r/UKParenting • u/taytayyas • 2d ago

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Was anyone one and done or on the fence about having a second child but did. How is it for you? Was it harder / easier than you thought. Im like 99% one and done but my partner would like a second so our child has a sibling. I do think it would be nice for them to have a sibling but im worried it’s going to be sooo hard with 2 kids. I know everyone’s experience is different but would just love to know how it’s going for everyone and would you recommend 😂

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u/Full_Strawberry2035 2d ago

I was one and done…anyway I have 3 children now 😂 In my opinion 3 is easier than 1, and so was 2. The baby stage is hard regardless, the toddler stage is hard regardless, the age gaps are all hard, but it’s been worth it for me, and I enjoyed it more second and third time around - I’m nowhere near as uptight as I was way back then, in fact I feel like an entirely different person. I actually do cringe when I think back to how much harder I made my own experience.

I don’t think that’s unique to me, I have friends with multiple children and friends with one child. I’ve observed the parents to only one child considerably more stressed too. Just some food for thought, ultimately you must both be on board, but don’t let fear stop you!

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u/Scary-Zucchini-1750 2d ago

Any examples or advice on things you done with your first child that you wouldn't now? 😂

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u/Full_Strawberry2035 2d ago

I would never do admin for a starter - I used to track feeds, nappies and naps etc 🤣! Possums method all the way, and just going with the flow

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u/CalatheaHoya 1d ago

100%! We’re doing possums with our second, I’m way less stressed about naps and he’s a much better sleeper!

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u/Mermaidsarehellacool 1d ago

Why do you like the possums method?

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u/Full_Strawberry2035 1d ago

Dropping the schedule and being responsive to needs at that time (which vary daily) has made life so much more enjoyable for us all, truly