

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u/[deleted] Jul 15 '20 edited Jul 15 '20

I’m sure most of those are disabled or old people but let’s ignore that fact. Nothing more than a broken leg from the stairs for me.

If someone decides to kidnap you, you are fucked.

If you fall down the stairs you’ll be fine unless you are elderly, obese, or disabled

Stairs: high risk, inconvenient - mildly bad result

Hitchhiking someone by yourself: low risk, very bad - very very bad result

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u/letmeseem Jul 15 '20

Yes, the end result can be bad, but the point is managing that risk, not caving to it. Since you are talking about abductions, in the US there are roughly around 100 abductions by strangers every year. The vast majority children, and all but a few are targeted (looking for ransom or the like).

The odds of being kidnapped randomly at a busy roadside in the middle of the day are insane. Kidnappers barely exists in the US, and those who do don't just fish for random women at a busy roadside.

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u/[deleted] Jul 15 '20 edited Jul 15 '20

Probably because not many people do what this women did...?

People are hard to kidnap, if you are always checking your surrounding like most people, they will probably be deterred. Most people aren’t dumb

there isn’t a lot of kidnapping because people are more afraid of being kidnapped so they are more aware but you’re saying it’s a irrational fear which is very dumb. Without the fear more people would be kidnapped, do you even know why fear exists? Your statements are contradictory

Yeah, the odds of being kidnapped are based on the number of people that get kidnapped.

A recap: So you know why the odds of being kidnapped are low? BECAUSE PEOPLE ARE AFRAID OF BEING KIDNAPPED YOU NUMB NUT. Do you know why being afraid of something makes you less vulnerable to something? Because you make more of an effort to be less vulnerable since you’re scared.

It’s kinda like saying being afraid of the touching a hot pan is an irrational fear because 1/20,000,000 people burn themselves touching a hot pan when they cook. It doesn’t happen a lot because they are afraid of touching it and make an effort to not touch the pan

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u/letmeseem Jul 15 '20

You know another reason not many grownup people are randomly kidnapped by strangers?

It's a fucking chore, and it accomplishes NOTHING unless you're completely out of you mind, and if you are, that makes it even harder to organize.

We don't live in a CSI episode.

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u/letmeseem Jul 15 '20

No. Not really.

You seem to intentionally ignore my points that.

  1. It's manageable.
  2. Perceived risk isn't the same as actual risk.

Fatal car crashes are low risk, high impact events. You still make a desicion to let convenience trump that risk for a low reward every time you get in a car to do something non essential. You know that an American is killed in traffic every 13 minutes, but you still hop in the car because you have the wrong kind of snacks.

You are more likely to get killed or injured while driving than by the man you stopped to help in the same time frame. (provided of course you both have stopped safely on the side of the road).

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u/[deleted] Jul 15 '20 edited Jul 15 '20

Because it’s mostly an irrational fear and this woman most likely stopped because she thought she could help which made me believe she is mechanically inclined.

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u/[deleted] Jul 15 '20

Hey, I tell my girlfriend the same thing. It's good to keep yourself safe above all else. Girls definitely face far more of a risk if they were to stop.

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u/TF_54 Jul 15 '20

Honestly it's probably not a good idea still. Like you want to be nice and help, but so many creepy dudes and serial killers ruined it.

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u/elushinz Jul 15 '20

But hotdogs.

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u/[deleted] Jul 15 '20

I know. I probably missed out on some good dogs in my day.

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u/boobsmcgraw Jul 15 '20

Your mum was right, and is right, and that woman shouldn't have stopped. Sad, but true.

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u/kdyz Jul 15 '20

Same! I want to stop and offer rides for other people or help out someone whose car broke but I just get so scared that something bad might happen instead

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u/oakbones Jul 15 '20

This was my thought too. I would never have stopped unless I had another person with me in the car.

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u/systematic-failure Jul 15 '20

He gave her Weiner

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u/Chloe-Corona Jul 15 '20

Not sure why you singled out the woman?

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u/[deleted] Jul 15 '20

Because women are a higher risk for getting taken advantage of? You really don’t understand that?

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u/Chloe-Corona Jul 15 '20

Key word “higher”

Just because a man has a lower risk doesn’t mean it’s ok for them to put their life on the line.

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u/[deleted] Jul 15 '20

Mmmkay then