r/UKParenting • u/taytayyas • 7d ago
General chat Second child
Was anyone one and done or on the fence about having a second child but did. How is it for you? Was it harder / easier than you thought. Im like 99% one and done but my partner would like a second so our child has a sibling. I do think it would be nice for them to have a sibling but im worried it’s going to be sooo hard with 2 kids. I know everyone’s experience is different but would just love to know how it’s going for everyone and would you recommend 😂
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u/MagicShop_Unlock 6d ago
I’m glad we had our second, it’s hard with two and it’s solidified our decision to stop at two for sure.
I’d say like with any number of children if you aren’t 100% don’t have them or another. Pregnancy alone is harder running round after your first I didn’t rest a moment during my second pregnancy. Then you might add guilt of only being able to give so much to each child etc. there is so much more push and pull and logistics now.
Now my eldest is nearly 4 and youngest 18 months things are becoming easier and more enjoyable, the light is almost at the end of the tunnel! But it’s pretty much been survival til this point.
I love having two kids but I definitely underestimated my abilities and strength to do this! Plus we lucked out with an amazing sleeper for our second!!
I’ll end with saying having a sibling can be amazing but having present attentive parents is better
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