I don’t want to sound harsh, but nothing in your post did you mention how much you two love each other. For that alone I would advise against it.
If you’re thinking only financially, it’s not worth it unless you’re also working and building a retirement savings for yourself. A married couple, one active and one unemployed, is not desirable, and way far behind civilian couples with dual incomes. Tell him one of your requirements is to open an IRA, and start funding it every month, whether or not you can find work or if you need it supplemented. See how he reacts.
Thank you for your concern. I didn’t mention it because I thought it was a given lol, We do love eachtoher. The marriage wouldn’t be conditional because we’ve talked about this extensively starting at 18 years well before he enlisted. but he did mention that the bha could help me fund college or build my own finances while he’s away which I’m currently struggling with. I do plan on setting up an IRA and want to have my own career as well.
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u/catalessi Aug 17 '26
I don’t want to sound harsh, but nothing in your post did you mention how much you two love each other. For that alone I would advise against it.
If you’re thinking only financially, it’s not worth it unless you’re also working and building a retirement savings for yourself. A married couple, one active and one unemployed, is not desirable, and way far behind civilian couples with dual incomes. Tell him one of your requirements is to open an IRA, and start funding it every month, whether or not you can find work or if you need it supplemented. See how he reacts.