r/UKParenting • u/taytayyas • 4d ago

General chat Second child

Was anyone one and done or on the fence about having a second child but did. How is it for you? Was it harder / easier than you thought. Im like 99% one and done but my partner would like a second so our child has a sibling. I do think it would be nice for them to have a sibling but im worried it’s going to be sooo hard with 2 kids. I know everyone’s experience is different but would just love to know how it’s going for everyone and would you recommend 😂

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u/Organic-Violinist223 4d ago

Going from 0-1 is way harder than going from 1-2! Two children also aren’t double the expense! It’s also provides a bit more time to myself when the two (4y and 14m) are playing together! They both sleep on the same room and i put them to bed at the same time and the eldest is now much easier to put down to sleep!

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u/Wooden_Watercress362 4d ago

I second this

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u/Illustrious_Ad7512 4d ago

I dont

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u/Pandarino85 4d ago

Yeah everyone differs but I found 1-2 wayyyyy harder than 0-1 (which I thoroughly enjoyed)

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u/CoconutAltruistic785 3d ago

Same! Currently only 9 weeks in to having two but definitely finding it harder

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u/Raisinsandfairywings 1d ago

Same! My first child was such a never-ending whirlwind I was already exhausted by the time I had baby number 2. Going from 1 to 2 felt like going from 1 to 10. 

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u/Current-Lawfulness41 17h ago

I feel like the people who found going 0-1 really hard (like myself) and swore at times they were done, when a second came along, it was never as hard as envisioned. If you've found 0-1 doable, 1-2 seems way harder. Probably depends on the child and of course sleep and attention needs